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Teacher having an affair with the custodian!
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There is a situation at my school that is the source of
some gossip and speculation!

I am just wondering -- how common is it for teachers to
have affairs with other school employees -- who work at
the same school?

If you have any stories to share, post them here!


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A past principal and a teacher had an affair at a previous school I was at. They are married to each other now, and he's superintendent in a neighboring system!
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I don't know how common it is....but I've known of 2 "relationships."

1 - A young teacher at a school I work near had an affair with a much older, and married, custodian. A red nightie was found in one of the bathrooms. Gross.

2. When I was in highschool, one of the seniors hooked up with the a younger custodian.
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At a previous school, one of the Sp. Ed. teachers had an affair with his married assistant. Very hot & heavy- she was going to leave her hubby for a while.

Later, our married principal had an affair with a 4th grade teacher. It was also rumored that he was "doing the deed" on the sofa in his office with a couple of moms of problem students. Needless to say, I NEVER sat on that sofa when I had to go in to the office for anything.
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Ewww!
Old 12-09-2008, 07:28 PM
 
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Red nighties?? Boom Booming on the couch?! GROSS!!!

I don't have any good stories to share like this, but these are funny! I hope theres more coming!


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Old 12-09-2008, 07:38 PM
 
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In one school district I was in the middle school principal and secretary (both married) were having a fling. It was rumored that the office would be left empty for an hour or more at a time. But I don't know where they went-his office?? It was one of those things where pretty much all the faculty and students knew, but the spouses had no idea. I felt bad for them. The thing was-the principal wasn't really a catch, either.
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In the school I taught last year, the head teacher (or VP) and the principle were having an affair WHILE his wife was dying of cancer. Can you believe that?!?!?!? She left her bf of 10 +years whom she had a house with and two dogs. She left it all to live in property owned by the principle. It was so ridiculous. They would leave to "get lunch" and be gone for hours. They would be in his office with the door closed for hours too. It disgusted us that work for them, it's actually a big reason I left. I told my new co-workers that and they are all stunned that they got away with it. Since we were a small school, the director never came to visit so they were doing all this under her nose. I still, to this day, want to send an annymous letter to the director. She probably wouldn't believe it anyway, she thinks he walks on water.
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When I saw the title to this thread...
Old 12-09-2008, 08:03 PM
 
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...it made me wonder if you are my school.

The janitor at our school and one of our assitants used to have a thing and now the rumor is that they are rekindled and messing around out in the mobile classrooms in the morning... ewww!

Only a few know about this though... I can't imagine! Why? At school? And she is married!
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Old 12-09-2008, 08:12 PM
 
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In my district a teacher had affair with another teacher at school. Two other teachers were the watch out at the school. Having sex in the bathroom! They each were married to others! ugh ugh ugh One got fired the other retired with full pension.
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We had a teacher who fell in love with the custodian (they were both single). They got married and moved to another state. (Both nice people--nothing really wrong since they were both good people and as I said not married to other people)

We also had a past principal(married) who had affairs with 2 teachers (also married).

Also I should not repeat this--since I hate to think it could be true--two women teachers who it was rumored had been caught in a compromising position with each other early before school. (One was married to a man). The story was passed around (for years)--those who told it were not the ones who saw them or knew who did--so I hope it was just a mean rumor.
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Old 12-09-2008, 08:43 PM
 
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got caught having sex, by a student during school hours, in his office with another (married) teacher. These two teachers are now divorced of their first spouses and married to each other....and both are still teaching at the same school--both are department chairs at this point, as well! There were many rumors of affairs throughout the building... but this one was by far the most repugnant. I still can't believe that they are allowed to continue to teach!
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In a neighboring district they are currently investingating a sex scandal that happened last year at a middle school. Apparently the principal, safety officer, and several teachers were having sex at school, during school hours, all together!
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A Kinder teacher was having an affair w/ the Sp. Ed Director and they would email back and forth on school computers....nothing happened! He mysteriously found a new job w/ less pay somewhere else and she managed to weasel her way out of yet another mess just by batting her eyelashes and playing "innocent". She still teaches here. Rumors fly about her, the prince, some other teachers and spouses and the weekend activities they do with each other. ICK!
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Old 12-10-2008, 04:13 AM
 
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kate26, sorry to put you on the spot...but why is the idea of an affair between 2 women any more disgusting than an affair between a man and a woman?

Affairs in the workplace are VERY uncomfortable. I worked somewhere (not a school) where 2 married co-workers were getting it on together. They had lots of "meetings" and went on long "business lunches". It was awful. I couldn't even look at them without feeling sick to my stomach thinking about their spouses. The absolute worst part (for me) was when their spouses would accompany them to staff holiday parties. I still feel guilty that we all pretended that everything was just fine at those parties, even though we knew what was happening.

While I'm not generally a prude, even if they are UNmarried, colleagues who are romantically involved should be discreet.

Thank goodness I haven't had to deal with this at school yet!
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Old 12-10-2008, 04:31 AM
 
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Just thinking about some of the people in my school, I can just say...eeewww!

Since I have been there, nothing has gone on, but I have heard stories of teachers (single) hooking up in the past. Nothing scandalous. What a boorrriinnngg school!
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Old 12-10-2008, 05:00 AM
 
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I don't see anything wrong with it as long as they are both single.
If they are making each other happy, and it doesn't affect their work, there's nothing wrong. I know of a few teachers who met other teachers and got married. Sometimes it's hard to meet other people, and I could see it happening at work.
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There have been rumors flying at my school this year for the first time.Supposedly the secretary and the lifeskills teacher are having an affair (he is married) and the resource teacher is making out with one of the kinder teachers.

I do not have a problem with inner-school romance if they are single and they keep it out of the school. It is inappropriate to have a relationship in this environment. I would never dream of having DH come for lunch and having a quickie in the bathroom.(okay I might dream about it ) but never would I act on it....

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Old 12-10-2008, 06:56 AM
 
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Seems more rampant than I thought.

We have a custodian who flirts with anything and everything , he is not subtle at all. One was an aide last year, the other is our English Learner's aide this year, and thirdly is a 2nd grade teacher. He is married, and so are the first 2 women.

We also have a married teacher from a far away country where her husband and kids still are. She and her previous dude aide are together now. She goes back home to hubby for weeks, then comes back to BF.
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teachersp1 OF COURSE is isn't acceptable Things like this ALWAYS affect the climate of the school and the community and the professionalism of the staff, whether it's overt or covert. I've seen it happen and there's no getting around the favoritism and rumors that result. Our profession had double standards, I know, and some just aren't fair, but affairs do not belong in schools.
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I'll never understand the sex at school thing. This is the least "romantic" place I've ever been!

Last year a coach was "let go" because they found "toys" and a blanket in the floor of his office.

What is wrong with people?
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My first year teaching, our computer guy and a school secretary were caught having sex in the computer lab on the weekend. They were caught by the superintendent

We have a teacher and custodian who were secretly dating for a while. They are now married. There was rumor they had sex in the classroom in the evenings as "evidence" was found on desks (reportedly).
 
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Okay...here we go. I'm okay with admitting this, so I'm not signing out...

I dated my supervising teacher that I did my student teaching under. We were both single, and hit it off so well that about 2/3 of the way through my placement, we started dating However, I will say that we kept the situation completly under wraps from all other staff members and students, and it didn't effect how he graded me. It was casual and we only went out a few times before we realized that we're great friends, not so great romantically.
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breaks the code of ethics
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I know of a situation where a teacher had an affair with the principal and the Professional Standards Commission took her teaching certificate for a year. Having sex on school grounds (even when it is empty of students as it was with these two) is totally against the code of ethics.
IDK--maybe it is a state by state thing...but I doubt it!
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At my sister's school, the custodian was having an affair with the head cook. He ended up losing his job and she's somewhere else now---wonder why.

Apparently a staff member walked in on them in the dark kitchen the and the cook suddenly stood up from the "cabinet" that the custodian was standing by.
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Our married director of schools left his wife of 20 or so years for the married high school principal (who also got a divorce). They now live together and she has been promoted to a created job in the central office. Since he is the public "face" of our district, I assume we can all follow suit. I'm pretty sure we're on some reality soap opera .
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I did my student teaching in a k-2 primary school where one of the k teachers married one of the custodians. Fast forward a few years and one of the other k teachers comes in and finds that someone has been using her classroom computer to look at porn. They set up cameras in her room to catch the guilty part and guess who was watching porn in the kindergarten classroom? The other k teacher's husband was logging on at night when he was supposed to be working. They weren't able to fire him (his union was too strong). He was just transferred to another school in the district. At the same school one of the married teachers was having an affair with someone who wasn't an employee of the district and the police were called to the school when he got angry that she ended it. It was rumored that they had sex in her car in the parking lot during lunch.
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I've worked for two principals who were rumored to have affairs with staff. Well, one was rumored, but their cars were often seen at school late at night and on weekends. I always felt horrible for both their children, who attended our school. His wife was a sub at our school too. She certainly had favors the rest of the staff didn't get treated to (not meaning the sex either...ewwww).

The other was at a junior high. I knew they were having an affair because the woman had been a friend of mine. This prince came to our school halfway through the year when our old prince retired It didn't take him long to hit on a couple of teachers. Rumor was that's why he was moved from his old school. I couldn't believe my friend did this. So far as I ever knew, nothing ever happened at school, but still, it's wrong. Both were married and she had a young child. I left at the end of that year. I didn't stay in contact with my former friend. What she was doing was so distasteful to me that I needed to distance myself from it.

While I was at that school, I had a relationship with a teacher in another department. BUT, we both were single, no kids for either of us and there was never any indication when at work that we were more than coworkers. Very few people knew, even when the relationship ended.
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Random, you are right-- I did sound like it was worse for it to be 2 women. I guess I partially meant that since it was just rumors I hoped it was not true. The other two situations were well documented not rumors. You are right it is equally disguesting for married people to have affairs no matter what gender combinations. And most of all, it is just icky to have sex in the workplace. I would be totally grossed out to walk in on two people. They should get a room and not a classroom.
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