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When it all comes down to it

What makes a person get a job, is likability. All other things being pretty equal, it is your personality that wins the job.

Shake hands, be personable, calm, warm, speak clearly and thoughtfully. Speak then listen. Listen to understand, not exactly immediately reply. Smile with your whole being. Make eye contact. Laugh when appropriate. Imagine these people are your students.

If you dont get the job you are not a failure. It is not failure to not be the one chosen

When it is right the door for you will open easily.

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cruxian 06-10-2019 02:15 PM

Hey, Violet4, I'm thinking of you. Hunting for a job is really terrible, even for the most even keeled person. I've been going through it the last few years and truly it is one of the most demoralizing situations I've been in.
I feel like when I'm interviewing people I'm asking them to like me---to like my experience and my personality. I want to be wanted. But inevitably I"m not hired.
Sometimes I haven't done my best interview. I can usually tell when that's the case.
Sometimes I don't quite fit the needs of the school/team that I'm applying for or the timing is off. At our school, they are hiring three new teachers for my grade level. They hired two new people right off the bat and are looking for someone more experienced to fill the last slot. There were a few people that interviewed that just didn't do a great job of it. But there were a couple that did---unfortunately for them they were new also. Better than the people that had already been hired and if they'd interviewed earlier would've been hired in a heartbeat.
And sometimes they already have somebody in mind and I just don't know it.

GHVFAN 06-10-2019 08:51 AM

If you would not be offended, I will keep you in my prayers.

amiga13 06-10-2019 05:59 AM

Good luck! Iím thinking of you.

TeacherPK6 06-10-2019 02:31 AM

I'm sorry you're having to wrestle with depression on top of job hunting! Depression is a tricky beast, and it loves to lie to us! You are most certainly NOT a failure, even if this job opportunity doesn't pan out. You can keep going - one day at a time, which is all any of us can really do. I'm glad you're seeing a therapist for help. Mine has helped me so much. Hoping this week is a good one for you, despite the worries, and that you find a good job soon (maybe even with this school)!

happygal 06-09-2019 08:32 PM

When it all comes down to it

What makes a person get a job, is likability. All other things being pretty equal, it is your personality that wins the job.

Shake hands, be personable, calm, warm, speak clearly and thoughtfully. Speak then listen. Listen to understand, not exactly immediately reply. Smile with your whole being. Make eye contact. Laugh when appropriate. Imagine these people are your students.

If you dont get the job you are not a failure. It is not failure to not be the one chosen

When it is right the door for you will open easily.

Seriously 06-09-2019 06:25 PM

Violet4,
Good luck with your interview. I agree with the other poster when she said that you got an interview, so you have stood out to get that. Also, it is very good that they already know your work performance, which is another positive. So, you have several things in your corner. Chin up...you can do this! Prayers for a great interview.

Violet4 06-09-2019 05:30 PM

You all have said some really kind things.

my therapist is not a wishy-washy type of personality and even he says I have every reason to be optimistic.

Just wish I could do the interview like right now and get it over with

broomrider 06-09-2019 04:37 PM

of treating yourself to an interview outfit (or even just a new blouse or piece of jewelry--in a teacher salary price, of course). Spend some time reviewing the school's numbers (population, achievement, drive the neighborhood again, etc) so you can express the strengths you bring to that particular school. It's lucky you are already familiar with it, but an extra look never hurts, it's good to have their info in the front of your brain.

Look over their programs if you get a chance to be able to say how you might use them, be familiar with parts of them, etc. You might do some quick thoughts on how to answer some of the usual questions.

Then do something else. Visit your therapist, go to a movie, read a good book, take a long walk. So you are fresh for the interview.

Give the interview your best shot and realize that you can only control so much and don't really know any agendas the interview committee might have. So have a bit of distraction after as well.

I wish you well. The job search is stressful for all of us.

checkerjane 06-09-2019 08:02 AM

Youíre in teaching right now, not an easy profession, so that right there proves youíre not a failure.

I also struggle with depression. IDK about you, but when I get depressed it feels like a blackness in my soul that trickles down and seeps into every aspect of my life. Iím so glad youíre able to visit with your therapist so soon before the interview.

Is there anything you can do just for you? Maybe a new interview outfit? Getting your hair done? Going for a coffee or just chit-chatting with a friend before your interview? Iím not saying your confidence does or should have anything to do with your appearance. Iím just saying some self care/pampering can go by the wayside when so many things come at you at once, one of these being depression.

Hugs to you and good luck. And, again, youíre not a failure.

Song of Joy 06-09-2019 06:43 AM

It's the end of the year and most of us are exhausted and when we're exhausted it takes extra energy to maintain a positive attitude. Your feelings are not uncommon.

So, before the interview, work on standing a bit taller, straighten your shoulders, and recount all the marvelous things you've done this year. Not many people could handle multiple buildings without burn-out, and you have accomplished that! Tell yourself you are a prepared, strong professional and the district will be fortunate to hire you.

My best wishes on your upcoming interview. Many people I know would be envious that you even get to interview. Blessings to you.

elmo33 06-09-2019 06:42 AM

Do you teach? Why are you at multiple schools? You have a job already so that means you are doing well... sometimes it takes years to move into the spot you really want. Is it your schedule that is a problem?Teaching in multiple schools must be so hard...
Also , don’t forget ‘be careful what you wish for’ because being in one school all day can be hard too.. good luck, try to think if it works great - if not then it wasn’t meant to be.

Keltikmom 06-09-2019 06:22 AM

Most definitely make this the focus of your next visit with therapist.

You are currently working which instantly proves you are not a failure. Youíre getting the interview which says you stood out. You may or may not get the job. Getting would be great but not getting doesnít mean you have failed.

anna 06-09-2019 06:13 AM

Violet4,I wish you the best of luck. It isn't at all uncommon for teaching candidates to interview many times before a job is offered to them. I encourage you not to give up on your dream Are there any interview questions you want to practice responding to with us? Post them on the Busy Board and I'd be glad to help out.

Violet4 06-09-2019 05:51 AM

I have one more interview this week.

Have I mentioned I teach in multiple schools? This is one of the schools I work at.

It's by far the best school I work at too.

I have had a horrible month wrestling with depression (a situation in my personal life has my mind in a very negative space/my confidence is low) and I just do not want to face the humiliation of not getting this job. However, I know I have to try. I do get to talk to my therapist two days before the interview hoping that does something.

without judgment I just need to stay on here I don't know how much more strength I have. Any supportive words at all will help me a lot. I would just like to see my hard work take me somewhere for once.

And I really don't want to spend the whole summer feeling like a failure.

Thank you for everyone's patience with me.




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