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Old 12-24-2013, 03:30 PM
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Off to a huge family gathering where there will be lots of hugging. I hate hugging but I'll do it….because as Dexter's foster father says, "you'll do it because that's what normal people do."


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Old 12-24-2013, 04:06 PM
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You would be miserable with my family. We're Italian, so we not only hug everyone, we KISS them too! And the great-aunts and uncles always give the big, sloppy kisses.
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Old 12-24-2013, 04:09 PM
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I hate it too - this is why we're cat people! Don't touch us unless we want you to!
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Old 12-24-2013, 04:17 PM
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I must secretly be a cat person too, I haaaate hugging! Especially when people douse themselves with cologne or perfume.

My family is very reserved but I somehow managed to marry into a huggy, smelly family.
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Old 12-24-2013, 04:55 PM
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I don't like it either! I thought I was the only one and that made me a bad person!

I was raised in a hugless family, and them suddenly after I become an adult, she ( my mother) wants to hug? Ummm...no!



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Old 12-24-2013, 05:05 PM
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but I think people hug too much. What happened to shaking hands, or just saying hello or goodbye? I don't want to hug everyone. Some people, absolutely! Everyone? No. I too was raised by non-huggers, and now we're supposed to? Well.
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Old 12-24-2013, 05:31 PM
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And that's a great way of putting it. You do it because that's what normal people do. That's exactly why I go through with it. It's what normal people do. But I still hate it.
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Old 12-24-2013, 06:29 PM
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But maybe we are the normal ones.

I always wondered why I had to give into hugging.
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Old 12-24-2013, 07:10 PM
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I also partake but hate every hug. Sometimes I start the hug and then I think maybe that person hates it as much as I do. I hugged a neighbor at a party that I just wave to when he drives by.
What was I thinking?
Do I blow him a kiss when we pass?
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Old 12-24-2013, 07:12 PM
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One reason I'm kind of on the outskirts of both my family and my husband's is because I only hug people I actually like. For some of my family members, both sides, our relationship is just Hello and Goodbye. I'm not hugging them!

One of my husband's cousins used to try to make his kids hug me and everyone else. I told the kids they didn't have to hug me. They are nice kids, and they like me and I like them, but they didn't like being forced to hug me so they were relieved.


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I thought I was the only one.
Old 12-24-2013, 09:17 PM
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I don't care for being touched and hugging makes me very uncomfortable.
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Old 12-24-2013, 11:20 PM
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Oh me too! I am not into hugging at all. The worst is work friends...c'mon people, we are at work! They give me such a bad time about it too, like I'm the weirdo!
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Old 12-25-2013, 05:58 AM
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So glad I'm not the only one!
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Old 12-25-2013, 06:06 AM
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I love hugs, physical touch is my love language, but was raised by hug phobes. Nothing says you are special like an approving nod from accross the room. maybe someone in Tradds family left me out in a doorstep and I was raised by crazy cat people.

Not sure which is worse- getting a hug you don't want, or not getting one when you do want it.
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Old 12-25-2013, 06:15 AM
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Well, I survived. My dad makes a big deal out of it when I hug because he's knows I'm not a big hugger. Yeah, that REALLY helps . Sometimes he doesn't know when to stay quiet.

I must say the more I do it, the easier it gets though. Nice to know I'm not alone!
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Old 12-25-2013, 06:17 AM
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I hate it! The only people I hug are my kids and husband. I hate when other people try to hug me. ...
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Old 12-25-2013, 09:31 AM
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But how do you avoid a hug when someone comes at you? I am anticipating several unwanted hugs later this afternoon. My sister's in-laws are from a hugging/kissing culture.
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Old 12-25-2013, 12:54 PM
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Same here!! And I'm at cat lover! I guess I never made that connection
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Old 12-25-2013, 02:08 PM
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Maybe you could get out of hugging by just telling everyone you feel like you might be getting a cold and don't want them to get sick? It would probably work without hurting anyone's feelings.

I'm a cat person and I like hugs, so I'm not sure what the connection there would be, . My cats are like velcro and seem to crave affection, constantly on me, so I would not characterize cats as being "non touching" types of animals.
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Old 12-25-2013, 02:49 PM
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I don't mind the hugging (and actual enjoy it), but I'm a very short-term hugger. I don't want someone sitting beside me rubbing on me, etc… After a brief hug, I want my space back.
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Old 12-25-2013, 03:58 PM
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Quote:
My family is very reserved but I somehow managed to marry into a huggy, smelly family.
I could have written that line!
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Old 12-26-2013, 04:17 AM
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I come from a pretty huggy family...and married into an even huggier one.

Those of you who don't like it would have hated my day yesterday.

While typing, I noticed Apple is with you, though. My iPad kept trying to correct "huggy" to "buggy".
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