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I wanted to breathe fire at my teammate today!
Old 08-02-2019, 08:19 PM
 
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I have a teammate with a very strong personality. This is my 2nd year working with her, so I guess shame on me for not moving somewhere else.

Every time we have a discussion about anything....the time a meeting starts, how to do something, ANY topic of conversation.....she interrupts me and corrects what I am saying before I'm even finished!!!!

Often times....we are both trying to say the same thing....we are just using different words.

I lost my patience with this during a PD this morning and actually growled at her!

Someone say a prayer that I don't hurt this teacher by the end of the school year...it's only day 2 for us.


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Old 08-03-2019, 03:30 AM
 
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Speak up!!

"Stop interrupting me. As soon as I finish talking, it will be your turn."

Don't say this to her in front of someone. Do it when the two of you are alone.

I would also watch to see if she does this when others are speaking. Maybe it is not just you...and maybe it is a habit she is not aware she is doing.
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Old 08-03-2019, 03:52 AM
 
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I disagree with the poster telling you to speak up, but not in front of others.

There is nothing wrong in a meeting when you are silenced by overtalking to shut it down by saying, "Excuse me. Please let me finish." You will actually gain the respect of others for doing so as long as you don't step over her when she is the one with the floor.
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Old 08-03-2019, 05:13 AM
 
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Oh, the times I could have used that line! Wouldn't you love to see the teammate's face if Ameri, with a very sweet smile, delivers that statement!


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Old 08-03-2019, 07:27 AM
 
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That is irritating. I worked with a teacher who interrupted me a lot. When she did it I told her I wasn't finished talking yet. Sometimes I asked her to let me finish what I was saying. She was quite impatient, and it was hard for her. Things did get a little better over time. If you don't say anything to her, she is going to keep doing it.

I love ZipLine's line! I'm going to use it at some point.
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I cotaught with someone like that. She would ask me something and interrupt my response. I started to just stop talking when she interrupted and walk away. She sometimes got angry, but I wasn't putting up with that.

Glad to be retired and away from that.
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Oh, ZipLine...that is GREAT!!!
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Old 08-04-2019, 03:34 AM
 
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A few years ago I reached my breaking point with a colleague who would contradict just about everything I said. I'd be asked my opinion at department meetings, this colleague would attempt to talk with me, etc. It seemed this colleague could only hold a conversation by contradicting every single statement I made. I was so frustrated one day that I said "I see no point in talking with you. I can't remember the last time you agreed with me on anything." I go out of my way now to avoid being around this colleague. It's more effort on my part to do that but has made my life much easier.
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Old 08-04-2019, 10:45 AM
 
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Why are you both trying to say the same thing? What is it you're talking about? Is she always interrupting you or do you do the same thing to her?

The reason I ask is because sometimes it feels like we can't get in our words, but the other person may feel the same way. My friend could hold a conversation with herself because she will talk for 10 minutes straight. If I didn't cut her off at some point, I'd never get a word in.

If it's truly all her, then think about your reaction to her. Looks can say more than words sometimes. Raise your eyebrows when she cuts you off. If that doesn't work, do what another friend of mine does - keep talking. That's hard to do, but it's what she has to do with her job and she said it's the only way she lets people know she's not going to stop what she's saying just because they want to talk.

BTW, I know you're venting and not asking for suggestions, so ignore all this if you're not interested.


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Old 08-04-2019, 11:50 AM
 
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Someone was doing that to me. I stopped midsentence.

I avoid people like this. They need to be verbal at all times.

You might try to really listen. I mean make direct eye contact, lean forward, breathe deeply, smile, nod. It is not a competition. Smart bosses look for the listeners.

Journal about your own need to be heard, to be correct.

You can only model the treatment you wish to receive by giving it to others. She may, to your surprise, change.

Or try:

"Just a second please, I am still making my point here. Thank you"
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I've never been that bad... But ADHD makes people get really excited and blurting/interrupting is a thing. It sucks. If she's a jerk that's one thing.,I wonder if she can't help it. I need direct communication when I'm off my meds sometimes. My friends will say "shhhhhh", and I laugh. It really does suck, have the hard conversation with her which is always is awkward but always better in the long run. Be kind at first,
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Old 08-05-2019, 07:24 PM
 
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Another thing to put in my bucket of "I'm pretty sure I have ADHD." I have a huge problem with interrupting or continuing on to new things too quickly and I'm sure it pisses my co-teachers off, though none of them have said anything. I'm like the energizer bunny though. I talk fast and I jump ideas around quickly and the rest of my team are very slow talkers and need things really explicitly stated so we tend to clash a lot. I need someone to just tell me to slow down or stop talking sometimes.
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Old 08-08-2019, 07:44 PM
 
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Makes me socially less annoying and i don't spend all of my time looking for my keys
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