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Old 07-25-2020, 10:42 PM
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My sonís preschool is going to continue what they have been doing all summer in terms of kids being together in a cohort and they cohorts donít mix. His best friend is coming back to school in a week. They were not in the same class last year, but played together every single day. His mom is the only one at the school that I feel I can call a friend. I donít know how my son would react having his friend there, but never getting to play with him. Most likely he would be fine. For some reason, I want for this boy to be in my sonís class. I donít know if it is the sense of loneliness I have and project onto him. He is an only child and his extended family is quickly dwindling. Due to choosing different schools and now COVID-19 he doesnít see any of his old friends. Do I just let it go and whatever class the other boy ends up in, he ends up with. Do I say something to the other mom? Do I ask the director (if so before or after talking with the mom). I feel stupid asking, my son claims all the kids in his current class are his best friends and loves school, yet here I am getting emotional at the thought of them not being in the same class.


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Old 07-26-2020, 12:56 AM
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I would probably not ask. I think you are right in the fact that you are projecting your feelings on the situation. He seems happy with the other kids. The school may not want to start honoring requests because it is hard to draw the line. I wish you peace as you move forward. Maybe you can arrange playdates for Gabriel.
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Old 07-26-2020, 03:33 AM
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I'd hesitate to request a special assignment. Your son has his school friends and this other boy can be his special friend if he doesn't end up in the same class. A special friend that he looks forward to playing with when you and the mom can get together.

You are dealing with so much loss. Have you considered some grief counseling?
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Old 07-26-2020, 05:27 AM
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I don’t think it is a good idea to ask for several reasons.


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my son claims all the kids in his current class are his best friends and loves school,

But based on this, I think your son has the right attitude of all kids being his friends & happiness about school.

It doesn’t seem to be a concern for your son.
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Old 07-26-2020, 06:12 AM
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Listen to Gabriel. He Is resilient and will be fine.
I think you are probably right in that you are projecting on to him due to your current loss. This is not the time to make big emotional, financial, educational, life changing decisions.

Give yourself time to grieve.


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Old 07-26-2020, 06:15 AM
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I know your mama heart wants to fix what you perceive as aproblem, but I think Gabriel has the right outlook. If he's good, you're good.
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Old 07-26-2020, 07:17 AM
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In agreement with other posters as Gabriel is happy with all his class friends. Hopefully, he can have some playdates with this little boy.

Continued prayers for you.
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Old 07-26-2020, 10:04 AM
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My brain says everyone is correct, but my heart says they havenít seen each other (aside from some quick FaceTimes) in 4 months and who knows if and when they will be able to play with each other outside school. You were supposed to justify my feelings. Yes, I am definitely in need of something. Just too much all at once.
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Old 07-26-2020, 10:08 AM
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Just wanted to add in, little kids at this age can be fickle with their friends. You don't want to switch him for just one friend who possibly may suddenly decide he has a new best friend, which leaves your son out in the cold.
I have seen this dynamic played out before
Better for him to be in a class where he has several friends that he likes.
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Old 07-26-2020, 11:34 AM
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I don't think I would ask. At this age they can make friends at the drop of a hat and from the sounds of it, it sounds like he is happy with his new friends too!

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