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Old 12-30-2019, 08:03 AM
 
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Does anyone else get annoyed when you return to work after a break and people ask about your break? Just me....


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Yes and I have never actually admitted that out loud!
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Old 12-30-2019, 08:36 AM
 
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Small talk is usually pretty banal! And it is usually so they can be asked the same question and regale you with their beach or ski vacay.
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Old 12-30-2019, 08:56 AM
 
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I hate asking AND I hate being asked...

Why do we feel obligated to ask!?!?

Maybe this year I'll just say, "Welcome back!" and leave it at that. Then hope others will do the same in return!
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Old 12-30-2019, 08:58 AM
 
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I can agree with that! I wish they'd just lead with talking about themselves.


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I like your idea! I'll try, "Happy New Year" and walk away.
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Old 12-30-2019, 09:00 AM
 
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I've never admitted it either, but I've disliked it since childhood.
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Old 12-30-2019, 10:50 AM
 
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I am not looking forward to the inquiries. I値l try to be too busy to answer.

People were asking me about my plans for break before vacation. I honestly told them that I can稚 make plans since I have mobility problems due to my knee and my son is dealing with severe health issues. Many did not know how to respond. Sorry, people, not everyone has sugar plum fairies dancing in their heads.

Things will change and get better. I知 hopeful.
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Old 12-30-2019, 11:07 AM
 
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Uh oh. I知 one who asks that and I genuinely don稚 want to share my answers lol. I知 asking because I知 avoiding my answer and (on a positive note) because I知 genuinely interested. I知 at a new school and don稚 know people well yet. Asking about their vacations are a way for me to get to know them a bit better.
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There are definitely a ton of genuine people out there that want to get to know others.


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Old 12-30-2019, 11:18 AM
 
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I tend to be very short with my reply "Very relaxing and you?" I get that question a lot and usually as PP have said, people mostly want to either be polite or talk about themselves.


The most awkward one for me was returning to work after summer and I found myself with a colleague I didn't know well...so I started the dreaded "how was your summer?" question (mostly out of politeness ) and she said something like "It was very rough. My whole family is dealing with something very serious right now but I don't feel ready to talk about it."


Yikes! I really try NOT to ask now.
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I am a guilty "asker"
Old 12-30-2019, 11:19 AM
 
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I seriously do care if I ask you. If I didn't care, I wouldn't ask. ( I only ask people that I have some form of comradery w/. ) I never realized so many people could be bothered by that question.
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Old 12-30-2019, 12:09 PM
 
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I don't mind being asked, but my standard response is always, "Too short!"
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Thank you!
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I'm so glad y'all were honest about this, so now I can be more mindful about it. I can relate to each of your responses. I will now say, "Happy New Year" and then just listen or move on.
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"How was your break?"
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Yes!! It's just small annoying talk even though there are some people who do really want to know. I also feel obligated to ask or else I feel bad for not asking.
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I think it's just part of what is called "polite conversation," which I feel is necessary for helping people get along in a social or work environment. I always ask, and am prepared to listen, and try to be sensitive to their replies as to whether they want to make it a quick answer or a more detailed conversation.
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Old 12-30-2019, 05:29 PM
 
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Me too, but I've never been good at the small talk thing .
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Old 12-30-2019, 08:08 PM
 
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Yes, I get annoyed to be asked that. Winter break is often not a happy time for me, and I really don't want to talk about it, or why it isn't good for me, or any other details about it, as small talk with others.

When people ask me, I give the very vague and totally fake, "Oh, it was fine, how about yours?" answer. This is a lie, it often wasn't "fine" at all, but I can't think of anything else I can say that isn't either rude or invites people to ask for more details. If anyone else has a response that would be truthful but that would not invite further inquiry, I'm willing to hear what it is.
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Old 12-31-2019, 06:13 AM
 
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I would actually find it refreshing! I work in the most interesting hallway....it is filled with constant griping and venting. I would embrace pleasant small talk in a heartbeat
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Old 12-31-2019, 06:53 AM
 
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I came across this randomly and thought some of you might could use it next week.
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Old 12-31-2019, 08:50 AM
 
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When I was in middle school, every teacher in every class would ask this question. They'd say, "How was your Christmas?" though, instead of break. I finally shut one of them up when she asked and I said, "Oh, I don't celebrate Christmas, I'm Jewish". This was a Catholic School, and I'm Catholic, but it was funny to watch their reaction!
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Old 12-31-2019, 10:36 AM
 
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That sign! While I'd have to make some modifications, it tickled me.
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Old 12-31-2019, 11:22 AM
 
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Do people that ask really want to know the answer? Hmmm, for the second year in a row for Christmas break I’ve dealt with elderly health issues of parents. So nothing exciting here. Do you really want to know that my moms in rehab, lost her teeth so I had to take her to get a new set made

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Old 12-31-2019, 11:38 AM
 
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Living in a small apartment so I can afford lots of vacations & trips, I only dislike the question asked of me if it gets a response of "Must be nice."

I started to respond with "Thank you for asking. Oh, it <is> nice! I make choices with my money just like others do. I really enjoyed my trip to _____ (insert beach). Again, thank you for asking. How was your school break?"

You see I make sure that I thank the person (at least) twice for having asked me.
I rarely ask anyone how their break was. I just want to move on with the school year and count down to the next time I can be on the sand with a drink in my hand.
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I like how you had some fun with it!!
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HoHumBeachBum...now I want to go to the beach! Let me search for my next trip.
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Old 01-01-2020, 06:51 PM
 
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Gosh I知 so sorry to hear that people are asking to get a snarky 鍍hat must be nice response or as a way to brag about their own vacation.
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Old 01-02-2020, 06:07 AM
 
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Awww, thank you cruxian. Most I work with do know about my elderly mom but honestly, sometimes I don't know if I should laugh or cry so I laugh. I know the ones I can say things to and others that just want the "it was fine" response.

I don't feel like I want to bring others down so I tend to say it was "fine, loved the sleeping in" as my usual reply.
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Old 01-02-2020, 09:52 AM
 
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The question has never irritated me but I understand how it might be upsetting to others.
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This is one depressing thread. I always ask people about their break because I'm actually interested. No, it's not so that I can be asked the same (usually I do nothing on breaks). And in my strange world I thought it made people feel good that someone cared to ask.

I think I'll go back to ignoring people.
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