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Old 09-30-2019, 04:27 PM
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My brother in law committed suicide last night. He called my husband and he tried to talk him down for an hour. We were asked to go close to the scene in case he wanted to talk more.

My BIL called us off and on for the next two hours in my car where we desperately tried to convince him to surrender and let us help him. I was the last one to plead for him not to do this. He has a wife and 3 kids, ages 15-22. We then had to go tell my sister in law. My husband is a police officer and many of his co workers were on scene. We wanted to be the ones to tell her and the kids, not an officer she doesnít know.

We helped start memorial arrangements today but are just in shock. BIL had suffered with depression and alcohol issues off and on for years but I just canít believe it came to this.


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Old 09-30-2019, 04:31 PM
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I have no wordsó- that is so tragic. Thinking of you and your family as you go through this.
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Old 09-30-2019, 04:32 PM
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I am so sorry for the pain that you, DH and the family are going through. I have no words.
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Old 09-30-2019, 04:34 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. You must be in shock from the trauma of the events. Thinking of you
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So tragic!
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I am sorry for your loss and will pray for your entire family.


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Old 09-30-2019, 04:36 PM
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My sister killed herself 10 months ago....you are in a very hard place right now. I get it. It's a place that you can't believe you are in....so many layers of feelings...I'm so sorry this has happened...pm me if you just want to talk....I can only say that this is one of the hardest places you will find yourself in....stay close to those people that you love...again....so sorry for your loss
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Old 09-30-2019, 04:40 PM
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(((Katluv and Family)) I am glad he had the forethought to call you . He knew enough to talk to you and your family and he heard this love for him in his last few hours. My deepest sympathies to you and your entire family. God rest his soul and your family as well.
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So sorry for your loss
Old 09-30-2019, 04:52 PM
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I am sending hugs and saying a prayer. It is never easy to lose someone. Take care.
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Old 09-30-2019, 04:55 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Prayers for your family as you begin a new journey.
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Old 09-30-2019, 05:00 PM
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Iím so sorry for your shock and sadness, Katluv. Iím thinking of you and your family.


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Old 09-30-2019, 05:05 PM
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I'm so sorry. This must be incredibly hard for your whole family.
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Old 09-30-2019, 05:11 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Depression is a monster.
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Old 09-30-2019, 05:14 PM
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Iím sorry for your loss.
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Old 09-30-2019, 05:16 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss and the pain for everyone involved. We lost relative to suicide. PM me if youíd like.
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I am so very sorry.
Old 09-30-2019, 05:18 PM
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Such a horrible loss to your family.
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Old 09-30-2019, 05:19 PM
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Holy cow. What a horror to go through. I wish we had more of a grip on diverting these things from happening.

So sorry for your loss, and as pained as your bil must have been, I am sure he and his family were appreciative of your efforts to stop him. Prayers to your family as everyone sorts through the aftermath of such a tragedy.
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Old 09-30-2019, 05:25 PM
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I am so sorry for your loss. This is so sad.
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Old 09-30-2019, 05:26 PM
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I'm so sorry. How awful for your family. Prayers and hugs to all who knew him.
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Old 09-30-2019, 05:32 PM
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I am sorry to hear this. Deepest prayers for all.
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Old 09-30-2019, 05:38 PM
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I am so sorry, I cannot imagine how horrible this must be.
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Old 09-30-2019, 06:05 PM
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So very sad...Sending many hugs. ((((hugs))))
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Old 09-30-2019, 06:10 PM
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I am so sorry for your family's loss and the pain you are all going through. My heart goes out to you and your family.
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Old 09-30-2019, 06:39 PM
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I am so sorry. My brother in law also committed suicide.

Recovering after losing a family member to suicide is very complex and everyone will deal with it differently. Survivors of Suicide is a support group with chapters throughout the country. See if there is a local chapter near you. They can be instrumental in helping the family to heal.

Grief feels very similar to being wiped out by the flu. Drink plenty of water, sit out in the sun, eat chicken soup, and try to sleep.

A person ends their life by suicide because they want the pain to end. But the pain doesn't end, it transfers to the family they leave behind. Sending prayers for strength during this incredibly difficult time.
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Old 09-30-2019, 06:40 PM
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What a horrible loss. You are in my prayers.
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Old 09-30-2019, 06:51 PM
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I am so sorry.
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Old 09-30-2019, 07:13 PM
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I'm so sorry for your loss! Praying for your family at this very hard time!
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Old 09-30-2019, 07:13 PM
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I am so sorry for your terrible loss. Peace and love to all.
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Old 09-30-2019, 07:54 PM
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Thatís terrible for all involved. Iím so sorry.
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Old 09-30-2019, 08:25 PM
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Oh no! I am so very sorry. I can't imagine what you and your husband (not to mention sister-in-law) must be going through right now. I'm sure you have so many feelings about this.
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Old 09-30-2019, 09:04 PM
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So tragic. You and your family are in my prayers.
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Old 10-01-2019, 02:21 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss and the feelings that go along with this type of thing.
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Old 10-01-2019, 02:45 AM
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I am so sorry.
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Old 10-01-2019, 03:48 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss.
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Old 10-01-2019, 05:00 AM
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My thoughts and prayers will be with you and your family in now and in the days to come.
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Old 10-01-2019, 08:12 AM
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Sorry for your loss.
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Old 10-01-2019, 08:24 AM
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I am so sorry for your loss. Thinking of you and of your family
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Old 10-01-2019, 12:26 PM
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I am so sorry. Mental health is such a difficult issue. You and your husband did everything you could, and you were there for him no matter the outcome. Sending you and your family hugs, strength, and prayers.
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Old 10-01-2019, 12:34 PM
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I'm so sorry. That's awful news to have to share with anyone. I admire you both for wanting it not to be a stranger who told SIL. I'll be thinking of your family this week.
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Old 10-01-2019, 02:12 PM
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Sending hugs and prayers of comfort. Thank you for protecting your sister in law by being there for her. May he find the peace now that was so elusive in life.
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You are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old 10-01-2019, 04:22 PM
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I am so sorry for what you went through and will continue to. You were so compassionate and thoughtful to be the ones to tell the family! My thoughts are with you.
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Old 10-01-2019, 04:44 PM
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My BIL also committed suicide. My sister found him and still suffers greatly from PTSD. It is a horrible thing to have to go through. I am so sorry and I am asking our Heavenly Father to give you all peace and comfort.
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Old 10-01-2019, 05:13 PM
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I am so sorry for your deep loss. Please know that we are here for you and my prayers support all of you. Depression and other mental illnesses are monsters.

May God's peace be with you.

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Old 10-01-2019, 05:19 PM
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What a terrible loss for all of you. I can't imagine your pain, having spoken with him in his final hours. Wishing you strength & comfort in the difficult days ahead.
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Old 10-01-2019, 09:56 PM
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So sorry for your loss.
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Old 10-02-2019, 01:50 AM
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I am so sorry. My brother suffers from depression. I know what it feels like to be on the other end of a phone line trying to help someone who is in so much mental pain. Prayers for you and your family.
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Old 10-02-2019, 02:11 AM
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I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers go out to your entire family.
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Old 10-02-2019, 03:06 AM
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You and your family are in my prayers!
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Old 10-02-2019, 03:08 PM
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I am so sorry- I can't imagine your pain. I'll be keeping you all in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old 10-02-2019, 05:59 PM
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How very awful for all of you. I am so glad you were able to be there for him. I am glad you are there now for his wife. Hugs to you.
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Old 10-02-2019, 06:03 PM
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I am so sorry. I just read this today. Thinking of you, your dh, and his family.
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