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Wait, your friend wants you to fix his crazy wife? Not your problem.

Move on and let her be as mad as she wants!

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ICrazyTeach 09-03-2019 04:45 PM

And my "friend" (her husband)had the gall to tell me I needed to fix it.
OK. She may be crazy and he may put up with it. Fine. But him telling you to fix it is absolutely not OK

Ugh. Seriously. I have no patience for "she didn't say hi to me" whiny crap. Sorry you have to deal with it.
Renea 09-03-2019 10:40 AM

I'd steer clear of both the husband and his wife. It's unreasonable of the husband to think that you can "fix" his wife's reaction to you. It's unreasonable for you to continue to have any sort of relationship with an accusatory unstable woman. Forget about both them.

NJ Teacher 09-03-2019 07:24 AM

I guess I would have to consider whether I want this man and his wife in my circle of friends. She sounds like she is unstable. You should not have to "fix" her actions.

SubMan 09-03-2019 05:39 AM

At my first teaching job I would stay late and do my work at school. Another teacher, who coached, would take work home and do it after coaching.

Because we arrived at school at about the same time I would ask if she needed help getting her materials into school. Soon rumors started that I was flirting with her and asking her out (neither was true). Coach teacher had been jilted by a male coach.

I approached her (confront is too strong of a word in this instance) about these because a friend told me she (coach teacher) was spreading these. She got angry that she was caught but they stopped.

I learned to distance myself from drama and be to polite but not overly friendly with people I work with.

MACMama 09-03-2019 05:08 AM

You say she is targeting her husband's female friends? Could she be jealous that he has female friends? Could she be thinking he is cheating on her? Sounds like she is very insecure in her relationship.

Lakeside 09-03-2019 03:57 AM

Drama makes me extremely uncomfortable. I'd avoid both of them whenever I could.

teachnkids 09-03-2019 12:15 AM

Wait, your friend wants you to fix his crazy wife? Not your problem.

Move on and let her be as mad as she wants!

TAOEP 09-02-2019 06:39 PM

What a pain! But really, who cares if she's mad at you? She's mad at everyone, or eventually will be.

Enjoy the wedding, your true friends, and reasonable people who know how to treat others with respect. This woman is to be avoided. It's not your job to smooth things over when you did nothing wrong.

Violet4 09-02-2019 05:21 PM

Unfortunately I couldn't avoid her at my friend's wedding just to clarify in case there was any confusion the people getting married were not these two people I'm talking about causing the drama.

Honestly if my friend had just told her to deal with it like he should have instead of trying to make it my problem to fix I wouldn't have been so bothered I knew she was crazy going into it. This weekend actually meant a lot to me. Maybe it's the fatigue talking but I just feel really low.

jov 09-02-2019 05:13 PM

If you ignore her drama, she will move on to someone or something else.

anna 09-02-2019 05:05 PM

That friend of yours needs to stop acting like his wife's mama and tell her if she didn't like the fact that someone didn't say hi,confront that person. He is not her cleanup crew It sounds like both of them are drama addicts. Stay away.

arsabl 09-02-2019 04:48 PM

Donít take on the drama. You are already overburdened with your work issues. You donít need more. Just let it go for now. It sounds like the wife will move on to more drama elsewhere soon enough. Life is too short for petty grudges.

Keltikmom 09-02-2019 04:48 PM

If sheís unreasonable, just walk away.

And since your friend thinks everyone should walk on eggshells around her, he should be the one to fix it, not you.

Ima Teacher 09-02-2019 04:32 PM

Has he ever done anything to give her reason to be that jealous, or is she just crazy?

I have low tolerance for stupid drama, so I’d probably just roll my eyes at her and forget it. People have a really hard time annoying me when they are blocked on social media, blocked on my phone, and ignored in person. I have been told I have a gift for avoiding people.

Violet4 09-02-2019 03:47 PM

Have you ever met the kind of person who there's no reasoning with? What it comes down to is her husband thinks everyone needs to tiptoe around her. Keep in mind there's a reason why she's been banned from places. Also a wedding is not the time or place to iron out issues. Especially when they're issues she created.

Violet4 09-02-2019 03:46 PM

Sorry. Double post.

ConnieWI 09-02-2019 03:41 PM

Have you thought about telling her how you and the other female friends of her husband are feeling about her targeting?

In my life, I have a belief that if I do not confront the person who is bothering me and tell that person what he/she is doing is inconsiderate and disrespectful, then I have no right to complain.

Next time she confronts you (or any of her husband's female friends), all of you need to let her know how you feel about her behavior.

Violet4 09-02-2019 03:25 PM

Just a vent.
My friends' wife, who has been insufferable (she's not allowed at his workplace because she caused a scene. He's not a teacher) has been targeting his female friends one by one and making their lives h-e double hockey sticks. Basically accusing them of whatever she can think of. Guess who she targeted? At my best friend's wedding this weekend? And my "friend" (her husband)had the gall to tell me I needed to fix it.

Want to know what she's mad at me for? Not saying hi. Even though I did say hi. And she said hi back. As I smiled and made eye contact.

It's like, thanks, I wasn't already feeling bad enough with the way I'm treated at both my schools. If I don't experience some relief soon it's not going to be pretty.

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