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Old 02-22-2022, 10:25 AM
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I am a BALL of emotions right now! My son and his girlfriend of 9 years decided to get married. He told me last August, but then said they were in no rush. Well, she decided that she liked the date 2/22/22 and they are getting married TODAY at the courthouse He sent me a message a week ago to "take off work". Oh boy. So...my question is: How much do I give them for a wedding gift? I'm recently divorced, so it's just me. For a host of reasons, he has decided not to communicate with his dad. They are both 28 years old and own a home together, so they are settled (which I'm very grateful for).


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Old 02-22-2022, 10:38 AM
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Wow!!! That must have been quite a surprise. I would be a bundle of emotions too. My own DD gets married 2 months from today..

I say do what you are comfortable with. You had no time to plan or budget, but this is obviously what they decided worked for them.
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Old 02-22-2022, 10:39 AM
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Congratulations! I would pay for the wedding partyís celebratory meal after the ceremony. After all, you arenít responsible for a rehearsal dinner. If I had more in my budget after that, I would give them a monetary gift (not cards or certificatesóI love Venmo where I can write a brief note) and wish them well in their new journey.
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Old 02-22-2022, 10:43 AM
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I would say whatever you can comfortably afford. It sounds like they are level headed, responsible adults. They probably aren't expecting anything and would be upset if you went beyond your ability. I can't give you an exact number but I would say somewhere between $100 (perfect amount for a celebratory dinner) and $1,000. Again, it should be what you can comfortably afford.

Or if you have an heirloom that they would/could use and want, now might be the time.
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Old 02-22-2022, 10:45 AM
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Well first, congratulations! I agree with paying for a meal today if there is one. Then a monetary gift that you can afford. You donít have to give it to them today. Take some time time think about it and today just enjoy watching them begin their lives together.


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Old 02-22-2022, 10:51 AM
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Maybe you can ask if there is something they need for their home that you can buy for them. If going with cash, that really depends on your budget (especially since you didn't know this was happening so soon).
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Old 02-22-2022, 11:14 AM
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suggestions!
Is there something that you are planning to will to your son that might be an appropriate gift now such as a painting, print or photograph? Furniture?
Congrats to you, MOG!
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Old 02-22-2022, 01:42 PM
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Oh my goodness, thatís so exciting. Iíd give them $222.22. I also like the idea of paying for the meal.
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Old 02-22-2022, 02:01 PM
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Especially because this was kind of a surprise, I think you can take time to consider what you would like to give them, and then give it when you are ready.
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Old 02-22-2022, 02:22 PM
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Iíd give them $222.22.
I was thinking the same!


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Old 02-22-2022, 03:42 PM
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I am total agreement with Teddi, but then read the comment about giving $222.22. What fun would that be, if you can do it? I also like the idea about paying for a celebratory small group dinner.

I do hope you got to go to the ceremony!
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Old 02-22-2022, 03:58 PM
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Oh man! That would have been a great idea . I was there for the ceremony- it was really nice. I ended up doing a card with $300 and splitting dinner with her parents. My son has always been a bit unconventional and they like to spend their money on their home and travel. It was a good day .
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Old 02-22-2022, 04:03 PM
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What wonderful gifts! You sound happy. Congratulations again!
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Old 02-22-2022, 04:11 PM
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Congratulations! You gave the perfect gifts that they will enjoy.
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Old 02-22-2022, 05:26 PM
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Congratulations! I know they will appreciate the generous gift!
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Old 02-22-2022, 07:31 PM
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This is a really cool date! I was thinking that as I wrote it out today. Congratulations to them!! And to you Sounds like you did a great thing. I wish them many happy years together
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Old 02-23-2022, 05:35 AM
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Glad it was a good day and that you were able to attend the ceremony
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