My father was in the hospital from August 4-11. So August has been a blurr. We went in with a stomache ache and left with terrable news. A social worker who was getting ready to help him go home or what we were told go to "rehab" due to not eating to get his strength up told he and my mother that his prostate cancer had spread to the lungs, bones, and lymph nodes. No doctor had said this. They were a bit taken back. She went to the chart and checked and it had been there since MAY. Well needless to say he came home, he had a bad night so my sister and I spent the next night there to help. He took a turn for the worse and hospital rehab and the ambulance were called. Twenty-four hours later he was gone. The next day my sister, mother, and I made the arrangements with the funeral home, cemetery, and church. My DH and I got all the adult beverages for the after party and delivered them. Funeral was yesterday. My mother wanted it all in one day so we had short visitation in the church, mass, burial, and wake. I go back to school Tuesday. I have had a sub for the first week of school. I am ready to go back but boy my students better be ready for me!
I hear there are some duseys!
FYI With all this going on I have not kept up with the BTS exchange sorry!
I am so very sorry for your loss. Cancer is such an ugly disease. I'm shocked that the doctors did not relay the extent of your father's illness to his DW and family.
My heart goes out to you and your family. I'm so sorry for your loss.
We had a similar situation with my father 11 years ago. Long story short, we were in the ER when a doctor came in to tell us "the cancer spread to his spinal cord." That was the first time we heard he had cancer. He had been going in for regular blood work and check ups every 4 to 6 months prior to that for years.
Oh Laura, I'm so sorry. I remember being glad to get back to work after my dad's death. I was surprised and touched to find a huge pile of cards the students had made, a couple of well-loved little stuffed toys, and a crumpled paper flower on my desk when I arrived. And the students were so sweet and concerned. I know you haven't met yours yet, but I hope they are sweet and caring too.
Wishing you a good return to work, and sending thoughts to you and all your family as you grieve.
for your loss. Losing your Dad is big. I know you will miss him. Your Mom will need your support as she makes this big life adjustment. I hope all the good memories of your Dad will help everyone in your family at this sad time.
Laura, I am so sorry about your dad! Sounds very much like my dad's journey from prostate cancer to bone cancer. He lost his battle in May. Getting back in a routine can be a really good thing! Praying you have a great year after your delayed start!
You had done a great job setting up the BTS exchange, so it pretty much ran itself. Thank you for doing that!
Losing a parent is traumatic. Keep the good memories of your father close to your heart. I know that stomachache very well. There will lots of lose ends to deal with, so be sure to be available for your mother. I found that going back to work after a few days was best for me.
I am so sorry for your loss! Years ago my dad also passed away right at the start of the school year. It was hectic trying to get into a routine with my students, but I welcomed the distraction. I think we are always daddy's girl, no matter how old we are. Prayers of comfort for you and your family.
so sorry to hear about your precious Dad, Laura. My dad just broke a hip and is still in the hospital. I can't believe they didn't tell you about the cancer. What a whirlwind you've been through! My thoughts and prayers are with you.
I am glad you were there with your father at the end. It was nice you were able to help with the arrangements. I am sure your mother and sister appreciated it.
Shocking events is always difficult to digest and react too. I hope that you are able to deal with it and take time for yourself. Your students will like to see you and will be very understanding. Please know that there are several people here that are in that same season of life as you. My friend calls it the season that we start to take care of our parents. Good luck to you with your transition to life without your dad.
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my dad a couple of years ago and miss him dearly. I hope that getting back into a school routine will be good for you. Hugs and prayers sent your way.
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