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Why is it that parents who routinely send rude/belligerent/abusive e-mails to teachers and/or feel entitled to raise their voices to teachers are the quickest to complain to administration about the tone of a teacher's message or the way in which a teacher spoke to them or their child? I had a parent complain to me that a teacher was "condescending and dismissive" and demand that I take the case to administration. They appeared to be looking for some sort of discipline for the teacher. This parent has a history of sending nasty, abusive e-mails to teachers and yelling on the phone and (in at least one case) of slamming the phone down in anger. Classic case of "you can dish it out, but you can't take it." When I called the parent on the apparent double standard, the parent said, "Don't even. I pay his salary. He doesn't pay mine." Nice attitude.

I'm really getting tired of the idea that, well, it's unfortunate when parents are rude/threatening/abusive, but we can't really do anything about it. Sorry, but you need to teach people how to treat you, and as a profession, we've taught parents that we will never hold them to the same standard of courtesy to which we adhere.

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Discussion Review (newest messages first)
eagles23 04-04-2019 06:57 PM

I had a parent pull the 'we pay a lot of money' line today because she isn't happy because her snowflake has too much work. Bless, he has the same amount as every other student.

dutchgirl 04-04-2019 04:15 PM

A coworker had a parent use the ‘I pay your salary’ line. She took out a quarter and gave it to him, and said, “Here’s your quarter.” I’ve had times where I’ve had a quarter in my pocket at conferences, just waiting to use it! But yeah, parents think that because you’re a public employee, they are your boss. Private school probably is worse!

I wonder how these parents talk to doctors, lawyers, plumbers, electricians, and others who provide any type of service they need.

Teacher_twins 04-04-2019 05:19 AM

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I pay his salary. He doesn't pay mine.
One of the perks of working in a public school is you can use the comeback "yeah, I do too."

Gets them stumped every time
Lakeside 04-04-2019 02:36 AM

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When I called the parent on the apparent double standard, the parent said, "Don't even. I pay his salary. He doesn't pay mine." Nice attitude.
And that is what is wrong with our society today.
ElizabethJoy 04-03-2019 09:02 PM

A parent was once quite rude to me. My boss spoke with her and the mother apologised to me!

I'm thankful for good admin. IMO, as soon as a parent is aggressive, the conversation should end immediately, and only resume when another witness is present.

Angelo 04-03-2019 08:11 PM

Why is it that parents who routinely send rude/belligerent/abusive e-mails to teachers and/or feel entitled to raise their voices to teachers are the quickest to complain to administration about the tone of a teacher's message or the way in which a teacher spoke to them or their child? I had a parent complain to me that a teacher was "condescending and dismissive" and demand that I take the case to administration. They appeared to be looking for some sort of discipline for the teacher. This parent has a history of sending nasty, abusive e-mails to teachers and yelling on the phone and (in at least one case) of slamming the phone down in anger. Classic case of "you can dish it out, but you can't take it." When I called the parent on the apparent double standard, the parent said, "Don't even. I pay his salary. He doesn't pay mine." Nice attitude.

I'm really getting tired of the idea that, well, it's unfortunate when parents are rude/threatening/abusive, but we can't really do anything about it. Sorry, but you need to teach people how to treat you, and as a profession, we've taught parents that we will never hold them to the same standard of courtesy to which we adhere.




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