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There’s one like that’s everywhere.
Let them talk and move away.

My DH says that there is a guy in his office that does the same thing. If you went to the beach, he went too and saw a shark attack. Or if you mowed the lawn, he cut the grass and power washed the entire house. We nicknamed name him Mr. Oneupped Ya.

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SubMan 08-31-2019 08:06 PM

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I know this isn't the point of this thread, but I found it funny. Isn't this person aware that bees can fly? If the beekeeper only had one acre of land, for example, the bees could fly to other areas nearby to collect nectar if the one acre wasn't big enough.

That just made me laugh. Sorry, back to the topic.
First post was about know-it-alls. So I posted about a know-it-all that I know. I included a couple of examples for illustration.

I will assume she knows about bees; however she may have watched The Bee Movie staring Jerry Seinfeld and assumed it was a documentary.
Claire 08-31-2019 04:45 PM

I have one on my team. I was new there last year so said nothing. This year I have some good come backs. She made a rude comment because a kid (that we all share) brought me some candy for lunch one day last week about why did he bring it to me....I just said "I guess I'm just awesome and his favorite!"

Girl I'm done with the pettiness.

LazyLake 08-29-2019 11:01 AM

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bGracie 08-29-2019 08:19 AM

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Someone brought in jars of honey to share, it came from their backyard bees. Renee insisted that the honey couldn't have come from their back yard as it's not five acres and you need five acres for bees. We searched the Internet and found nothing, the bee keeper had heard nothing of this either.
I know this isn't the point of this thread, but I found it funny. Isn't this person aware that bees can fly? If the beekeeper only had one acre of land, for example, the bees could fly to other areas nearby to collect nectar if the one acre wasn't big enough.

That just made me laugh. Sorry, back to the topic.
SubMan 08-29-2019 06:14 AM

I work with someone who is called "Never wrong Renee" because she is, well, never wrong (in her mind).

Someone brought in jars of honey to share, it came from their backyard bees. Renee insisted that the honey couldn't have come from their back yard as it's not five acres and you need five acres for bees. We searched the Internet and found nothing, the bee keeper had heard nothing of this either.

Robert Ballard (the guy that found the Titanic) is now searching for Amelia Earhart's plane. Never wrong Renee is emphatically convinced that Robert Ballard has found the remains of the plane. His expedition started on Aug 7 and if he had found the plane or pieces of it I'm certain it would be front page news.

Her husband is a quiet, patient man; we wonder how he puts up with her.

amiga13 08-29-2019 05:56 AM

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I think it all depends on how one personally reacts when someone is states their opinion, and that's what is usually it, just their opinion, which everyone has a right to express.
Don't get into the grind of taking people's right to have an opinion as a personal attack directly towards you.
You’re right on surface level, of course. If I could leave my feelings out of all interaction, I’d never get hurt. But I don’t turn off my feelings—and some of my feelings are good and helpful to others.

Your response is exactly what the person I knew would have said, “If they’re offended by what I say, that’s their problem.” IMO there’s a big difference between opinionated and rude. We all have opinions, but most of us learn to state them politely. Small examples:
*I shared a new item and was told, “I don’t like that.”
*She asked me what brand of something I got and then said, “I prefer....”
You’re right that she’s “only” giving her opinion. My argument is that she does it in such a way it is hurtful to others.

Yes, there are people whose philosophy is “take me as I am or eff you.” But I don’t want to be one of them. I’d rather get my feelings hurt occasionally if that’s the price to pay for being kind and considerate.

I am opinionated and sometimes my opinions may seem harsh, but I never want to hurt others.
Eln 08-28-2019 02:11 PM

I agree. No one has to agree with me. When I disagree with someone, I don't tell them they are wrong. I don't speak to them in a condescending and scolding tone or shame them for not agreeing with me. I repeat what they say which is a polite form of acknowledging that I heard their opinion and I share that I understand their perspective, I just see it in a different way. That's respect. Neither of us are more right than the other nor is one of us all wrong in the way we view things or feel about things.

We are all capable as college educated people to speak to each other with respect. Everyone has the right to express their opinions, but on some days, I have been known to TEACH other how I wish to be treated. I have been known to tell this rude individual to get off the cross because the rest of us need the wood.

eeza 08-28-2019 01:27 PM

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"Nope, you are wrong. It doesn't take 5 minutes, it takes 6 minutes!"
When I read this line, I thought that she might be on the autism spectrum. It's very pedantic. But then again, the DSM has gotten so lenient that we all meet a little bit of the criteria now.

Either way, I hope you don't have too many interactions with her.
BoredCoTeach 08-28-2019 07:16 AM

I think I was like this to a tad degree when I was in my youth. However, I grew out of it. One thing that helped is to read a lot of leadership and self-awareness books. Sadly, education pd is all about curriculum and not personal leadership. And, maybe this why are schools are so toxic.

LazyLake 08-28-2019 05:39 AM

People express their opinions all the time.

I think it all depends on how one personally reacts when someone is states their opinion, and that's what is usually it, just their opinion, which everyone has a right to express.
Don't get into the grind of taking people's right to have an opinion as a personal attack directly towards you.

Not everyone is going to be in agreement with what we think.

70Primrose 08-28-2019 05:35 AM

We have one like that! She is everywhere too! Hard to avoid.

I agree with you! My favorite movie is Shawshank Redemption! Never read the book! Why should I?

amiga13 08-28-2019 04:43 AM

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Usually it's about trivial content that makes others do a double look, devalues others opinions or thoughts, is disrespectful, lacks of social skills, and just makes others want to avoid speaking or saying anything within her hearing range.
I used to be friends with someone like that. Constant oneupmanship. I finally realized she was making me feel bad about myself, so I left the “friendship.” When called on her hurtful comments, her frequent responses were “We’re having a conversation” or “I get to say what I believe.” She was always better and never wrong—she always justified her hurtful behavior. I’m lucky because I was able to escape. Please know you have my sympathy working with someone like that.
elepen 08-28-2019 04:22 AM

All I can say is OMG
One in every crowd. They've been there, done that everytime

LaFish 08-28-2019 02:07 AM

There’s one like that’s everywhere.
Let them talk and move away.

My DH says that there is a guy in his office that does the same thing. If you went to the beach, he went too and saw a shark attack. Or if you mowed the lawn, he cut the grass and power washed the entire house. We nicknamed name him Mr. Oneupped Ya.

teachnkids 08-27-2019 10:26 PM

My constant answer would be....that's what makes us all unique. We have different opinions.

Eln 08-27-2019 08:04 PM

Work with someone who for example if you shared that a project everyone on the team is doing - is mostly red color. and you say, "This red craft can be completed in about 5 minutes." This person will turn everything you say into an argument by saying, "Nope, it's not red, it's green!" Or "Nope, you are wrong. It doesn't take 5 minutes, it takes 6 minutes!"

Usually it's about trivial content that makes others do a double look, devalues others opinions or thoughts, is disrespectful, lacks of social skills, and just makes others want to avoid speaking or saying anything within her hearing range.

Today during lunch, someone asked me if I had ever read a book where the movie was better. I read a lot. I answered, "Not very often, but I read a Stephen King's book years ago called "Shawshank Redemption" and as someone who loves his books, I remember disliking this book. It was hard to stay focused and interested. But I just loved the movie."

Yeap! This annoying person was in the room.

I got to hear, "Nope! No. No. No. Books are always better than the movie. Books give us character description and character motives."

On and on she went and she ended her "vomit" with, "The only movie that came close to being as good as the book was "The Help." "

Grrrr!

Couldn't she have just said that she had not ran into a book where the movie was better. And share that the only movie that came close was "The Help." No, she had to tell me I was wrong, wrong, wrong. No. No. No.

I know I tensed up. I took a deep breath, got up and excused myself (thank goodness I was done eating) and I walked as quickly as I could from the teacher's lounge.

It must be heck to live with her.




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