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And yeah, the kids will talk. However, I wouldn't want to be known for that with the administration. I feel like some kind of peon already...i dont want to cause any big negative distractions. I want to leave only good impressions.

But everyone else says brave it out...

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Dougie 06-03-2013 09:45 AM

the high school girls are always telling me I look like David Beckham and that I have beautiful blue eyes.

grav_def 06-02-2013 06:50 PM

Ha ha, I'd probably pretend to take it ultra-literally and say something like, "You're right, it's kind of warm in here. I'll open some windows." Then enjoy watching them try to figure out how to react to that.

sandycheeks 06-02-2013 05:31 PM

And yeah, the kids will talk. However, I wouldn't want to be known for that with the administration. I feel like some kind of peon already...i dont want to cause any big negative distractions. I want to leave only good impressions.

But everyone else says brave it out...

sandycheeks 06-02-2013 05:29 PM

the first time I subbed middle school, a few weeks ago, i felt uncomfortable about it too because they were blatantly trying to flirt with me in the middle of class for attention/ just to be disrespectful. I have been making excuses to not go back to the middle school ever since. I felt uncomfortable and i felt like no matter how I could've reacted or replied to comments, flirting, and the eyes all over me-- it would still be just inappropriate and I would still feel uncomfortable. So I made an excuse not to sub there. I'd rather NOT be put in that position.I don't want to be the "hot sub" and I can't change their perception of my looks.

I'm sticking to elementary school, where the girls tell me I'm pretty and that they like my nails. Good luck.

Beethechange 05-31-2013 03:26 PM

It's good that you said that because kids tend to "talk" and administration eventually finds out. Keep doing what your doing and show everyone not just kids that your more than just a pretty face.

wishfulideas 05-31-2013 03:17 PM

I get it a bit too, I assume it's just because I'm young and I like to wear bight, flowery dresses. With the you're pretty comments, I usually say, "Yeah, pretty smart!" or just simple thank you's for compliments on my clothing.

I, however, have gotten a few of the "You're hot!", etc, calling out in class, and I say the same thing you did. Almost word for word.

Yesterday I was totally thrown off though. I had a kindergarten boy, refer to me as "Cutie". At first I thought he was talking to one of the girls. When I realized he was talking to me, I just told him, "That is disrespectful. My name is Miss A. I call you by your name don't I?" He tried it one more time later in the day, and I repeated the statement. Today he saw me and said he was sorry for calling me Cutie. Very sweet. =]

The only one I ever should have sent to the office, but didn't was when I was just beginning to step into the classroom and volunteer. I had a seventh grade boy continuously harass me. I wasn't sure what to do about it until later, when I talked to the teacher about it. I was mostly embarrassed.

NJSubteacher 05-31-2013 02:29 PM

I think you handled it fine. I would have just said "excuse me but that is inappropriate for school and leave it at that. Of course if it continued throughout the day, I would probably make a mental note not to sub for that class anymore. It's kind of a gray area to report that to administration cause it can also backfire on you. I would be afraid they would question me if I provoked that comment, etc.... I have had some female MS students flirt with me sometimes, but as soon as I get stern with them and tell them to stay focused on their work, it ends. I guess in a way, it's good that I'm overweight so I don't have to deal with it often. Lol

Sublime 05-31-2013 01:47 PM

one girl say about me to a classmate upon walking into the room, "She's pretty," while the other girl immediately said, "No, she's not!" I'll take the first comment!

broomrider 05-31-2013 07:56 AM

he was dared by his friends or is the class attention seeker.
Although, I bet his comment was accurate.

I'm never sure what exactly will come out of my mouth when I don't have the benefit of preplanning.

I hope I might say something like "Thank you, but you are interrupting the class. You and I will discuss better behavior at recess." or "discuss better times and ways to give compliments at recess." But my perfect response usually doesn't appear until the drive home.

I wouldn't send him to the office unless the interruptions persisted.

Mariposa2010 05-31-2013 07:29 AM

What would you say to a student who tells you this? I always have girl students come up to me to tell me they think I'm pretty. I simply say thank you (because they apparently need glasses, lol). However, the other day I had a (boy) student tell me (in the middle of class, nice and loud so everyone could hear) that I was hot. I told him right away that that was inappropriate and his comments needed to stop immediately because he was being disrespectful. How would you approach something like this? Should I have sent him to the office? By the way, this was a 5th grader (I don't know if that makes any difference).

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