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Feeling Invisible by Those Trying to be Dominant
Old 06-04-2019, 03:15 PM
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I am an Aid in a classroom of (3) other Aids and one Teacher. Most of them have worked many many years together. They thrive on gossip and speaking negative about others. Two of the aids do not hold a position of authority but act dominant to newer aids because they have seniority. I’m not sure if it is in my head, but I highly doubt it since it has become a pattern, but when ever one of the newer aids Rebecca and I are seen talking, one of the aids Jane with seniority will be mean to her until Jane feels like Rebecca is no longer being friendly toward me then Jane will then be nice to her again. This has happened over and over that I can’t help but think Jane knows exactly what she is doing which is some sort of mind control technique.

If Rebecca and I are in a conversation and Jane is also talking, Rebecca will turn her head away from me while I am still talking and give her full attention to Jane. So in this case, i have raised my voice a couple of times and just continued talking about what I was saying to say, “Hey, I’m not finished talking here!” but they will not look at me but still continue to talk to one another like I am not in the room. So one time when they did this to me, I turned around and walked out! I’m not going to let anyone deliberately ignore me and disrespect me that way. I'm still polite and professional toward them because I have to work with them, so I try not to hold grudges and let things go for the sake of making things work. But I feel Jane is the one with the problem and she subtly causes contention. Jane knows because she has seniority and because the teacher and another aid will back her up she feels she can act dominant toward us and use mind control to make us submit to her and to them.

I actually could not take it anymore after months of playing nice I finally got sick of it and did the same thing back to her. When she spoke to me I just ignored her and did not give her eye contact. I’m not playing her games any more nor will I let her have the upper hand over me just because she has worked their longer than I have. Honestly, if she had not used her mind control tactics I may have respected her but because she plays mind games in a subtle way and she thrives on gossip, withholds praises and ignores me when I speak, I do not respect her and will not give her what she wants from me which is for me to be submissive to her.

The teacher is just as bad as her and gossips even more than she does. I work hard and make sure I am working harder than everyone else because the rest of the aids have a habit of saying whenever they get a sub that the sub does absolute nothing! Implying that the subs are lazy and do not work. But the real truth is that when ever we do get a sub in our classroom they ignore her and do not speak to her. They most definitely do not tell her what to do or give her any kind of work, so naturally the subs mostly sit around with nothing to do. But it isn’t the subs fault, there were given nothing to do so that Jane and the rest of the aids can say she did absolutely nothing. I know their tactics so that’s why I work my butt off but this does not make them happy either but rather seems to upset them. I figured if they are going to be upset with me whether I work or I don’t work I rather have them be upset because I’m working my butt off. Has anyone also experienced this type of behavior in the classroom? It’s awful!

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