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Old 11-20-2019, 07:07 PM
 
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I find that kids want to be in control for one of two reasons - either they are used to being in control at home, or they feel they have no control over their lives and are grasping for it.

Try to figure out which it is for this kid, and if it's the first one, remove him from the situation every time he bosses the others. - If it's at recess, he must play something else, if it's during group work, he has to do his own, etc. He has to make the connection that that behavior will not result in the other kids doing what he says.

If it's the second, try to find a more appropriate way for him to feel empowered - something truly useful that he can do, and be in charge of. Present it during whatever small window he's not bossing someone, and keep reminding him when he does get bossy.

In either scenario, he needs to be taught replacement behaviors - the right way to make a suggestion during play, a strategy for calming any anxiety he is feeling about other kids' behavior, etc.

Maybe happen to read something at storytime about bossiness as well?
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