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Old 04-15-2019, 11:21 AM
 
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Hello, Iím a 2nd year teacher who is now feeling like teaching isnít for me. Last year went pretty well. My class was more behaved, and I got great evaluations. This year has been a nightmare. I recently had a baby and was pregnant the first part of the year so idk if that factored into anything at all. My class is awful and Iíve gotten pretty bad evaluations so far. My principal and asst principal just met with highlighting their concerns which span from (organization, assesments use, instructional planning). Iíve been working hard to improve and felt good about my most recent observation and thought Iíd had everything theyíd be looking for based on their past concerns but apparently not. My asst principal said I didnít have any assesment data to base my plans on but I literally left the pretest I used to create groups right underneath my plans. When I mentioned that she said ď oh I mean for each unitĒ I didnít understand because why would I still be basing my plans on unit 1 when we are well into unit 6 which is what I had available for her to look at it. She says my communication log wasnít filled out enough but I left other forms of documentation that I am communicating with parents with the log because Iím not good at writing down everytime I text a parent about a field trip form they keep forgetting to sign. She also says my plans werenít super specific enough. I typically leave a general description of what Iím doing not a play by play of every minute of instruction. As a new mommy plus a 2nd year teacher this is all beginning to seem too much for me. I recommended that I could come on Saturdays just to give myself a day to organize, plan, etc but I have a family, a life, and honestly donít want to spend my saturdays at my school when I could be bonding with my family. Maybe teaching isnít for me. Financially my husband and I are ok and weíd definetley would have to do some major reworking if I stopped working however, the problems keep piling up and Iím feel very discouraged.


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I would just comply and ask how that appears. Don't let this put you off.
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First, please use punctuation...your post was a struggle to read.

That said, it sounds like maybe you should take more time to be at home with your baby. Teaching is a demanding job, and a big time suck in the early years. It is hard to be a mom and a teacher.

It is possible your admin has picked up on your attitude/mind set and is concerned you arenít taking the work seriously. I am not judging you at all here, just giving you a potential perspective from the other side.

Could you possibly job share next year? Work 3 days a week?
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Just wanted to let you know that
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I had NO problem reading your post, and I am a retired language arts teacher.
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It sounds like you are a good teacher
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and doing all the things a good teacher should be doing. Planning and organization are important, but their concerns didnít seem to be about actual teaching. Communication logs can suck up a great deal of time and not impact actual instruction. That being said, sometimes supervisors look for things to criticize. My suggestion would be to listen carefully to what they want, ask questions if needed, ask for examples as well, be receptive and nice when conversing with them and then do some of what they want. Show them you are making an effort. It sounds like you are stressed with a newborn and the demands of a classroom and understandably so. This doesnít mean you are not a good teacher, but you are simply doing what millions of other parents are doing. Maybe reflect each day on three things that brought you joy in your classroom to help change your mindset. As far as spending a Saturday in the classroom, that is a highly personal choice. I think it I asking a lot to expect you to do it. Better to Use your prep time efficiently, ask your team for suggestions when needed, and teach with joy. . .and then go home to you family and savor time together.


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I didn't have any problem reading your post either. If you think this is an awful grammar post, you got to read mine. Mine are a disaster.

Also, I just want to express that whenever a person is under stress, grammar usually suffers as well. It happens to me all the time even when I am speaking. Having said that, this is the vent. When teachers come here to vent, they are under stress, anxiety, and emotional distress. Certainly, their grammar is the last thing in my mind. Actually, I expect grammar errors as part of the ordeal they are under except if you are a guy named "Angelo." He is made of steel. He never bends under pressure or nothing.
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Please do NOT give up your Saturdays for this job! You will only end up feeling resentful.

Take everything the administrators told you with a grain of salt, if possible. They often grasp at straws to try to justify their criticisms. They also tend to vacillate about what they are looking for - first telling you one thing, and then telling you the exact opposite at a later date.

Do your best, and leave it at work. You will never regret spending every possible moment with your family.
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Wow! Punctuation???
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Please don't listen to critical punctuation posts! This is a vent board not a grammar lesson! It sounds as if administration might be extra critical of you because something else is going on. Are there budget cuts in your district? Administration can always find things wrong if they are looking for issues. Especially, because of the overwhelming amount of responsibilities teacher have each and everyday.
Honestly, if you have the financial resources to be able to walk away and spend time with your precious baby that is more important than trying to reach impossible and unrealistic expectations set by most districts.
It is not you! You are only human! Best of Luck!
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I was able to read your post just fine...sometimes we need to just type it all down and get it off our chest! If you and your husband are swing it with you staying home do it! I would in a heartbeat if it meant my happiness and well being would skyrocket! Education will always be here to come back to!
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It is a very hard juggling act to keep up when you are a new teacher and a new mom. I thought that with 2 years under my belt, I was ready to handle both. BUT, it was a new school, which any time you switch- districts, schools, grades, subject- it's like being a new teacher all over again. My sister and DH were my saving grace as I did work very late nights. My DH would show up some nights, knock on my window, and pass my dinner to me through the window. I moved grades the next year, and after that, I had to take a break.

Over the years, I have also learned that those difficult years are given to you to: 1) show you that you are stronger than you give yourself credit for; 2) grow yourself as a person and educator; 3) give you a reference later to make some kids/parents/admins/situations seem like not as big of an issue (well, at least it wasn't as bad as...); 4)help you make decisions about your life path.

There is nothing wrong with taking a break from this profession if you truly believe that is what's best. You need to do what is right for you first, your family second. Plain as that. You do not owe the school, the students, or the parents. Another teacher will come in next year, and teach those new 2nd graders.

You can always work part time as a tutor or intervention specialists with a school. Also try subbing.


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I had no problem reading your post. It was just fine.

Mine might be thought of as hard to read, too...oh, well...here goes...

Teaching is getting way too difficult. It's not you, it's all the picky administrators who are so worried about their reputation and their job and the school's standing with the standardized tests. Kids are getting much less "teachable" - behaviors are getting more and more distracting and disturbing. Parents' expectations for their own kids are way out of line. Teachers are not being backed by administration when teachers need help with kids that are acting out far beyond what should be normal.

What you are experiencing is not "normal" - it sounds like a very difficult situation, not of your making and not because you aren't trying and working hard to make your classroom a positive, effective learning environment. You need help, and your admin is just criticizing, not helping. It takes years to learn how to teach, and you are only on your second year with a new baby and a family that you should be spending more time with, and less stressed time with. You aren't getting the time and support from admins that you need to find your own way as a teacher.

I honestly do not know what I'd do in your situation. I know that my mental health is worth more than dealing with such a negative working environment, and with admins who don't care enough to support me, rather than pick pick pick at me. Data isn't worth a thing if the classroom is not an effective place for kids to learn. You need admin to step in to help with kids who are acting out and making your room a negative learning environment. Your classroom needs to be a safe, productive, cheerful place, both for your students and most especially for you. You are the leader in the room, and if you ain't happy, ain't nobody happy. I blame your admin for lack of support.

I hope things get better. The teacher shortage is getting worse by the year, and the kids need good people in the classroom. But you can't do it alone, and at some point it's just not worth it, for you or your family. Know that there are a whole lot of people out here who are rooting for you and hoping that you succeed.

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I felt the same way you did my first year and second year. I stumbled through it, and kept at it. I ended up letting it take over my life. Work came first. My kids and family second. I regret it every day now that all but one of my kids are grown. Itís just a job. If I could do it all again, Iíd would have chosen to be a stay at home mom. No one appreciates the extra time and effort teachers put in. Not admin. Not parents. Not students. Do what is right for you and yours. Blessings.

Ps: I read your post just fine.
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Teaching is exhausting, and I'm sorry that things are hard. You don't need to go to school on Saturdays. Spend the weekend enjoying time with your family.

You may want to use paragraphs in your writing.
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Being a new mom is exhausting, and it's no wonder that things like logging a text (which takes longer than the actual text) are not priorities right now. It sounds to me like nitpicking on the part of the observer.

If you think they are actually going to fire you, I'd probably resign as of the end of the year for "family reasons" - just so you don't have that black mark on your record. But if you don't think they're close to doing that, I'd probably stick it out, take the summer with your baby, and see how you feel after that.

First off, you'll get a sense of whether you enjoy being a SAHM. Maybe you'll love being home, and you can really work out the numbers to take some significant time off, or maybe you'll find it doesn't suit you, and look forward to going back.

If you do go back, there's a good chance that next year will be easier - a new class, a year not broken up by you, then a sub, then you again, etc. (Plus your baby will be older, and you'll likely be getting more sleep!)

Good luck, and do keep in mind that it's normal to be a bit overwhelmed!
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Seriously people? You are criticizing her post for punctuation and the use of paragraphs? She is venting!
Unbelievable!
I read it fine. If you had problems reading it, then don't read it and certainly do not comment about your inability to read it.

Don't go in on Saturdays! Make it through this year! Then maybe stay at home with baby for awhile! Then come back to teaching! Life is too short to be stressing! Your family needs you! Good luck!
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The amount of time given to teaching is incredible, especially in the early years. I truly have no idea how new mothers and mothers of young children do it. If there is a way to work out not teaching while your family is young, I say you and your dh have a big conversation and see if you can make something work.

Communication: I do not text parents. Give them your email and let them email you. Then you have a built in log. Do you send home weekly or monthly homework logs? Those are communication tools. File a copy or give a copy every time to your p.

Do you have a mentor? If not, see if you can get someone who can share what they put in their plans. If you use a template (or planbook.org) you can feed some recurring stuff in. This year I learned how to make units, which includes my standards everytime, along with notes or documents. I love it, and it helps my plans look "more complete" even when they really haven't changed.

Good luck with your decision. Being a new mommy is awesome, but it also does take away from your teacher brain. That is a given.
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It certainly can, if you let it, and it's really not worth it. Looking back from the perspective of 30 years experience I wish that I had chosen a different career. It took way too much time away from my family. There were times when I couldn't take time off to be with loved ones who needed my support. It was stressful every step of the way and, although it gets better when you have a bit of experience under your belt, there are dozens of factors that can unexpectedly throw you under the stress bus at any time. If I wanted to deal with all that, I certainly could have chosen a career that paid more.

The pressures on young teachers today are beyond ridiculous. It's a wonder anybody sticks with it. Was it your principal who suggested you come in on a Saturday? I absolutely believe that some principals pride themselves on how much free work they can get out of teachers. My philosophy about putting in extra time is that I will only EVER do it if it's going to reduce my stress levels significantly. There's absolutely no way that I would give up a minute of weekend time if I had a new baby.

All that being said, I think it would make sense for you to try a different job before you abandon a career that you, no doubt, spent a lot of time and money getting trained for. If you can afford to quit working entirely, you can probably also afford to work a part time job for a few years. Or you may be able to find a job in a system that doesn't have the "corporate America" approach to education that seems to prevalent these days. Sometimes private parochial schools have a more "family first" attitude then public schools (although there can sometimes be a whole other set of stresses.) Maybe you just need a better principal. If it were me, though, I would not stay in that job.
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Wow. If you want to further put someone down after that person is already struggling, this isn’t the board for you. Do you make rude remarks to your students when they don’t always use punctuation? OP is clearly upset. I’m sure punctuation isn’t a huge priority in her line of thought right now. You say you aren’t judging but you automatically assume she has a negative attitude at work. This is a VENT board.

PS, I’m starting to think keltikmom and travelingfar are trolls.

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I know some young mom's who have opted to teach English on line rather than go back into the classroom. Apparently online teachers are in great demand. The teachers I know are able to schedule when they can be online and they can schedule night time classes when their husbands can take care of the baby.
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The amount of time given to teaching is incredible, especially in the early years. I truly have no idea how new mothers and mothers of young children do it. If there is a way to work out not teaching while your family is young, I say you and your dh have a big conversation and see if you can make something work.
I couldn't agree more. Teaching is not a profession where you can just leave it at the door in your first few years, or whenever you change grades, schools, or curriculum. If teachers were treated as professionals, it would be more so, but that's a different post for a different forum!

Your administrator may be telling you in a subtle way that you aren't a good fit for the school. Do you get along with your admin? Sometimes it is that they want to find a way to get a friend into your position, etc. It's not fair/ethical, but it happens all the time. I agree about the communication--email is a log, complete with time/date stamps. If you have a mentor, use him/her to help you. Be specific with what you need and want from your mentor. If you don't have one, do you have a grade-level team that could help you with planning lessons and units?
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DO NOT GIVE UP YOUR SATURDAYS TO WORK AT SCHOOL! Sorry for the yelling but donít do it. Try to comply with the things noted, but put your family first. Donít give up precious time with your baby. Believe me, no one will notice or care that you put in extra time, but you will miss out on time with your child.
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