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A quote schools should think about.
Old 12-23-2019, 07:54 AM
 
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Was just watching a video regarding how to be an effective communicator.

The man in the vlog mentioned a profound quote that I felt schools could really use:

"We can choose to be right, or we can choose to be kind."

It really resonated with me.

What's more important? Proving somebody wrong, or listening to each other?

Food for thought.

Anyway, happy holidays to all.



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I like it!
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I think along these lines when people get under my skin. Why escalate? I don't let people run me over, but if escalating serves no purpose except to be right, then I don't. And there's a bonus: it's ultimately kinder to yourself, too!
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For my two cents, I'm not a fan of "either-or" quotes and thinking--in many ways, they just feel divisive to me! While I think I understand the sentiment, this quote leaves me wondering why I have to be either right or kind. Does being kind require being wrong? Why can't I be both?

I do think I get the sentiment and it is important to be a good and kind listener. But effective communication isn't one-sided. We sure could use a higher level of civility and common courtesy, particularly on social media. I've learned that nearly any statement one makes can quickly turn into an argument. I'm constantly reminding myself not to take the bait.

So I often suffer in silence, in part because I know that any contribution from me isn't likely to make much difference. (A man convinced against his will is of the same opinion still.) But is it "kind" to hide our own beliefs? For that matter, are we neglecting a societal duty or obligation if we don't object or speak up on important issues?

We could really use more thinking to accompany communication because communication often reflects thinking -- or a lack of it. Perhaps before we "talk" about something we could talk about HOW we're going to talk. One of the things I've done with middle schoolers is to create a debate. Pick a topic... do cats or dogs make better pets? If you think it's cats, then you have to "argue" in favor of dogs, and vice versa.

Yeah... happy holidays! Hopefully that's not controversial!
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Old 12-24-2019, 09:48 AM
 
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This is probably based on a quotation by Dr. Wayne Dyer:
If you have a choice between being right and being kind, choose kind.

This was quoted in R. J. Palacio's excellent book, Wonder, as one of Mr. Browne's precepts. I've read that chapter to classes a couple times during subbing assignments, and it never fails to grab the students' attention.

There are times when you know another person is clearly wrong, but at some point, it's necessary to ask if it's really worthwhile to continue the verbal battle.
Youthcantknow, you're absolutely right. Excellent points!
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Depends on the circumstances
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if escalating serves no purpose except to be right, then I don't.
Yep...this is the key difference.

Sometimes it's necessary to take a stand, even though you may not come off as being "kind." But if you're pushing your opinion or agenda out of pure ego and need to be "right," then it's time to step back.



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