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Old 02-26-2019, 01:53 PM
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Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals?

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers?

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel?

Did you provide the car seat?

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?

What did you do in your home for safety measures?

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting?

How often do you babysit?


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Old 02-26-2019, 01:58 PM
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Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals?
The parents provide the food as there are specific diet restrictions.
Do you as a sitter provide the diapers?
The parents provide the diapers.
Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?
The child comes here.
Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel?
Yes we discussed every possible problem and agreed upon a solution.
Did you provide the car seat?
No,the parents did.
Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?
No,the parents did.
What did you do in your home for safety measures?

We strapped down the bookshelves,cover electrical outlets and bought a gate for the stairway. There was no need to cushion furniture corners.Edit: we also strapped the tv to the wall.


Do your adult children pay you for babysitting?

No
How often do you babysit?
3 days a week and occasional weekend events.

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Old 02-26-2019, 02:02 PM
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Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals?
If it was at my house I used my food, if it was at their house I used their food.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers?
No

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?
We did both, lived fairly close to each other

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel?
Yes, but not every time. We took them many many places in our car. We would keep the parents informed but didn’t seek permission each time.

Did you provide the car seat?
We had our own car seats just because we had them so often it was easier.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?
No

What did you do in your home for safety measures?
We babyproofed as we did for our own children. We also kept a much closer eye on the grandchildren than we did with our own children.

ETA: no pay.......regular babysitting twice a week, also babysat for date nights etc
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Old 02-26-2019, 02:26 PM
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When I babysat mynGS on a regular basis, it was usually at their house, do everything was provided. If I brought him to my house, D had stocked it with diapers and wipes. Anything else was in his diaper bag. Sometimes I bought food to keep here for him.

We always discussed all scenarios regarding transportation, feeding, playing, etc.

Bottom line, both DD and I were/are very transparent regarding caring for her son.

When he visits here, we move a few thing to a higher shelf. Sometimes he will hand me the thing to be moved and say “sorry Nana”!! But both DD, SIL and I agree he needs to learn what he can touch and what he can’t. Locks on lower cabinets.

I had a pack n play that a neighbor gave me.

And no, I did not get paid. But I had told my DD when she was pregnant that I would help,out, but I wasn’t retiring to be daycare for GS.
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Old 02-26-2019, 02:40 PM
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This an interesting thread for me, since I will finally have a grand baby close enough for me to babysit. Right now, its all hypothetical...

-I wont be providing food initially since the baby will be breastfeeding. Later on, I wouldnt mind unless there are special dietary restrictions.

-I will probably keep some diapers on hand just in case...

-We live very close, so I imagine it might be at either place.

-We already have plans for me to have a car seat base in my car. Im sure we will be discussing transportation more!

-I was planning to get a pack & play to have here, just for convenience.

-Eventually I will have to babyproof...I doubt it will require much. I will need a fence for the pellet stove and cupboard door locks.

-I dont expect to be paid, but we will be discussing reasonable limits, courtesy, etc. My dd and dsil are very helpful to me with heavy work and home maintenance, so its fair trade, hopefully.

-I think dd will be able to take the baby to work with her at first...till he becomes mobile. She only works three days a week usually. We will have to see what she needs.


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I provide the food, diapers and wipes are provided by the parents, the children come to my home now that they are a bit older, I inform the mother if I need to take them somewhere, I bought the car seats, They transferred the pack and play to my home when it was needed, I went through each room to child proof it, I don't get paid, but am now on their cell phone plan at no cost to me , I babysit twice a week.
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Old 02-26-2019, 03:15 PM
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My mom has been our primary babysitter for years. When she keeps the kids as our daily childcare while we are at work it is at our house (mostly) with everything provided by us and we pay her (though not nearly enough!) My kids have always had car seats in my parents' vehicle and they take them anywhere and everywhere.


When they do "event" babysitiing (like a date night or whatever) it is almost always at the grandparents' house with their food and unpaid.

My mother doesn't really believe in safety measures
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Old 02-26-2019, 03:20 PM
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Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals? I buy baby food and they buy formula. They would bring baby food, I just pick up when I’m at the store to make sure we always have some. When he eats table food, we will buy it.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers? Son and DIL provide diapers.

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home? Our home. If they are going out late, he just spends the night. We have a nursery set up for him.

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel? Yes, when we get a bigger car, son will buy car seat base.

Did you provide the car seat? They will provide a car seat base that goes with his car seat.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play? We have a full nursery with crib, plus a pack n’ play that we bought.

What did you do in your home for safety measures? We are in the process of baby proofing now. Outlet covers, corner protectors, moving chemicals up high, securing pool, baby gates

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting? No. And I don’t want to be paid. I love my time with him. But I wouldn’t want to have to do it every day. It is tiring.

How often do you babysit? Every Monday and other days/overnights as needed.
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Old 02-26-2019, 04:09 PM
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My mom and mil babysat my kids while I worked.

Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals?
I provided food.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers?
I provided diapers.

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?
Their house.

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel?
Mom drove a little when they were over 3.

Did you provide the car seat?
Yes.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?

Yes.

What did you do in your home for safety measures?

I babyprooofed their homes.

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting?
I paid mom a small amount, she watched them more and needed it financially. Mil would not take any money.

How often do you babysit?
Mom did 3-4 days, mil 1or 2.
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Old 02-26-2019, 04:20 PM
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Do you as the sitter, provide the food for the child's meals?
Yes they did, but one brother did help out buying groceries a few times a month.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers?
No, my brother's provided. However, my mom would remind when supplies were low.

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?
Always my parent's house. It was closer to the work of both my brothers and my sisters in laws.

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel?
Yes

Did you provide the car seat? My parents had one, that they picked up. If there was a need for a second, it was discussed beforehand.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?
My parents had a crib left over from my youngest brother.

What did you do in your home for safety measures?
Gates were put up, sharp corners covered.

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting?
No, but one of my brother's would take my parents out to dinner every once in a while and would buy amazing birthday/Christmas gifts for them.

How often do you babysit?

For brother 1 - 5 days a week, 2 kids 6:45-4:30 - Started at 3 months until 3.
Brother 2 2-4 days a week 7:30-3:30 1 to 2 kids. Started at 9 months until 2 1/2

My mom and dad insisted that the kids needed to start preschool by 3 years old. They needed socialization with other kids.


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Old 02-26-2019, 04:47 PM
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From my experience as the parent:

Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals? I provide food if they are at my house. Most of the time, my mom provides the food at their house.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers? My mom keeps a package of DD's current size on hand for when we visit and she babysits.

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home? Both. My parents take her to their house if it's a full day or a sleepover, but will stay at our place if it's just a few hours.

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel? Yes. I've gotten better about making my expectations clear and picking my battles. I will raise my concerns about safety issues, and I've learned to brush off small annoyances.

Did you provide the car seat? My mom bought a base for the infant seat for her car. I bought the convertible seat, having done the research about which one was best for our situation.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play? My parents bought a pack and play before she was born, and bought a crib once she started coming for sleepovers.

What did you do in your home for safety measures? Cabinet locks, moving breakables, outlet covers

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting? I have not paid my parents

How often do you babysit? They are my backup if DD is sick and can't go to daycare, and it would be hard for me to take a day off. I think that's been 4 days so far this school year, and a few more last year. They also take her on the weekend about once a month, sometimes for an overnight, and pick her up from daycare every few weeks (if I have an appointment after school or work to catch up on)
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Old 02-26-2019, 05:25 PM
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My in-laws will watch DS when they visit.

Do you as the sitter, provide the food for the child's meals?
No, I provide the food. They do bring their own drinks (their choice). They’ve tried taking him to restaurants or bringing food in with varying degrees of success.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers?
No, that’s my job as a parent.

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?
In-laws come here. They have watched him in their home, but we don’t go to their house often anymore.

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel?
Always, but I pick my battles. However, since DS isn’t your typical kid, we spend a lot of time explaining why we do things the way we do them and why we expect them to be done that way. The few times they haven’t listened have blown up in their face so they’ve realized I’m not just being controling.

Did you provide the car seat?
Yep. We either switch cars so they have a car seat or we switch the seat to their car.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?
When DS was that small, MIL found a pack n play from a yard sale. It was fine. Now, we bring a bed for DS if there isn’t one available.

What did you do in your home for safety measures?
They did anything we asked including installing gates.

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting?
Uh, no.

How often do you babysit?
Not as often as my MIL would like. They come visit for a few days every 2-3 months and they basically kick us out the door to go out, just DH and I. It’s literally our only time alone together so we take full advantage of it.
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Old 02-26-2019, 05:38 PM
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I usually babysit my granddaughter at my house at least once a week...sometimes more. I would never ask for payment. Watching her is all the payment I need. My kids dont take advantage of me at all.

I provide diapers, food, pack n play, extra clothes, bottle, siippy cup and toys. Its just easier for me. Recently, I bought a car seat for my car because Im transporting often. We were transferring the car seat back and forth, but I felt it was safer for the seat to stay in the car so it was properly installed and not hurriedly installed.

My granddaughter does not get into things at all. She loves to play with her toys. I bought the cabinet locks and such, but at this time...they are not necessary.

I love, love, love having her at my house! I would do it everyday day if I could!

The kids are expecting again. Maybe my attitude will change once I care for two children.
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Old 02-26-2019, 05:39 PM
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Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals?#yes

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers?no

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?both

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel?yes

Did you provide the car seat?yes

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?yes

What did you do in your home for safety measures?babyproof home

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting?no

How often do you babysit?an average of once a week

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Old 02-26-2019, 05:42 PM
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Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals?

My parents and in laws provided his meals when they were watching him.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers?

They (in laws and parents) provided diapers.

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?

I took my DS to their homes.

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel?

No, I had no reason not to trust them.

Did you provide the car seat?

I provided a car seat base. The infant carrier just connected to it. Once DS was too big, my parents and inlaws got their own car seats.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?

I had received a pack and play as a shower gift that I kept at my parents house. My MIL had a crib at her house.

What did you do in your home for safety measures?

Hmmm...they did not do much as far as locks on cabinets. Again though, I didn't have any reason not to trust them. They watched my DS like a hawk.

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting?

I didn't pay.

How often do you babysit?

My MIL babysat twice a week. My mom-once a week. He was in daycare the rest of the week.
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Old 02-26-2019, 06:20 PM
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From my perspective as the parent, not grandparent.

Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals? I provide food and snacks unless they choose to take him out to eat. Extra snacks always provided either way.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers? I provided everything he would need-diapers, wipes, cream, extra clothes, etc.

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home? Our home

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel? Yes

Did you provide the car seat? We took one of ours out for grandparent use if needed.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play? We did.

What did you do in your home for safety measures? baby gates, electrical outlet covers, cabinet locks, dangerous items hidden or locked, doggie door locked

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting? They did not wish to be paid.

How often do you babysit? Rarely-typically special occasions only
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Old 02-26-2019, 06:21 PM
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Dh and I are TTC but my mom and I have talked a little about how wed handle these situations.

Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals?
I would say Id provide bottles etc and probably most baby food. But once baby was into table foods Id think my mom would provide it. But I wouldnt be opposed to sending food.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers?
Hmm this is one I didnt consider. Probably a mix.

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?
My mom said shed be more comfortable at her own house. Which is fine by me. She did say that in special circumstances shed be amenable to coming to my house ( late night, baby was up a lot during the night and finally fell asleep. Etc. )

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel?
Yeah I mean we already discussed a lot of this. Id def want them to be able to transport kids.

Did you provide the car seat?
Id say they probably would buy the base. But if they didnt then I would.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?
My parents plan on getting a crib. Thats their choice. Not something I asked for.

What did you do in your home for safety measures?
Haha they said they plan to re baby proof

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting?
I wouldnt pay them but Id probahly try to do some nice things like pick up the tab for dinner when we go out. Just as a small token of appreciation.

How often do you babysit?
My mom said shed be willing to do 2 days per week and then an occasional additional day weather on the wknd or whatever.
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Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals? When they are at my house, I do.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers? Sometimes but usually they bring the diapers

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home? I usually go to their home because they live less than 10 miles from me and its just easier - everything we need is right there and the kids are more comfortable in their own beds when it comes time for naps or bedtime.

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel? Yes. I only have one car seat and often am caring for 2 kids so there is no car travel unless another car seat is installed before I begin babysitting for that day.

Did you provide the car seat? I have one.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play? I do have a pack n play at my house and a guest bed.

What did you do in your home for safety measures? I haven't really done a lot bc I watch them mostly at their house.

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting? No. I love doing it. I don't do it full time. I just watch them occasionally.

How often do you babysit? less than once a month.
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Old 02-27-2019, 06:02 PM
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Do you as the sitter,provide the food for the child's meals? Yes except formula when needed. DIL made her own baby food, so she brought that when they first started eating.

Do you as a sitter provide the diapers? No

Do you as a sitter use your home or do you go to the child's home?
Our house, unless there is a specific reason or situation. We live a mile from the grandkids so it's not too far.

Did you orally discuss matters such as car travel? They know if we're
Traveling out of our small town.
Did you provide the car seat?
Yes. We bought car seats so we could help in an emergency. Because we are so close, we've been asked to help out with daycare pick ups and drop offs when they are in a pinch. It's such a pain to move car seats these days, I wanted our own. We bought the same ones they use.

Did you provide the sleeping compartment such as a pack n play?
Yes. I bought a pack and play used when we were expecting #1 but I'm planning on using it for all our grandkids.

What did you do in your home for safety measures?
We bought a few moveable cabinet locks so the chemicals are locked up when they are here. We also put a secure mounted gate at the top of our open basement stairwell. It folds back against the wall when they aren't around.

Do your adult children pay you for babysitting? No. But we don't keep them full time and we don't need the money.

How often do you babysit? With #1 we helped a lot because our DIL was in radiology school. Lots of early mornings before daycare was open, and lots of pick ups from daycare when DS was held over at work and couldn't get home before daycare closed. I always did a full day a week in the summer too. Now, not nearly as much because since #2, DIL stays home.
We do occasional date nights for them, and I've done an overnights when #2 was born and for them to have a night away.
DIL has MS, so being the closest, we're always kind of "on call" when she has troubles.
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