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mrteacherguy 11-20-2017 07:01 PM

I can do no right
With a particular grandparent, one who has custody of a student I had a few years ago and one I have right now, it seems like I can do no right.

She talks a good game, but when her grandchildren don't perform well academically or behave well in class, it's automatically the teacher's fault. And since she's a super-active member of the PTA, she has a lot of pull with the administration.

I've been having a lot of behavior issues with her granddaughter this year, and getting a lot of attitude from her in return. She's been in lunch detention many times, and openly defies requests from myself and another teacher. I may have been in the wrong on this, but last week she was goofing around in line again even though she's been told/asked on a daily basis to line up appropriately, so I had her stand in the corner and face the wall for two minutes when we got back from lunch.

I just got an email from my principal that she would like to speak with me regarding some of the grandmother's concerns. And just like that, my stress level has gone through the roof.

Any tips on dealing with situations like this? Where it seems like you can do no right, even though you hear from others that you're a good teacher and you know your material backward and forward, you have a parent (or parents) who insist you're a horrible teacher?

Munchkins 11-20-2017 07:59 PM

Be prepared
I think the way you handled the lining up issue with standing in the corner is going to be questioned. Can you give a logical reason for the consequence? Was it a safety issue? Were you giving her time to think about making better choices?

Good luck. Your human, and got pushed to your limit. Maybe you could ask for suggestions/support in dealing with her behaviors.

Keep us posted!

LosAngeles 11-26-2017 07:56 PM

Document, document, document...
Since your student's grandmother is in communication with the principal, and will most likely be in communication with you at some point... I would start documenting when your student is being defiant. It could be as simple as tick marks somewhere in your lesson plan book with a date next to it for each time you have to take time out of a lesson to address her behaviors. Or it could be a bit more detailed like B for backtalk, D for disrupting the lesson... I don't know.. Something that's quick and low maintenance for you. But that you could have to show that you care about your student enough to keep track of whether she is improving in these areas, or whether they are getting worse. Being able to refer to specific incidents will help keep things objective, and less personal.

MrsRetired 01-10-2018 06:41 PM

Is there anny way
you could engage the child at the meeting. With your documentation and support from the other teachers who have had issues with her? Ask her specifically about her defiance and disrespect.

It sounds like she isnt held accountable for her actions at home. A clearly written behavior plan with specific goals.

I hope you have a supportive principal. If so, ask them for advice. It will show that you are willing to work with the situation. Could they come into your room to observe?

And in the end, some people will not just be happy with what you do, no matter what. Keep a smile on your face, and bite your tongue, hard as it may be. Take the hard road, it will be worth it in the end.

P.S. I dont think 2 min on the wall is out of line.

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