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Students arguing.
Old 05-13-2019, 02:05 PM
 
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I have a handful of students this year who seem to want to argue with everything I say.
Literally every thing out of my mouth they have to argue. If I say open to page 100, "No, it's page 101!"
I said that a character's mother in a book is dead (I've read the book 5 times), and they say, "NO! She's alive!"
If I say a student is absent, they'll argue that the student is here.
I don't argue with students (at least I try very hard not to) but these kids push my buttons every day.


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Old 05-13-2019, 03:57 PM
 
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I used the broken record technique by saying each time "If I need your help I will ask for it. " Appear ultra calm even though it's getting on your nerves.
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I might suggest that if they are pushing your buttons, they are winning a power struggle. Two options... that are somewhat opposites.
  1. Totally ignore them. And I mean totally. Not even a nonverbal response.
  2. Take the bait, challenge their logic, effectively winning the contest. Practice probing questions that force them to think and defend their statements. This is not without hazards, obviously.

Sometimes, I simply declare the argument void. "Nope, we are not going to discuss this... there is nothing here worth our time and effort." i have occasionally suggested that "Everyone has a right to be wrong." I know, we're not supposed to put kids down or embarrass them but I haven't seen the rule that says they get to do it to us.

Arguing is usually either a power struggle or pure avoidance... which is still actually a power struggle. The key is to get off the defensive quickly.
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I have a student who does the same thing this year. It is beyond annoying and disruptive and trying to reason with her got nowhere. She just dug her heels in further.

Finally I tried humor. When she starts, I keep my voice very light and I ask, "Hey, is the sky blue?" She usually smiles and tries to argue that it's cloudy today or something. But it's become our signal that she needs to stop. It works. Sometimes.
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I don't rise to it.
Old 05-14-2019, 08:15 AM
 
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Even if they are pushing my buttons, I either ignore them, or say something like, "Discussion over." or "Asked and answered."
I can FEEL that they are pushing my buttons, but I try hard not to react.


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"Feel free to argue with me after school," and walk away. Sadly, no one has EVER stayed after school to continue an argument.
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I tend to ignore them.
Old 05-14-2019, 10:54 AM
 
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Unless I can see a valid reason for engaging those students, I just ignore the comments. They are often shouted out and I don't feel bad ignoring poor behavior.
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I used to say that!
Old 05-14-2019, 11:48 AM
 
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Now I just say, "I don't argue with students." Or I just stare at them. I wear contacts, so I can go a very long time without blinking. Totally creeps thems out.
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Old 05-14-2019, 12:17 PM
 
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Make killer teacher eye contact. Then say: "We will discuss this further at the next recess!!"
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For the severe or chronic cases
Old 05-26-2019, 04:50 AM
 
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I say, "So you are calling me a liar?" This shocks the student and the class, and the student quickly returns to what he/she was doing. After all, who wants to say their teacher is lying? 😇


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Old 05-28-2019, 04:48 PM
 
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"Feel free to argue with me after school," and walk away.
I LOVE IT! I must remember this for next year, and especially if I ever teach 6th grade again.
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