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Old 03-03-2018, 01:56 PM
 
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Hi everyone. I teach special ed and I have an aide. She is a very unhappy person. She doesn't get along with anyone. I have tried every thing and she is still mean to me and the students. I have discussed this with admin, but they refuse to move her even for next year. Well, I was offered a position in another district. I mostly like this school, but I can't work with my aide anymore. I know when I give notice they will ask why. Should I tell them? I would like to, but feel like it will fall on deaf ears.


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You are ready for a change
Old 03-03-2018, 03:08 PM
 
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and you think you have found a better fit.

Good luck!
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Old 03-03-2018, 03:18 PM
 
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I was going to say looking for a change or a different challenge. But, in all my interviews no one has ever asked me that.
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I think she's asking
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what she should say in her exit interview.
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Yes, the school I'm leaving will ask why. They will not do any thing to her.


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Keep it above-board and professional
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I understand that you'd love to blast the admin and the aide in your exit interview. I just left a job last fall that still haunts me, and yes, I had so many things to say. But don't. Just don't. You have nothing to gain and everything to lose by filing your complaints in the exit interview. Come up with a sentence or two that puts the focus on your professional goals and growth, and use that if the question comes up. Good luck to you in your new job!
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I wouldn’t burn any bridges on your way out. Staff move around a lot and you never know who will transfer into your next school. (Or who is connected/related to whom).

Wouldn’t it be awful if someone at your next school had a close relationship with your aide? Talk about starting on the wrong foot.
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I agree with TeachNFriend
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Do not burn any bridges. The grass may not be greener and sometime down the road you may want to return to your old school.
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I think you already have told them. Sure take, the high road with the "better opportunity" and "time for a change" (both are true) but allow yourself the satisfaction of knowing you're probably speaking code. (I'm assuming you've had more than one or two "by the way" conversations with admin but this aide's attitude/behavior.) They'll know why you left, but may choose to rationalize it into something that makes them happy.

If I go into sub and the teacher tells me her class is a "chatty group," I know what that really means. :-) That's how code works.

In this case:

"better opportunity" = code for no more negative aide (although they may rationalize you are escaping and will likely have the same problem with a different person. Besides the aide will be happier with a new boss, that's a relief)

"time for a change" = code for no need to continue to put up with this aide and the situation in general (although they may rationalize you have a problem getting along... and the aide will be much happier working for someone else, that's a relief)

In short, if you were unable to influence them while you were working there, you probably won't influence them on the way out the door and any self-satisfaction will be short-lived. For many admins, success is the absence of problems. Your absence solves their problem--at least temporarily. (Although I know at least one admin who thrives on problems--actually creates them when they don't exist. The multitude of problems solves her biggest problem--making decisions. "No time for that right now!")
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“For many admins, success is the absence of problems.”

Boy is that ever the truth!


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Old 03-18-2018, 04:55 PM
 
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When I left a school because they treated me poorly, I thanked them for the opportunity. I had a valid reason for leaving (shorter commute) but I just wanted to add that I'm glad that I didn't burn any bridges. I needed them for a reference later on.

Congrats on your new opportunity. Leave your old job with grace and dignity!
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