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learn 09-24-2018 03:22 PM

Constant emails
I have a parent whom sends me one sentence emails. One right after the other, sending 3-4 in a day when she has a question about her child regarding their behavior.

The student had a very lenient teacher for K, and 1st grade. Same teacher, she looped. Now with me she is having behavior issues for getting up out of her seat without permission in second grade, talking out of turn and reading books while I teach a lesson.

How should I handle this parent/student? The mother states she never had issues in K or first and is concerned now.

Frustrated with her one liner emails.

MACMama 09-24-2018 03:50 PM

In your next newsletter make it very clear to all parents what your email policy is. Tell them you only check after school and will reply within 24 hours. Then stick to it. Also tell them that you will never answer school emails at home. That is your family time. As for the mother, send her an email stating that you would love to have a conversation about her daughter and tell her to set up a time during school hours to talk to you.

Zia 09-24-2018 03:53 PM

I'd respond in ONE email to everything she sent. Just condense your response to encompass all of her questions. It sounds like she emails like most of us text. I'd also read them all at once, not as they arrive. And also what MACmama said.

Juiceboxes 09-24-2018 03:55 PM

Start calling her directly in lieu of replying to e-mails. Annoying at first? Sure, but it is also going to be annoying to her. When you do talk, just stick with neutral facts about the actions and avoid labels. Frame it as you are concerned with how her education will be disrupted by this.

learn 09-24-2018 04:14 PM

This mother...
even came to curriculum night and has silly questions about the spelling test in which I sent out an email stating it was tomorrow. Then she responds as stating that my emails are confusing. Yes, I plan to answer her every email and then set up a conference to discuss her daughter's behavior.

Do you teachers in second grade allow kids to get up when they want to out of their seats and read AR during lessons? I don't, and think this is more than fair. Just wondering, I came from K.

Juiceboxes 09-24-2018 04:41 PM

Your expectations seem on point. I had similar parent behavior. Someone else gave me the advice of not responding to e-mails at all, and instead calling. Her e-mail habits quit after a week. I only ever heard from her sparingly. LOL

apple annie 09-24-2018 07:14 PM

I teach second grade. One of my four classroom rules is "Get permission before you leave your seat." I have to enforce it strictly. Otherwise, I have kids walking up to me to tell me a story, to show me their work, to ask me a question, etc. In second grade, most of them have no sense of what an interruption is. I give ONE warning, along with a very stern and disappointed look. Next time is a trip to my time out area. The first week or two of school is hard because they will look very hurt and say, "but I was just showing you my pretty drawing. I was just getting a tissue. I was just going to ask you if I could go to the bathroom, " etc. It doesn't matter why. Be super consistent and they will learn. Now we're a month into school and it's no longer an issue. But if you tolerate it at all, they'll drive you insane being out of. And no, students are NOT allowed to read books while I'm giving instruction! <!--eyebrow-->

I would just kindly but firmly say to mom, "I don't allow students to be out of seats without permission. I don't allow students to read while I'm teaching." Say it as many times as necessary, broken record style. No other explanations needed.

ReadTeachHope 09-24-2018 09:26 PM

Two things
I think addressing the e-mails specifically with something like:

"Dear xxx,

I appreciate how connected you to your child's education and I know that together we will help your daughter succeed. I do ask that you limit your e-mails to once a day so that we can have more effective communication."

I also approach subjects with parents that we are on the same page and that I want their child to succeed. (no one can argue that point :) ) and I also tell them when we are on the same page we will get incredible results!

kidsrterrific 09-25-2018 10:38 PM

Iím with what Apple Annie said!

However, on another note, I did check emails before and after school. Sometimes knowing students were anxious or might have had a rough morning helped me set the day with the child. I tended to get more special needs students.

It does sound like this mom sends emails like she would text. Those are so hard to keep track of. Suggesting one email would be so much easier for you to address and help her concerns each day should help.

Kinderkr4zy 09-26-2018 05:53 AM

As a third grade teacher to a second grade teacher

PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE keep the expectations that you have. They are reasonable and expected in the next grade as well so its sets them up for success the next year. It is down right ridiculous when we get third graders who still seem to think that they can get up whenever they want. Classrooms cannot function with 26 kids milling around.

If students are reading while I teacher I take the book away.

1.If its a library book it goes back to the library.

2. If its the students personal book I send it home with a note saying "Your little reader is really enjoying this book, but they are also enjoying it during math, science or history. Since I want your child to enjoy reading AND learn the other subjects too please keep this book at home to enjoy."

3. If its from my class library I put it in my desk and it doesn't come back out for a week.

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