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Prayers for this afternoon if you have a few to spare
Old 08-29-2014, 06:44 AM
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This afternoon, around 4:30 central time, we will be telling the kids that my husband and I are separating, he is going to live with their uncle and it pretty much sucks big time.

I'm trying very hard to stay strong through all of this, but I am heartbroken. I am emailing the social worker at their school today so that we can at least make sure their teachers, etc are prepared for Tuesday as I have no idea what their reactions are going to be.

My kiddos are 9, 7 and 5. They are all at the same school. They are sweet, well behaved, well adjusted kids. Their world is going to implode and I am the one here to pick up the pieces. I am thankful to be here for them, but I'm struggling a lot on my own. I'm hoping to keep it together for them.

Thanks in advance. My faith is being tested in this whole ordeal, but I know the power of prayer can work wonders. Prayers for strength for me, comfort for my kids and healing for all of us would be so appreciated.

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Old 08-29-2014, 06:54 AM
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Prayers for you, stay strong. Make sure that you find a support system for yourself. Therapy is a good thing. (((Hugs))))
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Old 08-29-2014, 07:16 AM
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An eloquent post and request. Many will be praying for your family.
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Old 08-29-2014, 07:55 AM
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I am and will continue to pray.
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Old 08-29-2014, 07:58 AM
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I will join others in sending positive thoughts your way. Hug your kids extra tight tonight.


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I'm so sorry!
Old 08-29-2014, 08:09 AM
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Best wishes and prayers being sent for you and your children.
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Old 08-29-2014, 08:35 AM
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I will be praying for you and your children. Good luck this afternoon.
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Old 08-29-2014, 08:48 AM
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Prayers and good thoughts being sent. Hang in there!!!
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Old 08-29-2014, 09:52 AM
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I will be thinking of you. It will be ok, it really will. It will be tough, and it does suck rocks, completely, but you will be ok, and so will your kids. Sending prayers of strength, comfort and healing.
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Old 08-29-2014, 10:14 AM
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Sounds like it is going to be a rough afternoon. It also sounds like you are handling it the best possible way (telling them together, over a long weekend to give them time to process it, letting the school know).

Maybe have some special snacks on hand and a movie to watch later in the evening? Or something to do, just something to distract them or to show them that life goes on and they will be okay?

Thinking of you and said a prayer.


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Old 08-29-2014, 10:30 AM
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Praying for strength and comfort for you and your kids.
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Old 08-29-2014, 10:50 AM
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I'm praying for your family. You're in a painful situation that no one anticipates. Find support for yourself as well as your children. We'll all be thinking of you.
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Old 08-29-2014, 12:49 PM
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So, your H is leaving this all for you to do alone?? Sorry, but what a jerk!!! It's one thing for the two of you to be separating, but he needs to be there for his kids. Sorry, couldn't help myself!

Sending positive thoughts and prayers!!!! You are stronger than you think!
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Old 08-29-2014, 01:16 PM
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I am so sorry for you and your children Best of luck this weekend. You said you called the social worker at school, but you may want to reach out to the teachers too. We aren't usually told at my school unless a parent tells us. Hugs for your children.
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Old 08-29-2014, 01:26 PM
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Praying for you and your kids!
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Old 08-29-2014, 01:52 PM
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Sending prayers.
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Old 08-29-2014, 02:09 PM
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I am so very sorry. Please know that you and all your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I know how painful this has been, coming to this decision, and I pray you find the strength to turn it into an experience in which your children will feel loved and supported.

Blessings and many hugs as you begin this new chapter.
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Old 08-29-2014, 02:43 PM
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Continuing to send prayers for you and your dear ones. I'm so sorry about your situation. Faith
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I'm so sorry!
Old 08-29-2014, 03:09 PM
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I agree that your husband should be there to be a part of this discussion. But I guess it's already happened, so it's too late for that.
When my kids were young, and went through tough stuff, we would all have a slumber party in the family room the first night after bad news. That way, they just fell asleep and didn't lay in bed thinking about stuff all night.
Your family is in my prayers.
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I'm so sorry
Old 08-29-2014, 03:36 PM
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This is late so I know you've already had this conversation. Sending you warm thoughts and prayers.
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Old 08-29-2014, 03:39 PM
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I love the slumber party idea! Time to make some new memories...

I am crying, reading your post. My heart is breaking for you and your children. I am so very sorry, especially because this is not what you wanted.

You and your precious children are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old 08-29-2014, 04:06 PM
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I am late. I am sorry and it sucks. I had to tell my kids alone because my ex h was too chicken sh×× to be there. Ds was 8 and dd was 3. They will be okay. It will hurt and be rough, but they will be okay. Kids are resilient. Mine are now about to be 14 and 9. Still happy, well adjusted, and successful. I know your pain. You never wanted this for your kids. I have btdt. I am so sorry. Please update.
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Old 08-29-2014, 05:00 PM
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Sending prayers and positive thoughts for you, Illini...
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Old 08-29-2014, 05:02 PM
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I did not see this until just now. I think it was a very wise decision to email the school counselor so others are prepared for any changes, and to provide a little extra TLC while they are away from you during the day. I am continuing to pray for all of you!

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Old 08-29-2014, 05:06 PM
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I, too, just read this now. I'm sending all kinds of prayers and positive thoughts for you and your kids.
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I am so sorry you are going through this.
Old 08-29-2014, 05:08 PM
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I have only just read your post but I am praying for a peaceful night for each of you.
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Old 08-29-2014, 06:48 PM
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I am just seeing this now and hope that your little ones are doing OK. Sending prayers for all of you.
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Old 08-29-2014, 07:21 PM
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Thinking of you and your sweet children tonight. So sorry you are going through this. I will continue to pray. (((HUGS)))
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I'm just reading this, I hope it went as well as could be expected. Prayers said for strength and comfort for you all.

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and prayers!
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It went WAY too well.....
Old 08-30-2014, 04:57 AM
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I didn't say a word and let my husband do all the talking. My middle son asked if he could go with him, like he was just going overnight or for the weekend. My daughter asked how long.

That was that. Then they asked if they could go watch TV and play the computer.

Within 15 minutes he left and that was that. I took the kids out for dinner and then home to bed. Nothing out of the ordinary, like nothing was different.

It just goes to show me how much of a single parent I had already become. It makes me sad that the kids really didn't seem to care.....he's gone so much it's just their reality already I guess.

Thanks SO much for everything leading up to this! We're nowhere near the end of this, but to start here has definitely eased my mind a bit.

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Old 08-30-2014, 05:34 AM
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while it sucks right now, it's better to have 2 happy separated parents than 2 miserable ones that are together.

As a child from divorced parents I fully believe that. Good thing you called the school and let them know. There are some helpful books on divorce that are written on kids' levels.
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Old 08-30-2014, 10:37 AM
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I am so sorry you are going through this.
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Old 08-30-2014, 01:45 PM
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Sounds like the hardest part is done. Hope so.
Makes you wonder if they already had some clues.
Yes, I agree it's better to have two separate happy parents than two together unhappy ones.
Glad you let the school know.
Now it's time to take care of YOU!
Try your best to show a strong front for your children.
I mean, be honest and be real about it but now is the time to assure them that you are okay. You are hurt and sad but hopeful things will be better for the whole family. Remember, you will always be family, no matter what.

I'm praying for you and your family.
I had my own divorce in 1997 with a 12 year old and a 15 year old. Both girls and it was rough but I am so happy now with a wonderfully sweet second husband! Together we have 5 adult children and 10 grandchildren!!!
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