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I still can't believe it. I have until early next week to make up my mind. Who woulda thunk it, especially at my age? (smile!)

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NancyLee 11-17-2019 05:28 PM

Tell me about your job at the library!

NancyLee 11-17-2019 05:20 PM

It is a tremendous compliment to be offered a job just as you are retiring. No wonder you were considering it. No shame there. I hope you have a wonderful transition into retirement - how is it going so far?

GdHrtdTchr 08-01-2019 01:56 PM

G8rFan's post made me think of this T-Shirt I saw. It said:
Retired Teacher: Every Child Left Behind
For those of us who remember THAT phase of politicians mandating education for the worse.

To the OP and others who took the time to share their wisdom I thank you. I am at a point where I need to at least start learning about all of these retirement policies.

TchrFvr 07-30-2019 07:17 PM

...whether I agree with them or not (smile!)
I think I will be able to enjoy retirement more sometime in the future. I am dealing with my dad's diagnosed (as of today) Alzheimer's and the complications in our lives lately due to caring for him and his wife (also dementia.) But I'm beginning to see progress toward adjusting to retirement. For example, my hubby and I took a few days off last week to go to a wedding, and we had a lovely time. We read books and swam and ate and walked and visited history museums (once a teacher...(smile!)) It was really nice to "slow down" for a few days.
I joined his health club so I could go swimming with him...he's been wanting me to do this for years, but I wouldn't, mostly due to not wanting to be seen in a bathing suit (problem solved - I got one of the two piece suits with pants to the knees and top like a t-shirt - looks good and I don't feel the least bit conspicuous. It's SO nice to be "old" sometimes - turns out no one cares what I wear (grin!))
I am volunteering on Saturdays at a thrift shop for three hours in the morning - it's nice to have time and energy to do that.
So...I'm making progress. It's just tough after a lifetime of thinking one way to start switching to thinking another way. Your posts have been truly helpful, and I've read them from before you retired to after...thank you for sharing your journey!

amiga13 07-29-2019 06:56 AM

I think that part of my wanting to take the job is that I don't want to think that my working life is essentially over. I've never not worked. It makes me feel "old" (which I guess I am (smile!)) and maybe "useless" to not work. So maybe I'm wanting this job because I'm feeling sorry for myself (wry smile!) Anyone else have these thoughts when you retired?
Do you only want posts which affirm your thinking? If so, read no further.

I wish you’d give yourself a chance to enjoy retirement. Think of it as moving on to a new phase, not better or worse, just different. Be willing to grow a new life.

The parts of your posts that bother me the most are the references to usefulness and age. It’s easy to be useful if that’s what you want. Volunteer. Help others. Here comes my selfish retirement: I’m enjoying uselessness. I still want to accomplish, but I like not having others dependent on me all the time. And here’s the real reason I wish you’d give retirement a chance: I feel 20 years younger.

Good luck!
broomrider 07-13-2019 11:01 AM

is tied to what we do. It's an adjustment to be/do something different after putting so much time, energy, and cash into teaching.

Any transition is difficult but also allows us to become another self. You will find your way through this change just as you transitioned to college student, to teacher, to wife, etc. Remember how you managed to become in all your previous new lives and give yourself the time to change once again.

This is the good part you've worked for all these years.

You are allowed to enjoy.

ElemEd 07-10-2019 06:32 PM

It is so nice to have options. Glad that you saw your way through to the best choice for you. Wishing you all the best with retirement.

lisa53 07-10-2019 01:50 AM

I had a similar experience to Stargazer, and was grateful to have time to spend with my dh before he passed. You never know what may happen, but it sounds like having some time with your dad would be a blessing to both of you.

I need something concrete to do with my time. I have a few activities I do every week: some fitness classes, a couple of knitting groups, a prayer group. I also have two seasonal/part time jobs. I am a tour guide one or two days per week at a local historical museum (it closes in the winter), and I am a "substitute library assistant" at the local library. My commute is five minutes (by car to the museum, on foot to the library).

I have plenty of free time, and both jobs are flexible so I can travel if I like. You can make retirement be whatever suits you.

ASAM 07-09-2019 07:45 PM

During my first summer after retirement, I realized I did not like the idea of not working at all so I applied for many jobs that I found on indeed. I now work part time at the library and teach a water fitness class 2 evenings a week. I thoroughly enjoy my days off because not every day is a day off. I think retirement should be what you want it to be. You can rejoin the work force, volunteer or happily do nothing.

aggie'swife 07-09-2019 11:04 AM

Tchrfvr - I know most everyone says retirement is great. A few may feel a little out of sorts, so I too am having trouble. I guess I need somewhat of a routine for me or maybe it is a schedule.

I came across this blog that seems to help. You will need to scroll back to the very beginning of her blog as that is where she talks about the adjustment for her (and her husband) when he retired, even though she had been retired two years.

I just found it, so I am only through the first year, but so far her struggles makes some sense to me. I do like her idea of making lists of what they want to do and then reassessing those lists as desires change. Some entries really didn't catch my attention, but most did.

And I did want to say, that I knew a lady that retired a couple years ago, but the district had a homebound teacher opening and she took that position as it was very part-time.

I (personally) do want the freedom to go help my children with grandchildren, so I won't be taking a part-time job unless it is on-line or very flexible and science related, as family time was one of my big reasons to retire.

Does anyone else write a blog?

TchrFvr 07-09-2019 06:50 AM

I've decided, reluctantly, not to take the job. While I'd have loved the challenge, the commute (at least 1 1/2 hours each way, by train and commute van) and the job itself keeping me away from home for so long is just too much. The bottom line is that I do not want to leave my hubby dealing with my dad (advancing dementia) all by himself.

After I let them know, the department chair sent a lovely note saying that if circumstances change, to please let her know asap, leaving the door open, which was nice.

Hubby was so good as I thought my way through this decision, never once insisting that I don't take it, just talking me through it. He is very happy that I didn't take it, but wanted it to be fully my decision. I am so lucky to have him as my partner!

I think that part of my wanting to take the job is that I don't want to think that my working life is essentially over. I've never not worked. It makes me feel "old" (which I guess I am (smile!)) and maybe "useless" to not work. So maybe I'm wanting this job because I'm feeling sorry for myself (wry smile!) Anyone else have these thoughts when you retired?

TchrFvr 07-09-2019 06:31 AM

How hard that was for you! I'm so glad you had the time that you had, when you retired, to be together...

Star-Gazer 07-09-2019 04:00 AM

Not to be a downer, but you said your husband was older than you. My husband got sick,6 months after I retired and died 11 months later. If I had been working I would have missed those last few months together. We were able to take a few good trips together even after he got sick. I wouldn’t change those few months together for all the money in the world. Good luck in your decision.

travelingfar 07-08-2019 02:14 PM

Maybe you could sub for now if you're not quite ready to fully retire.

anna 07-08-2019 09:35 AM

Congratulations to you and I am sure that the offer gave much appreciated kudos to your skills

amiga13 07-06-2019 06:55 AM

TchrFvr, what a lovely person you are to consider all responses. I wish you great good luck!

TchrFvr 07-06-2019 06:09 AM

I am getting such good advice and wonderful questions here! Thank you so much, everyone!
I think that if I could get it to be a part time position I'd probably do it, but that doesn't appear to be a possibility.
I don't need the money desperately, or I wouldn't have retired in the first place, but we've had a couple of unexpected large property repairs in the past few months that are draining our savings accounts, so I love the idea of padding those accounts back up. It makes me nervous that we are spending done those accounts for the repairs because I have to live off those accounts until I reach pension age in about six months and Social Security full retirement age in about a year and a half. I don't plan to take SS until then, so this job wouldn't impact my SS earnings. Hubby is getting both his pension and his SS.
I retired because my hubby is many years older than I am, and he finally wanted to, so we did. We have a new administration at our school which is making it very difficult for the whole staff, and we dealt with it for four years. Then we finally realized that we don't have to "deal with it" anymore because we can afford to retire. I'd have liked to work a few more years (one and a half for sure!) but when the time came that he had "had it" we took the opportunity to retire.
This job sure would be a challenge, both in the type of kids and classes, and the commute (which will be a very tough one!) I like challenges! But more and more as I read through your comments and thoughts, and listen to my hubby, I'm thinking that even if I wanted to teach again, I probably shouldn't take a job with such challenges. I'd prefer to do part time, maybe three days a week, and in a place much closer to home so the commute wouldn't be so bad.
I can hardly thank you all enough for your thoughts and comments. They are really helping me think!

g8rFan 07-06-2019 05:18 AM

It would be a solid NO for me. I just retired from teaching this past May. I personally have zero desire to do anything with kids now, even subbing. I will definitely need to keep busy, and may even get a part-time job, but it will not involve teaching.

Best wishes to you as you make your decision!

amiga13 07-06-2019 05:01 AM

Why did you retire?
I wonder the same thing as aggie’swife only I’ll say more: why retire if you need the money and want to continue working? It’s hard for me to believe that you’d make more in a new position than you would have continuing for another year in your old one.

And I agree with many others that you need to be very careful about investigating the local, state, and federal fiscal implications of returning to teaching after retiring from teaching. Please be careful so you don’t wind up working for very little take-home-pay.
jov 07-05-2019 10:08 AM

We have a pension but no Social Security for teachers in my state.

During the first calendar year after retirement, if working in any public school within the state, we can only earn the difference between our pension and the current salary for that position. After one year, we can earn that same difference plus $15,000.

There are no limits on earnings from work in private schools or public schools in other states.
Sorry, I hope your state doesn't work this way! Good luck!

broomrider 07-05-2019 08:46 AM

Social security takes 50% of your benefits for earning over a specified amount if you are less than full retirement age, 1/3 if you are full retirement age. And you still pay income tax on earnings.

Pensions can also be adversely effected.

jks 07-05-2019 07:32 AM

This happened to my DH also. He was able to negotiate a position where he worked 60 percent of the time. It was a high school job and he started during second period (9:30 am)instead of first period.( 7:50 am) He also was not required to attend meetings and such, although he did participate in the parent open house. It really was a nice job, except after a couple of years he was ready to stop completely.

aggie'swife 07-05-2019 06:56 AM

Why did you retire?

Tori58 07-05-2019 06:02 AM

i agree that you need to be sure that you're not going to be losing money in the deal. I can't work a full time job in a school system that participates in the state teacher retirement system without having my retirement benefit suspended, but I can work up to 65% time, or I can work 100% time if I split it between two or more districts or I can work 100% time but only for 2/3 of the year. I had to complete a 75 day break-in-service, as well, which means I wouldn't have been able to sign a contract in July.

I would not want to make a difficult commute for a part time job. However, I gather you didn't apply for this job - they contacted you? If they want you badly enough you may be able to negotiate an advantageous deal.

LaFish 07-05-2019 06:00 AM

To hear your decision. It is a great compliment to be offered a job just as you retire. Let’s us know what you decide.

TchrFvr 07-05-2019 05:53 AM

I am having a hard time making up my mind. It's summer and I love the time off, but will I love the time off when it's ALL the time? I've never experienced that in my whole life. It's hard to predict the unknown...I need a crystal ball (wry smile!)

TchrFvr 07-05-2019 05:51 AM

This is something important to look into - thank you!

travelingfar 07-05-2019 04:14 AM

That would be a no for me. I wouldn't like an awful commute, and I can't imagine delaying retirement. But if it is something you want to do, by all means go for it.

lisa53 07-05-2019 02:30 AM

Before you say yes, double check the rules regarding your pension if you have one. You may not be able to work and take pension or social security at the same time. That may or may not matter to you, but it's important to be aware, and may factor in your decision.

TchrFvr 07-04-2019 06:23 PM

I still can't believe it. I have until early next week to make up my mind. Who woulda thunk it, especially at my age? (smile!)

NJ Teacher 07-04-2019 04:56 PM

Wow. You'll have to let us know what you decide to do.

TchrFvr 07-04-2019 03:09 PM

I just retired...and just now got offered a job teaching in a wonderful school district. It would be an awful commute, though, and I worry about my hubby (we retired together.) would be great to build up that vacation bank account...and it would only be for one year...decisions, decisions...

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