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Old 06-12-2018, 06:35 AM
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At what age do you think it’s ok to leave kids in the house (with strict orders to stay there) with a parent that is sleeping?


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Old 06-12-2018, 07:27 AM
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I have taken naps before leaving my daughter up by herself since she was 5 (she may have been older 4 I can't remember) She has strict orders not to go outside and if anyone comes to the door she is to wake me even if it is someone she knows. Also I have gone over scenarios where she should wake me up (she is sick, hurt, scared, etc.). This is really only for naps lasting about an hour.
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Old 06-12-2018, 08:00 AM
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I think I'd feel comfortable once they are 9-10 years old, however I am a heavy sleeper.

More than age, I'd base this on whether or not your child seems responsible and ready. Do they make good decisions when you are there? At school? Can they follow directions? Do they understand the safety plan?
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Old 06-12-2018, 08:13 AM
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I think it depends on the age and maturity of the child, and how long and what time of day it is, too. If it is a parent sleeping from working a night shift, or just sleeping in or taking a nap matters, too.

From a fairly young age (4) my kids knew they could get up, play or watch tv, and get cereal while I was still asleep. Maybe they could have been okay with lunch if there were rules. But for an extended time, I wouldn’t be okay with it that young.
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Old 06-12-2018, 09:09 AM
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During the day - only an hour at a time

5 and 7 year olds


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Old 06-12-2018, 09:12 AM
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I think as long as you can trust them to follow rules you provide, it would be okay.
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Old 06-12-2018, 09:37 AM
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When my newborn was 1-3 months I totally napped while I had the baby in the house!

Otherwise, I think I would play it safe and say probably 9 or 10.
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Old 06-12-2018, 11:29 AM
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I think it depends on your child's maturity level, the time of day, and what temptations lie before them. Lol older is not necessarily better. Some ten year olds know they can sneak out of the house while some five year olds respect house rules and vice-versa.
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Old 06-12-2018, 01:22 PM
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I also think it depends more on the maturity of the child and how generally compliant they are. If the kids generally take rules very seriously and you feel that you can trust them, fine. If they are the type that love to "test limits," probably not.
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Old 06-12-2018, 07:21 PM
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I agree that a lot depends upon the maturity and demeanor of the child. By the time ours were about 6 I would do that occasionally. At that age they also got up on their own on non-school days and fixed themselves cereal, watched TV, etc. until I got up.

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Old 06-12-2018, 07:25 PM
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My DH was in the military and deployed constantly when we had dd, then he got out of the military and is now in law enforcement working crazy shifts.

I could not always be awake when he was gone. Once they were preschool age they knew rules of what to do or not do when I was asleep. They also knew to wake me up if needed. As for leaving them with him after working a night shift.....he is a heavy sleeper and does need his rest. I consider them to be home alone if he is sleeping after working nights, I think my boys were about 12 and 10 before I left them home alone or home with sleeping dad for long periods of time.
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Old 06-12-2018, 07:30 PM
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As others have said, I wouldn't base it on the age of the child, but on how well they can be trusted to follow rules etc.

I've met 9 or 10 year olds that I wouldn't leave unsupervised for 10 minutes but at the same time, I could trust my oldest ds by the time he was 6ish to be just fine with me still sleeping. Of course I would still listen for sounds of trouble as he still would find himself getting into some mischief every now and then.

I honestly think it's good to allow young kids some semi-unsupervised time. Watching them like a hawk 24/7 is guaranteed to make them less independent and drive the parent(s) crazy!
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