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Old 06-02-2017, 01:46 PM
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So, I know people post and complain that they have a hard time saying "no".

I feel like I have the opposite problem. I seriously think I say "no" too quickly/easily. If I don't want to do something I just decline. There are times I think I should probably suck it up and do something, but don't.

So, which is worse? Forcing yourself to do something you don't want to do or saying no even though you should probably do it?

Do you find yourself saying "yes" or "no" too quickly?


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Old 06-02-2017, 01:52 PM
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What a great question! I used to say 'yes' to everything--I desperately wanted to please. Then DH got sick and in the last year I've said 'no' to almost everything. Guess what I learned? No one cares.

If there's one lesson I've learned from retirement it's to enjoy doing as I choose.
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Old 06-02-2017, 02:24 PM
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I am working on saying no and it has given me a sense of more self respect and less worry about what others think. Our union work to rule activity for the past 3 months has been an eye opener.
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Old 06-02-2017, 03:23 PM
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Today, I am planning one of those home parties that I DO NOT WANT TO HAVE! UGH! I should not have had that 3rd glass of wine when I went to my friends party........
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Old 06-02-2017, 03:33 PM
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I probably say no too much. I get anxiety thinking about being in large groups of people so my automatic response is usually no. But then afterwards I almost always regret it. In most cases I realize I would have enjoyed whatever it was that I said no to. I need to work on saying yes more!


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Old 06-02-2017, 05:14 PM
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I say 'yes' too much. I've talked about this before. I get something out of saying 'yes' and being busy. It's something I need to work on and it makes me feel fulfilled.

I do say 'no' to my husband though.. and that's probably the opposite of what I should be doing.
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Old 06-02-2017, 10:40 PM
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I guess without a balance, they are both bad.
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Old 06-03-2017, 06:21 AM
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I disagree with knitting's pronouncement.
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I guess without a balance, they are both bad.
I think it's a personal decision. My personal belief is that you shouldn't let anyone try to tell you what to be.
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