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Old 07-29-2017, 05:34 PM
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Our nursery is located right outside where the choir warms up. DH informed me tonight that the noise made by me, youth helper and toddler was distracting (we were indeed pretty silly and noisy). So please choose below and be honest about how YOU would take this email if you were part of the choir and could hear the bouncing rubber ball, laughter, silliness, etc. Here is the email I just saved to be sent:

Dear B and Saturday Choir,

Whereas at dinner tonight my loving husband informed me that it sounded like we were having way too much fun in the nursery during your warm up, we hereby resolve to make sure it's quieter for your rehearsals in the future (winking eye emoji)!

My response would be:
A. How stupid/Reading this is a waste of my time
B. It was nice of her to apologize/cute note
C. She should be more serious with her apology
D. Something else

Thanks!


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Old 07-29-2017, 05:40 PM
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B, for sure... cute and nice ( check "it's")
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Old 07-29-2017, 05:48 PM
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D. The wording is more confusing than cutesy to me, but I would appreciate that apology and recognition of the the noise factor. (and I don't really see the problem with "it's"- "it is"- unless you're thinking it should be "make sure we are quieter" or something?)
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Old 07-29-2017, 05:53 PM
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I don't like it. The tone may intend to read as cute and apologetic. However, I read it as sarcastic, snarky, deal with the noise.

I wouldn't do anything. Let it alone, and just make sure you're quiet next week instead.
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Old 07-29-2017, 05:55 PM
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D

I don't think you need an apology if you just be quiet going forward. But I don't think it's stupid or a waste of time to write one.

And if you write one, I think this is fine *if* it fits your personality. It doesn't fit mine, so it'd be weird coming from me but not from someone more jokey.

I'd use a smiling emoji than a winking, though. Winking undercuts a statement by indicating it's not totally serious, maybe slightly sarcastic. Smiley indicates goodwill without undercutting the message, imo.

But everybody uses emojis differently, I think, so that's why I think the recipient being able to hear your tone because they know your silly personality is key to the success of this silly note.

And that is waaaay too much analysis for a note of this type, which is totally *my* personality.


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Old 07-29-2017, 05:55 PM
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I'd let it go. Think of some quieter fun activity and lower voices. Your husbands may have been more sensitive knowing it was you.
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Old 07-29-2017, 05:56 PM
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I wouldn't do anything. Let it alone, and just make sure you're quiet next week instead.
What Winn-Dixie said!
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Old 07-29-2017, 06:00 PM
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I think your husband knows your voice and was more sensitive to it so he heard it maybe as being disruptive. I'd let it be and be more quiet next week, and if I was really worried, I would casually apologize to the director (who will tell you it was no big deal).
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Old 07-29-2017, 06:34 PM
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Say or send nothing. Be s little quieter next week.
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Old 07-29-2017, 06:45 PM
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Don't send anything. It is warm up, being fair choir should understand. Next week, take those few minutes to read a story during warm up.


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Old 07-29-2017, 06:46 PM
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D - I don't think an email is necessary. Children are going to be noisy. I think it's great that your church offers a nursery for choir practice at all. I think you can keep your husband's comments in mind and try to be a little quieter next time, but I wouldn't send anything out. If anything, I think the choir should be grateful the service is available and just deal with any noise they might here. You're a retired teacher - I'm sure the noise was reasonable.
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Old 07-29-2017, 06:53 PM
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It's a nice gesture, but I think you're overthinking it and an email isn't necessary.
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Old 07-29-2017, 06:59 PM
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Don't send it!
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Old 07-29-2017, 06:59 PM
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Thanks! Will apologize to the director and let it go!

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Old 07-30-2017, 03:28 AM
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I wouldn't send an email. An apology is all that is necessary.
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Old 07-30-2017, 06:57 AM
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I would just "tone it down" a little bit next time.

I wouldn't even send an email or apologize verbally.

The choir director would be the one to handle things/speak to you if he/she truly felt like it was a continuous problem.

Seriously, placing children in the room next to the room where the choir warms up..... one has to expect "happy noise" coming from the children's room. It should be a blessing from heaven to hear children having some reasonable fun at church in today's world where so many other things are happening.

I think your church should feel blessed to have you there for the children!
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Old 07-30-2017, 09:57 AM
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do/say nothing.

I think offering an apology would open a can of worms: Did someone say something? Who was offended? How loud is too loud?

I just wouldn't worry about it and try to be a little quieter next time.
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Another vote for Do nothing...
Old 07-31-2017, 01:42 PM
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I agree with the PP who said that your DH was probably the main one who noticed because it is your voice (and your program.)

Unless the Director or someone official says something, I would not apologize or bring it up. Just move on and try to be quieter from here on out.
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