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I retired four years ago and while it was an adjustment, nope I don't miss it. I miss the creative part of the job and some the teachers and parents I worked with. I do sub a day or two now and then and I enjoy speaking with teachers and time spent with children. I'm appalled at the changes that have come along since I left the profession and I'm disappointed at the lack of work ethic I see in many teachers.

I love sailing by the dollar bins at Target without a thought of holiday pencils and little treasures for the reward box!

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Ucan 10-30-2017 03:38 PM

I'm in my third year of retirement and feel that I'm still recovering from having worked with some of the worse kind of people - aides, teachers, principals, assistant principals, psychologists. You name it and I've probably experienced it! No, there's not much that I miss.

I do highly recommend that new retirees with a bit of time and energy on their hands go out and experience something completely different. For me, that meant working part-time in the private sector in a store that is part of a huge supermarket chain. My job allows me to get to know everyone in every department. I love going behind the scenes learning how such a single successful store can net a whopping $1.5 million per week! After leaving a career in which friendly co-workers were almost non-existent and yearly goals were never achieved, it was refreshing to finally work for a successful company among fellow employees who always greet each other with, "How are you doin'?" Some will call my name with a big smile from across the store to say "Hi!" and others like to call me by friendly nicknames that they've chosen for me! I'm always amazed that working stiffs who earn just $15-25 an hour all seem to enjoy their jobs so much.

I understand that my previous public sector career was in a field run by people who were not accountable to any bottom line. Fortunately, I now get to witness first-hand what can be accomplished when things are done right. I sometimes try to imagine a school run by my current employer.

Munchkins 10-29-2017 03:26 AM

(((Hugs)))

I'm sorry you are struggling. I'm not retired yet, but am in my "detaching phase" of teaching. I know that I will need to keep myself occupied so I don't sit around and brood. One of my thoughts was to go to the local "high end" supermarket and work as a barista at their coffee bar. My ds does that now and enjoys the company of the others as he works. A teacher friend of mine works part time at kohls. They value their mature employees for their work ethic. Maybe a part time job will get you out of the house enough so you feel connected somewhere else. I will probably sub in a local school where my ds went. I don't think I'll miss my current school since my belove P retired. The new guy- I can leave without a backwards glance.

I hope you find something soon that you look forward to doing. But don't work too hard- you are retired, after all!

spiritcenter 10-18-2017 05:56 AM

Hi Cvt,
Thanks so much for your response, and indeed I am feeling all that you mentioned. For me, I don't have a DH or children, so I sit here by myself struggling to figure out a new life for myself. I have signed up to volunteer and will take classes, etc., but right now I am in a funk and missing everything that was familiar and safe to me.

I was just on a trip to Africa and it was wonderful and I hope to do more of that.

I sub just to have some connections with others, but it's not the same. Ugh! I feel so darn lost....

Lynn

teachwonder 10-17-2017 12:39 PM

You go girl!! You are inspirational! And your words are also true and well said.

Carolyn 10-17-2017 10:04 AM

I could have written your post. What I keep reminding myself is that these are the latter years of my life. How do I want to spend them? Having a good time, or worrying about paperwork, attending stupid staff meetings that are often meaningless, and getting up at 5:30? I know that teaching is great. It provides you with a family. They are often your friends. Your life changes, but in a good way. Think of the things you can do now that you couldn't when you were teaching. I think of going to Dollywood in mid-November. I went on a cruise in late September. We drive to the mountains to enjoy the fall foliage or head for the beach at a moment's notice. After I left teaching, I decided that I would be "lean and mean." I eat healthier, go on two-mile walks after breakfast with my husband and lift weights. My weight has returned to the same weight that I was when I was in college.

cvt 10-16-2017 07:51 PM

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I welcome any suggestions you all might have for moving on and finding new opportunities.
It must be very hard to change gears when your entire identity was wrapped up in teaching. I have seen it with friends, mostly men whose career was their life and who are at a loss after they retire or are laid off and realize they are not able to find work in their field again. Their wives complain that their husbands are following them around the house like a puppy dog or just sit on the sofa and watch TV all day long.

I have found that women are often much more resilient. spiritcenter, in your case you are grieving your loss of identity, and it may take a while, but you will come out of it and realize how great life can be after teaching. When you are saying that you are looking at other options, do you mean that you are looking for another job? Some people here on the retirement board have done just that. They are using their skills in other jobs or volunteer positions. I myself spent my first two years doing a few long-term subbing stints for my colleagues who knew they could trust me, and I also did some part-time mentoring of new teachers in the district. At some point I realized that I was no longer interested in teaching and found the freedom to pursue lots of different things.

Since I retired I have traveled more than ever in my life, I have made some great new friends through the YMCA Zumba and Happy Feet dance classes, I am part of a walking group, do volunteer tutoring of foreign scholars and their spouses, attend lectures at the nearby university (I am also planning to join Osher Lifelong Learning Institute in January), I completely changed my diet and am so much healthier and fit than when I was teaching, have started writing my memoirs, am translating the memoirs of two elderly family members, and so much more.

Hang in there!
spiritcenter 10-16-2017 01:40 PM

I do miss teaching because I don't have a significant other or kids of my own. My work was my meaning, purpose, and identity. I have only been retired since May and am looking at other options, but right now I am feeling like a fish out of water. I welcome any suggestions you all might have for moving on and finding new opportunities. I keep getting stuck in the past and having regrets. It's good for me to check in on the board and know that I will find my new life. I miss the kiddos, but not the paperwork or the increasing demands that caused so much stress in my life.

Carolyn 10-15-2017 04:26 PM

I was very happy to read all of your responses. Iíve been active since I left teaching. Eating out for lunch. Guilt-free shopping in the afternoon. Travel during non-peak times. Getting up out of bed when I want to. Itís been great. Iím glad to hear that all of you are having such positive experiences.

Shelby3 10-15-2017 08:29 AM

I retired four years ago and while it was an adjustment, nope I don't miss it. I miss the creative part of the job and some the teachers and parents I worked with. I do sub a day or two now and then and I enjoy speaking with teachers and time spent with children. I'm appalled at the changes that have come along since I left the profession and I'm disappointed at the lack of work ethic I see in many teachers.

I love sailing by the dollar bins at Target without a thought of holiday pencils and little treasures for the reward box!

travelingfar 10-15-2017 06:28 AM

No, nope, no thank you. Teaching was a wonderful career for a long time, but the final few years were dreadful. I didn't get into teaching to prepare kids for testing, administer numerous assessments, analyze data, deal with entitled parents, and attend tons of useless professional development sessions. I am delighted to be finished with all of that nonsense.

I'm in a new phase of my life now and am enjoying it a great deal.

BioAdoptMom3 10-14-2017 08:42 PM

I loved the career, the kids and the families. I loved directing the chorus and serving as a union rep for several years, but the direction in which its going now, plus the level of burn out I had when I left, nope, do not miss it at all!

Nancy

fish2 10-14-2017 10:50 AM

Miss it? No. Not the way it was the last few years I taught, and the way it's heading now. I do miss the friends I worked with, I hear a lot from them still so I know what's going on at school, even 800 miles away. That knowledge adds to the list of reasons I'm glad I'm retired.

Irish 10-14-2017 07:52 AM

H E double hockey sticks, no!

Renea 10-14-2017 06:59 AM

I loved teaching and many of my coworkers. I didn't enjoy the endless paperwork, data, and politics. I don't miss teaching at all. I've replaced it with tutoring adults and reading and find that very rewarding.

readbks2 10-14-2017 06:33 AM

NO!!!!

I was out of the classroom for the last 15 years, so I worked with small groups in a room about 1/3 the size of the classrooms. Crazy, but I never missed teaching, but I did miss my room! I loved my setup with my desk and computer in one corner, and sink, microwave and fridge across the room. My reading table was in front of a white board on the wall, and I had kids books all over. I had a walk-in closet for storage. Many teachers stopped by my room each day, and I enjoyed that! What is wrong with me?? My room felt like a safe place, and when I was by myself, it would calm me, when the school drama got too much.

joyfulcalm 10-14-2017 03:27 AM

I'm now in my 5th year of retirement, and I don't miss teaching--and haven't since the day I walked out the door. It almost makes me feel a bit of guilt--that I've been SO happy to be retired. But then I quickly remember how I put SO much time, energy, heart & soul into my teaching and my kids over the years. It was a high needs school, and it was a burden of love for sure--but it was the right time for me to retire and leave that burden of love to others. I continue to feel so relieved and joyful. Well, I was joyful before, but sometimes I really had to WORK at putting the joy in each day, if that makes sense. Now, the joy comes naturally. Even when life hands me a challenge (as it does for all of us), I always think "Well, at least I don't have to deal with teaching, meetings, observations, etc. today." .... Having said all of this, I still thoroughly enjoy volunteer tutoring, just 2 mornings a week at a neighborhood school. I love helping on MY terms--and then walking out that door.

MKat 10-13-2017 07:57 PM

I do miss teaching, but I left early (at 55) due to simply knowing I had to get out of a toxic work environment. I also had family that need me (elderly parents) and we can live without the income, so it was just a no brainer. Now I go to my part time job with no responsibility. I miss the kids. I miss the creativity. But I don't miss the STRESS and the constant "you're not doing it right" messages being sent by admin and also by a new breed of parents.

annie_g 10-13-2017 07:38 PM

1956BD expressed my feelings exactly! This is my first year of retirement, and at the beginning of the school year I felt a little sad. But now thatís itís been a couple of months, Iím feeling better all the time.

emptynester54 10-13-2017 07:38 PM

I do not miss teaching. I was so tired, by the time I quit after 37 years, I had little strength to give. I was not in poor health, but our very-low-income first-graders taxed me greatly.

I do volunteer work---help kids with homework and read one-on-one to a child---and other fun things I haven't had time for in years past. My mind and body needed a rest.

readbooks 10-13-2017 07:17 PM

I miss seeing the little minds tick, the aaha moments, using my favorite lessons, finding new fun lessons to try. I miss knowing all the new programs ( I need to stop looking at my grade level board), knowing about all the new children's books. I miss my Co teachers and reading to kids.

That being said I LOVE being an hour instead of 10 hours away from our kids and grandkids. I love reading in bed every morning, going on long daytime walks, shopping and browsing, new hobbies, walking out of the school I volenteer in without any papers to correct.

I do, and think I always will, miss teaching but I am surprising myself with how much I'm enjoying this new life too.

GlacierRose 10-13-2017 04:44 PM

I don't miss it at all.

lisa53 10-13-2017 04:39 PM

I loved being a teacher and I love teaching. I still teach, but not always in a high school classroom like I did for 40 years.

-I am a docent at a museum.
-I sub in my subject area.
-I teach a field ecology class to high school kids in the summer...outdoors.
-I am in the planning stages to teach Osher (lifelong learning) classes at a local Ivy League college
-I get together with the neighborhood kids from time to time to explore things like solar eclipses, how toilets work, abstract art, and the rules of football.

All these teaching experiences satisfy my joy of teaching requirement. Only subbing requires me to get up at 5 am. I never have to worry about behavior problems, problem parents, or grading papers.

I think retirement is wonderful!

MathWA 10-13-2017 03:33 PM

I truly loved teaching at my beloved low income school but when I left...I left. I occasionally have fleeting thoughts about my school or fellow staffers but I dont have regrets or miss it. Im just on to the rest of my life and it is good.

juliet4 10-13-2017 01:56 PM

Sometimes, yes, I certainly miss the children, my friends, the routine. I was sad that first fall four years ago. For many reasons. My teaching career ended on a high note, which helped the transition. I have subbed and done some naep testing. I enjoyed both but now am busy with grandchildren, sports and life. I think by year two or three I had eased into my new life. Are we not lucky to have had such wonderful careers that we would miss them so much! You will understand as well as metamorphize with time...

ConnieWI 10-13-2017 01:45 PM

For the first two years after I retired, I subbed about two to three days per week, and also did some long-term sub jobs in the library.

Then the third year, I subbed for an interventionist and I was hooked.

For the past four years, I have worked as a reading and math interventionist four days per week, 4.5 hours per day from the second week of September to mid-May. I do not have to do parent conferences, Open House, attend staff meeting, or do formal report cards..although the twenty-four reports I write twice per year are two pages in fourteen font for each student.

I love this job...love working with one to four students who are with me for thirty minutes...love seeing progress of students who used to fall between the cracks.

If I was not doing this interventionist job or subbing, I would definitely miss teaching!

jjwires 10-13-2017 01:32 PM

I don't miss any aspect of teaching. Haven't been back to school either. Since I taught 43 years I've moved on to different friends & activities. I do miss reading aloud to children.

Cassyree 10-13-2017 01:23 PM

No. I have fond memories of teaching, but I don't miss it or want to return to the classroom.

At the beginning, I missed the people I enjoyed being with daily. That was six years ago. My life is now full of other things and people-and some of the same people-so I don't miss the companionship and busyness of it at all. I'm really a very happy retiree.

mhugs 10-13-2017 11:47 AM

I do miss the creative part of teaching, although that was being eroded away with the CCSS. Expectations were put on 1st graders that were not based on sound developmental practices.

I get mad when I look on the website and see the new teacher got the new furniture I had asked/begged/pleaded for at least 10 years. Oh well....

I miss having a place to escape to when DH is driving me bonkers. School was 5 minutes away and peaceful on a Saturday afternoon.

canteach 10-13-2017 11:28 AM

Of course, I have never set foot inside my former school again after I drove away that final day.

I have to say the school themed dreams/nightmares have really hit me hard in the past month. I sure wish those would stop.

Agree with 1956BD. Any nostalgia is quickly cured by remembering all the frustrations mentioned, plus listening to the comments made by dear friends who are still in the trenches due to late life children still in the nest and needing an income to pay for their college/bills.

What I really enjoy is driving by any school in session during the day and smiling as I think about all the hard work they are doing, but I am not.

Catdog12 10-13-2017 11:25 AM

Nope
Nope
Again, nope.

But, my grandchildren 7, 9, 12 get the best part of me as a teacher! Whenever, and that is very seldom, I do miss it, I call up the grandkids and teach them something. Right now, the 12 year old and I are working on cooking skills.

1956BD said it very well for me.

1956BD 10-13-2017 11:14 AM

in the purest sense. By that I mean I miss planning with my terrific team and then teaching the lessons to well behaved students who want to learn.

I wish there was a place to do that. I do not miss dealing with behavior problems, difficult parents, report cards, paperwork, meetings, boring professional development, back to school night, curriculum night.... You get the idea.

So whenever I start to miss the art of teaching I remind myself of all that goes with that pleasure. Then I do not feel that sad anymore.

Plus, I have a great volunteer teaching job. I teach after school Bible lessons in a national program called "Kids Beach Club". Beach is just the theme. So, for two hours every Tuesday afternoon during the school year I get to be a teacher again to third, fourth and fifth graders. I feel very blessed. It really helps to not miss teaching too much.

amiga13 10-13-2017 11:02 AM

I spent the first 15 months of my retirement as a caregiver for DH. I didnít miss it then and I donít miss it now that Iím ďguiltily liberated.Ē I loved teaching and recall it fondly, but Iím on to the next steps in my life journey. Nope, donít miss it.

Carolyn 10-13-2017 10:16 AM

I know that a lot of people eagerly embrace leaving teaching and going off into the sunset for their retirement. I did that, but recently I was looking at our school's webpage and a huge feeling of nostalgia swept over me. I had a feeling of missing school, the kids, the life as a teacher.




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