I must take out a 5th grader who is very behind in language and words, but he does NOT want to come out of the class. Utter refusal. The school can demand, but he won't leave the class, even for prizes. He will also refuse extra help in the class. What techniques are used then?

[Haley23]

A few years ago, my teammate showed a 6th grade boy her service log and told him she had to "report to the government" when he refused to work with her. Unbelievably, it worked and that scared him into coming. Worth a shot!

Since you've already tried rewards, I'd try consequences at this point. My go-to would be, "It's not a choice. You can come now or at recess." Presumably you've talked to him and tried to work out any actual issues there may be. Last year I had a kid who would throw a fit every time I came to the door, but was 100% fine as soon as we stepped into the hallway. He didn't really mind coming, but was embarrassed and wanted to "save face" with his friends. The class he was in was a Lord of the Flies nightmare, so it just wasn't a battle I fought. The classroom teacher had far more pressing issues.

I'm also wondering if you've contacted parents? Either they can help you get the kid on board, or if they can deny services if they really don't care that he doesn't go.

[Lmc762]

I would try consequences with this particular student. Also, I would contact the parents so the know what is going on.

[Lakeside]

It sounds like embarrassment to me. Are you allowed to take kids not officially on your service? Sometimes being part of a "random" group is easier on kids.

Or do you have contract hours after school (when you usually plan)? Maybe the parents could arrange to have him stay after, and see you without the audience of peers, and you could swap your planning period to his slot during the day.

[Song of Joy]

I know your schedule is tied up tight, but it might help if you could collect him in the hall when he's in transition from lunch, recess, a special, etc., so he is not seen leaving the room. I know, easier said than done.