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seenthelight 11-25-2019 08:27 PM

Lack of Appreciation
This year's kids are on a new level of ungrateful. I’ve tried my usual lessons and tactics, and it doesn't seem to be sinking in. As we approach this season of giving, does anyone have any ideas on teaching kids to value what they have?

Ironically, this year's group is not very well off. Many of them are on the receiving end of community support, yet you’ll hear the statements of, ”Is that all?” ”Wow, that's cheap.” etc.

I don't know how to help them see that there are many significantly more economically disadvantaged than them.

iloveglitter2 11-25-2019 09:37 PM

I have struggled with this as well. I started doing Christmas around the world and purposefully highlighting how little some kids have in some countries.
We explore online at some of the living conditions some kids live in. That has been somewhat helpful.

For one group I had them write to a nursing home in the area. We talked about nursing homes and how residents may not have family that visits. For one group, I truly saw a change in them after that.

broomrider 11-25-2019 10:19 PM

would sharing something like this help?

There also might be some help in asking for a visit from someone from the local food bank or homeless shelter.

The thing is, learning to express thanks needs to start early and at home. Unfortunately, that might be something missing in their lives.

One thing I did was after Christmas vacation I did a writing lesson on writing thank you notes to someone who gave them a gift: relative, friend, Santa (if age appropriate), me if they were really stuck since I always gave each a book. The letter included something about how much they liked the present, what they would do with it, something about how it made the giver special or memorable.

I always explained, truthfully, that I'd stopped sending my nieces and nephew presents because I never even knew if they got the presents because I never had a thank you, not a phone call or a letter (no texting back then).

seenthelight 11-26-2019 07:21 AM

I just find it funny that I had a class a couple of years ago where 95% of them were very well off financially. You’d think I’d handed then $1000 and a new xBox when I gave them a smelly sticker.

Now don't get me wrong, I’ve also had well off classes that had an attitude of, ”What’s this?”

Renea 11-26-2019 07:41 AM

When I gave treats or small surprises to my students and they failed to say thank you or complained I'd take it back right then and there and apologize for giving them something they didn't like. It was heartless but a lesson they needed to learn. I'd often get a look of shock from them but they remembered to thank me after that. I wasn't protecting my feelings I was teaching them to at least voice appreciation when presented with a small gift or kind gesture.

seenthelight 11-26-2019 07:37 PM

I tried that and they have no issue losing it. It was lame. It was only...

They’ve really brought the Grinch out in me. I have stopped doing ANYTHING for this class. We make do with what is provided.

apple annie 11-26-2019 08:58 PM

I have a class that has a number of kids who feel very entitled, and are dismissive of things I give them and do for them. When Halloween party time came around I told them they were on their own to plan their school Halloween party. They had to decide among themselves who would bring what, and I didn’t bring anything. A few kids remembered to bring chips and a package of cookies, and we had one two liter bottle of soda for 26 kids. They had to scrounge paper cups from another class. Other classes had an abundance and variety of treats with cute Halloween themed plates, napkins, etc. I think it made them realize that these things don’t just “happen” and it helped them appreciate the things I and their parents do for them.

happygal 11-27-2019 12:58 PM

And acting

Much of what kids say and do is in response to us. I would also consider that your values and theirs don't have yo match

For me I am grateful when i lose something and then regain it.

Maybe do an "electricity went out" game day.

Have them live in the classroom without power for a day.

You could do a "teacher lost her voice" day

Bread n water...

One of my favorite teachers used to respond to kids asking for a trip to the water fountain with, "how many days can you go without water?"

You can model empathy.

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