One of my really good friends is getting married soon. We talk frequently, and I knew her wedding was coming up. Just got the invitation in the mail, and now I just don't know what to do about her wedding.
The invitation came to me and guest. I have no guest. I'm not dating anyone, and I don't know anyone well enough to ask them to go to the wedding with me. I don't have many close friends at all. The bride, and another girl we went to college with(she's married) were my closest friends. So I have no single friends left.
I'm also worried about the wedding. Should I go to the wedding even though I'll be alone? The only people I will know at the wedding will be the bride, and my other good friend from college who's married. I'm feeling so alone right now.
I absolutely hate being single. I love weddings, but they are a constant reminder that I'm nowhere near getting married yet and I'm close to being 30.
If it is one of your really good friends you should definitely go. Worst case you go to the ceremony (which will mean a lot to your friend), make an appearance at the reception, tell her congratulations, and leave early. No one says you have to stay though dinner, dancing, cake, toasts, etc. Show up to support her, and leave early if you are uncomfortable being alone.
I know that when I got married I totally wanted and appreciated my good friends being there. RSVP that you are coming alone. Do this to support her as your good friend. Her special day is more important than a few hours of discomfort. I understand how you feel. Get up there to catch the bouquet and look at the single men catching the garter. I know of more than one person that met another at a wedding and....sure enough, they were married.
It is uncomfortable sitting and eating alone...I can see your hesitation. Do you have a cousin or casual friend who might like to go? If not, don't feel too upset about not going. Maybe after the wedding you and your friend could get together and "relive" the day via her pictures and lunch or dinner. BUT...maybe you need an adventure...maybe you'll meet someone at the wedding...you never know. Either way, your friend should be understanding. You need to do whatever fits your comfort level. It's easy for me to say go...but then again, I don't like eating in restaurants by myself.
I see single unattached people as stong individuals. Just because you don't have a date doesn't mean you can't enjoy it. Go support your friend. If you find yourself seated with others you are not comfortable with then eat and leave. She will most probably seat you with other singles or people your age. It won't be as bad as you think.
I remember when I was going through my divorce and my husband at the time refused to go with me to a good friend's wedding. I went alone (really nervous and didn't know any of her friends or family) BUT I had a blast. I was seated with a couple and she has become a dear friend.
On the flip side as the bride...when I got married for the 2nd time last year, my friend that introduced DH to me didn't come to our wedding because she didn't have a date. I'm still hurt by her decision. So what if you aren't dating someone. Go there, be supportive, enjoy the wedding and relax.
I was a little nervous when I went to my first wedding alone, but it ended up being a blast. I sat with such neat and interesting people. A group of us ended up getting togther the next day and touring the city. You could have a lot of fun and you never know who you might meet. I hope you go and have a great time!
but brought my baby and toddler! My ex wouldn't escort me unless he knew the couple getting married. Boy does that bring back sad memories.
You can go by yourself, of course you can. What you do is find a sexy but conservative dress, wear heels, go have your hair set and wear makeup. Have a little champagne, smile a lot. Strike up conversations with people., "So, do you know the bride or the groom? How did you meet? Etc." Also, ask people questions about themselves. What they do, what they think about different things. When the dancing begins sit close to the action. Jig your shoulders around to let people know you like to dance. Ask someone to dance with you if you have to. Have a blast. You are there to share in the joy of your friend. It is an honor to be invited to a wedding!!! Dance for the joy of your friend. Get caught up in the mood of the crowd and you will be fine. I mean, you went "alone" but you will be in a crowd of people and there will be a set routine to follow.
Please let us know how it goes. You may meet your prince charming at the event as a previous poster pointed out! Good luck, be happy.
You won't be alone! There will be about 150 people there! I just returned from a wedding myself, and for most of the time I was visiting with friends I hadn't seen in years, and DH was reliving old times with old buddies. Many times we girls just got up and danced as a group, esp with the mother of the bride (our friend) and her daughter (the bride whom we all remembered as a chubby faced toddler). There were lots of twenty-somethings doing the same thing. No one thought anything of it. You won't be sitting alone at a table, there will be at least 7 others there to chat with. If you are feeling a bit nervous about the arrival, call up your married friend and ask for a ride. Go!