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Old 02-02-2019, 05:43 PM
 
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I observed a coworker make two children cry this week. Once during an assessment and once during a small group lesson. Two different children. She pushes them too hard to the point of making them cry. Would you say something to her or Principal?


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Oh, tough one. Nobody wants to see this. But...how to handle....

Can you talk to teacher first is a general way? Maybe the kids are super sensitive or thereís something going on youíre not aware of.

Or, if you have a really good P, and you have a good relationship with P, say what you saw...no judgment.

Or...let it go and see if the parents deal with the teacher.
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Old 02-02-2019, 07:06 PM
 
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Not your circus, not your monkeys. Stay out of it.
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Say nothing, stay out of it. Itís not your business.
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Old 02-02-2019, 09:11 PM
 
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I make my kids cry. And what about it?


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Old 02-02-2019, 09:25 PM
 
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I feel like 3rd grades cry at the drop of a hat-if this is a third grade class then its par for the course. I have kids in my class cry from time to time too and its never because I push them too hard, its because third grade is hard and kids today arent at all used to having to do things without someone holding their hand. They arent used to anything being hard.

I would go with what others have posted-stay out of what you may not understand.
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Old 02-02-2019, 10:54 PM
 
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What Kinderkr4zy said. Kids are getting to the ages of eight or nine without anyone ever having any expectations of them. When we start to expect them to follow the rules, to understand that rules do too apply to them, that they have to work on their own and we won't do it for them ... they cry. I pass the tissues, and move back to the work at hand.

(If a child is truly upset about something, I am a little more sympathetic; I'm not a total hardhearted witch. But over schoolwork or reasonable expectations, nope.)
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Old 02-03-2019, 04:09 AM
 
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No, nope, no can do.

Not your circus . . . not your monkeys.
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Was she being deliberately cruel, or calling them out for poor behavior? I'm a super nice, patient, teacher who never yells, and I've made kids cry, particularly when they misbehave or their work isn't their best. Kids should cry when they disappoint someone or feel embarrassed about their behavior. Crying doesn't necessarily mean something is wrong to the point of needing an intervention. If she's calling them names, engaging in bullying, or abusing her position to torment them, that's a different story. If it's just her style to be a little more firm, stay out of it.
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I made a kid cry this week because I told her she had to sit on the carpet with the rest of the class during the lesson. I'm so mean and no one likes me, apparently. Then an hour later she was playing a game with me and giving me hugs.

Unless you truly know the situation and the relationship with the kid, I would say nothing.


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Thanks for all the feedback. Will def take all your advice.
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Old 02-03-2019, 09:16 AM
 
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I don't think an effective principal would appreciate you telling on your colleague in this instance. If there is an ongoing problem with your colleague belittling students,the principal already knows about it.
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Old 02-03-2019, 09:45 AM
 
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I'd stay out of it. I think that's usually good advice for most work situations. When in doubt, stay out.
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Old 02-03-2019, 10:02 AM
 
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Stay out of it. Not your business. Also, I think it is highly inappropriate for any teacher to talk negatively to admin about another teacher. Under any circumstances.
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Students cry for many reasons. Pushing students hard is subjective. If the teacher perpetually hollers at the kids for little reason, then you could say something. I have seen students cry for the most minor things. Once when I was subbing, a student started crying his eyes out. I had no clue why. He was uncomfortable with a new person in the room. Of course I became an easy target to blame. K-12 teachers are pushed too hard these days. It's a very difficult job. I did it for sixteen years. I teach in college now. I won't go back to that environment. I'm pretty old school. I think kids are coddled too much in society. I wouldn't lose your peripheral vision concerning your colleague, but the kids are probably okay.
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Old 02-03-2019, 02:39 PM
 
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Leave it alone. Mind your own classroom.
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Don't tell please.
Old 02-03-2019, 03:52 PM
 
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This may backfire on you depending on the dynamics of your environment. I would leave it alone if I were you. However, you intentions are honorable.
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Emily 26 puts it as I see it.
Old 02-03-2019, 04:05 PM
 
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Kids should feel bad if they have misbehave or do not do their work.
Crying about your own mistakes will get you nowhere in life. The kid does not need to be babied after misbehaving. Unless he or she learns from the mistake, by feeling bad, they won't change. If you don't know the situation, trust the teacher.
I have only known 1 teacher who torments certain kids to a point of too far. The 1st time I saw it, I was so stunned that I froze. That is how bad it was. Fortunately, a good friend of mine saw something very similar...same kid..a few days later. She had the same reaction as me.
We came up with a plan to divert this teacher to get her to calm her butt down and get her a break from the kid.
It is not our job, but both of us were really upset how she targeted a kid we both have had in the past and it was what I'd call being a bully to a kid. ( That has never happened in my career before this teacher.)
The teacher is mentally unstable and for some reason, the office is even afraid of her.
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I made three kids cry last week
Old 02-03-2019, 04:28 PM
 
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They forgot their library books and couldn't check out a new one.

The first time I made a kindergartener cry, I was subbing in a class. After redirecting him every five minutes all day long, about 2:00 pm I moved his card and broke his heart, apparently. But ten minutes later, he was back, and up to his old tricks.

As a third grade teacher, I had countless children cry in my class, I was considered the "too nice" teacher. Unfortunately, we teachers don't have much choice in whether or not to give highly stressful assessments, nor do we have a choice as to whether or not to have high expectations for our students.

So, unless the language she was using was unduly harsh, or you are privy to the child's history and behavior, I would tend to give the teacher the benefit of the doubt.
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Old 02-03-2019, 05:59 PM
 
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Oh man, I really hope that unless that teacher is deliberately being cruel, you should stay out of it. Over the years I've "made" a number of students cry, and never once was I being unkind or mean. In fact, one of my students cried during an observation!

This year I have a kiddo who will cry over everything. Here are some examples:

- Her nose was running, I asked her to get a tissue.
- She forgot her homework.
- Her pencil broke.
- She was the last one called on to give an answer.
- She was the first one called on to give an answer.
- I told the class it was time for recess.
- Her iPad took awhile to turn on.
- I said her name.
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Old 02-03-2019, 07:17 PM
 
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The crying is getting ridiculous. The girls in my class are pretty chill, but the boys - oh my!

This is them right here:
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Her nose was running, I asked her to get a tissue.
- She forgot her homework.
- Her pencil broke.
- She was the last one called on to give an answer.
- She was the first one called on to give an answer.
- I told the class it was time for recess.
- Her iPad took awhile to turn on.
- I said her name.
Mine will cry because:
- They lost the soccer game
- The other kids didn't want to play the game they wanted.
- They can only check out one library book because they didn't return one.
- I didn't call on them.
- They lost a glove, then found it, but it took their play time.


More resilience would sure be nice.
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