Through out my years of stress as a teacher, you were my only support. I can only say thank you.
I'm traumatized at this point. There are so many things I would like to say here in this vent but I need your help to sort my life out.
This is really hard for me to say but I think someone is been poisoning me for years. I think he used anything he could find to mix with any of my drinks and I guzzled it down. After more than 25 years of struggling with mysterious illnesses and symptoms, one day I decided to never drink anything already opened or unattended drinks, threw away all vitamins, mineral and so on. Never let this person hover over my drink and if he does, toss it out. My health has improved tremendously. What do you think? Any thoughts? This is the third time I've found a contact lence. He hugged me one day while my coffee cup was exposed on the table. When I felt his right hand move away from my body I quickly glanced in the direction of my coffee. He immediately shook his right hand weirdly as in dropping something on the floor. I looked and looked and saw nothing until three days later found a contact on the floor while I was sweeping. I found another contact in the cabinet for cups/glasses. I understand may be he just took the contact and threw it on the floor but what the heck is that one doing high up there on the cabinet mat. Can anyone tell me here, are these things poisonous? Can it kill me? I have been ill on and off for a long time and the doctors couldn't explain it or find anything wrong with me. I am afraid. We have been together for about 30 years. I hope there is an explanation for this. I feel sad and afraid. Thanks
I don't think a lens can kill you or make you sick. It could be a coincidence that you found the lenses in the vicinity of where his hand had been. I'd probably start by going to an objective friend or counselor to work through what is happening in the relationship.This would allow you to see if your sicknesses came from the person. Is your relationship rocky?To protect yourself from sickness or injury possibly coming from this man I would make my own meals and drinks from items I kept separate. Is there a chance you could physically move away fro the home you are sharing?
When I was little my babysitter got sick all the time and doctors couldn’t figure out what was wrong. Then one day she saw her husband of 30 years sprinkle Comet cleanser into her coffee. She couldn’t believe it. She thought he was making a mistake, not paying attention. She asked him what he was doing. He told her I’m putting Comet in your coffee. He apparently had done this for years.
My mom told me about it years later so I don’t know all the particulars, such as if was trying to poison her or was just crazy. He did end up being sent to a mental hospital, which he never left. My babysitter would go and visit him because she still cared for him.
Wow! At the very least, I'd keep my distance from this person! Now that you might be on to him, keep your guard up!
So strange. But, I also know it's possible that this truly is taking place.
I wouldn't have an open drink ANYWHERE in the house. Not even a jug of milk or juice or soda in the fridge. (In other words, don't drink from any open jug/cup/container/etc.). No way. No how!
And yes...if you think this is even 1/2 way a possibility, I'd be thinking about leaving the relationship!
Can you get yourself tested for bodily toxicity? I would also get a hidden camera. Reach out for help from an outside party. Don't let him near anything you injest. Wishing you the best.
Is this your spouse? If you believe this to be true, walk out the door right now. Take your purse and a change of clothes. Go to a woman’s shelter.
If you can’t do that, go to your doctor for a full on blood test and tell him your suspicions. Do not eat or drink anything you haven’t seen and or prepared.
Your third choice is to ask other person what’s going on.
Forensic files has aired episodes of this very same thing happening to others. One major problem was that some chemicals are extremely, if not, impossible to detect. Just the same, voice your concerns to your doctor and then to a lawyer and local authorities. If possible collect samples to be tested immediately. Also, put your concerns in writing and give to a trusted relative or friend. Please have some medical tests done and be very cautious about what you say out loud while that person is present. I am not so sure that I would confront him. Have a bag packed and ready to go. Keep us posted and stay safe.
leaving drinks/ food around this person. That is your answer.
If you need more evidence, ask him to make you beverages again with a camera on him. You can get a nanny cam for the kitchen.
I am with Keltik, I'd get out.
I have seen a case of a husband doing this on a show like Dateline.
I am really sorry and wish you the best!
Like Kim, I would NOT confront him.
Careful with this. In some states, surreptitiously recording, especially audio, is a felony. You should absolutely be on highest alert around this person, but I would hate to see you get snagged in something yourself when you’re trying to figure it all out.
But please check in with your doctor and then find a good therapist. This is either really happening and you need medical attention, or you are not being rational and need someone to work through this with. If you honestly think your partner is trying to kill you, then you need to contact law enforcement as well.
You have gotten some good advice. I'd also really watch his behavior as you more obviously avoid injesting foods and drinks he has made. Does he start to pressure you to eat or drink the things he made? Encourage "just a taste", etc. If he has been doing this and starts to feel like you are getting physically stronger and healthier he may try other things to keep control.
The best thing to do would you remove yourself from your home. However, it sounds like that is something that is not easy to do right now for whatever reason.
Make sure that you have bags packed and that they are with someone you trust. Start hoarding money and open up a bank account. Make sure no statements come to you. If he knows your email account open up another email account. Stash as much money as you can.
I am only guessing here. If you found the contact lens he has perhaps putting a liquid on the soft contact lens and dropping it in your liquid. That’s easier to do than holding a bottle and dropping it into a liquid when you can see him.
Please do know that if he knows you are on to him he may move to do other things. The best thing to do is to get out of that house. Your health and safety is the most important thing. There are people that can help you. You are worth it.
Seeking therapy for yourself is crucial.
I don’t know if I would go about trying to prove that he’s poisoning you or not. The fact that you feel he is is probably enough for you to remove yourself from the situation.
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A contact like a contact lens for your eyes? No, those would not be poisonous and would not hurt you if you had eaten one. I googled to check, and apparently dogs and babies have eaten them accidentally. They are not dangerous.
I do think it's possible for a spouse to try to poison the other spouse, but nothing that you posted seems to really indicate that loud and clear. You've never actually seen him put anything in your food or drink, right? You didn't see anything fall out of his hand after he hugged you, and you looked on the ground right afterwards and there was nothing there?
I'd urge for you to speak with a therapist about these fears and see what they think.
One of my students was being poisoned with arsenic by his crazy mom...his parents were divorced and he lived mostly with his dad. It explained how he seemed sickly for awhile
His wife was poisoning him every day. It went on for years until he figured it out. Get to a doctor and ask for a tox screening. And have some of your drinks analyzed.
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