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Things are happening too fast with my mom!
Old 07-30-2016, 07:43 PM
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My mom, age 86, has been in a nursing home for 3 years with worsening dementia. It has been a very emotional week. Last weekend she had to be taken to the hospital for a transfusion. She has pernicious anemia and they did find some minute GI bleeding. We have elected to not go to any extreme measures or do anything requiring anesthesia and have now involved Hospice. They will only provide comfort care and no live saving procedures. I thought we were looking at a couple years but tonight she had some shortness of breath and to a CNA, appeared pale during the episode. I am afraid it may not be long now and I am so not ready. If you are a praying person I would appreciate prayers for me and my family for peace. Thanks!

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Old 07-30-2016, 07:45 PM
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I'm really sorry to hear this. Your family is in my prayers.
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Old 07-30-2016, 07:47 PM
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Hugs to you, Nancy. <3
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Old 07-30-2016, 07:54 PM
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Thinking of you and including you in prayers.
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Keeping you and your family in my thoughts and prayers.


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Old 07-30-2016, 08:03 PM
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I have prayed for you! When the time comes may she pass peacefully.

I went through this with my mom five years ago. The dementia had robbed her of her mind. All of us siblings were of one mind that we would not let her linger any longer that necessary. When the end came I had less than a week to prepare to let her go, yet with her dementia, it is like she left long before.
Still, it is difficult. I will be praying for your dear mother and your family.
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Old 07-30-2016, 08:04 PM
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Hugs to you! It's so hard, I'm right there with you!
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as well as your mom and the family. Praying for strength for everyone and comfort for you.
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Old 07-30-2016, 08:21 PM
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Praying for you and your family.
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Old 07-30-2016, 08:26 PM
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Old 07-30-2016, 08:35 PM
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Prayers are sent for all of you, Nancy. Times like this are never easy, and we are never ready for this to happen to loved ones.
Praying for her comfort and for your strength to face this.
Take care of yourself.
The situation won't go away, but when my dad was very ill, I wrapped myself up in my favorite soft blanket and had a cup of tea.
I know that it's summer and very hot, BUT....
I hope that you have some similar activity that will comfort you if only for a while.
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Old 07-30-2016, 08:35 PM
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This must be a very difficult time. Sending prayers and hugs!
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Old 07-30-2016, 09:08 PM
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I know what you are going through. I had to keep thinking about all of the good years I had with my mom.
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Old 07-30-2016, 09:13 PM
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You,your mom, and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
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Old 07-30-2016, 09:14 PM
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Praying for your mom and for you! No amount of time will ever be enough, so treasure the time you have. I hope you have great Hospice care. It can be such a blessing!
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Old 07-30-2016, 09:18 PM
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Sending prayers your way. I'm so sorry.
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Old 07-30-2016, 09:41 PM
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{{{hugs}}} and prayers
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Old 07-30-2016, 09:45 PM
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Prayers for your mom. I hope she doesn't have any suffering. My friend just went through this recently. Another reason I want to retire so I can spend more time with my mom and dad.
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Old 07-30-2016, 10:04 PM
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I am so sorry to hear about your mother. My own mother is in her eighties and is in poor health. I totally understand the feeling of not being ready to lose your mom! I am praying for you, your family, and your mother.
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Old 07-31-2016, 01:30 AM
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I am so sorry. I know exactly what you are going through with your mom. The same thing happened to me with my mom, so I know how difficult it is. We had Hospice for my mom and they are truly remarkable and will help you through this. Prayers🙏
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Old 07-31-2016, 02:23 AM
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I'm sad to hear that your mom is not doing well. My mom had dementia for many years before she passed. In her directives she had stated to discontinue treatment if she had an incurable disease not even antibiotics for infection. She was thinking cancer at the time, but it was dementia that took her. At 90 her body shut down. I spent most of the last week at her bedside playing the old hymn, she knew, lightly misting the air with Este Lauder her favorite perfume, and ordered the dozen red roses dad had always gotten her for New Years. I can only hope it brought her peace. God bless you.
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Old 07-31-2016, 02:32 AM
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(((Nancy))) It is so hard to lose a mother! Prayers for you, your mom, and your whole family here.
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Old 07-31-2016, 02:35 AM
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Lifting you all in prayer.
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Old 07-31-2016, 02:45 AM
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Praying, Nancy. It sounds scary and overwhelming. Whatever happens, you will find the grace to handle it. I know your faith is strong, and you have always taken such good care of your dear mom. Also, you have a wonderful and supportive family around you, and we are here for you at PT, as well.

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Old 07-31-2016, 02:56 AM
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I'm thinking of you and your mom, Nancy. (((hugs)))

My mom had dementia as well. Hospice was a godsend to me.

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Old 07-31-2016, 03:38 AM
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I'm so sorry. Please remember to take care of yourself during this very difficult time.
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Old 07-31-2016, 03:43 AM
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I'v been down this road with my parents too Nancy. It's so hard. You're in my prayers.
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Old 07-31-2016, 03:47 AM
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Prayers for you and your family.
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Old 07-31-2016, 04:02 AM
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Praying for strength and peace for you and your family, Nancy.
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Old 07-31-2016, 04:42 AM
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I will pray for you and your mom, Nancy.
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Old 07-31-2016, 04:47 AM
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Sometimes there are no long good byes.

My mom was in a nursing home for 15 years. Always with it. No hint of anything going wrong, except the medical issues that put her in the nursing home in the first place.

I saw her the day before New Years Eve. She died the 31st. I don't know how you go from talking to dead in 4 hours, but that is how long it took for her to pass.

Mom was 82, and we did not autopsy. What finally got her no one really knows. I'm guessing a pulmonary embolism since Mom was bedridden.

Sending you peace and calm vibes for your mom and everyone knows knows and loves her.
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Old 07-31-2016, 05:05 AM
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Prayers said for all of you. What a difficult thing to process, anything this quick is so hard to deal with.


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Old 07-31-2016, 05:06 AM
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Nancy prayers sent for you and your family.
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Old 07-31-2016, 05:07 AM
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You're in my prayers
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Old 07-31-2016, 05:12 AM
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I am so sorry.
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Old 07-31-2016, 05:20 AM
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Just letting you know that I am praying for your momma.
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Old 07-31-2016, 07:34 AM
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Thoughts and prayers to you. Like sig I had the same experience. My mom got shingles and went down hill and she had hospice for less than than 2 weeks. It was a blessing in a way because she hadn't been herself for a few years.
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Praying for you, your mom, and your family.
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Old 07-31-2016, 09:59 AM
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I will pray for your mother and family. Good news is you are lucky to have a mom of this age. She has been blessed with a long life. Bad news is we are never ready to lose our moms. Just hang in there the best you can.
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I am thinking of you and you are in my prayers!
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Old 07-31-2016, 11:10 AM
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Thinking of you & sending love,hugs,and prayers. Hospice has a little blue book that explains how the body shuts down in order to prepare for death. This was a great blessing & comfort to me when my dad had cancer. I couldn't get my mom or sibs to read it. Blessings to you.
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Old 07-31-2016, 02:50 PM
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prayers for you and your family
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Old 07-31-2016, 03:03 PM
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Sending you peace and strength in this difficult time
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Old 07-31-2016, 06:19 PM
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I'll be keeping your family in my prayers.
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Old 07-31-2016, 06:22 PM
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Hugs, positive thoughts, and prayers heading your way. I'm sorry things are so tough right now.
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Old 07-31-2016, 08:32 PM
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Praying, Nancy, for all involved. She is blessed to have you as her daughter.
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Old 07-31-2016, 08:56 PM
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Praying for you Nancy and sending hugs. I know how hard this is to go through this with your parents. Mine are both gone now. I wish you Gods peace as you travel this sad life changing journey
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Old 08-01-2016, 03:58 PM
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Saying a prayer.
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Old 08-01-2016, 07:41 PM
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Thank you all so much for your love, concern, prayers and encouragement!

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