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Old 11-14-2021, 01:41 PM
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Christmas gifts for adult children? My son is 24. I set aside $100 per month out of my check for Christmas in general so when December comes I can easily afford to buy what I want. I also donate a portion of that to charity.

DS is in a serious relationship and I spent about $100 on her favorite things.

I’m just curious what others spend on their adult children!


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Old 11-14-2021, 02:14 PM
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I only have 2 children, they are both adults. When they lived at home, we were on a strict budget. Now that Iím retired and can afford it, I spend a lot. They appreciate it and I love doing it.
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Old 11-14-2021, 02:57 PM
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I give each person on my list a three hundred dollar limit .They send me their wishes and I choose from that list. I do surprise them with something small that they did not put on their lists. My son has spent the afternoon learning about design on Inkscape and has enjoyed using my Cricut Maker so I am tempted to surprise him with one
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Old 11-14-2021, 03:03 PM
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He will love having his own Maker!
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Old 11-14-2021, 03:20 PM
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I donít spend much. For my adult children, I buy a three or four small gifts, put them in a gift bag, and tuck in a generous gift. Their SO gets the same gifts with a smaller check.

The small gifts I buy whenever I see them. A PT post earlier this year mentioned Tak Tracks on sale ó they are ready for the bags. Another PT post mentioned individual hand sanitizer on sale at Bath and Body ó those are ready for the bags. Thanks PT!


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Old 11-14-2021, 03:51 PM
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I will give DS a bit more than normal. They are having a tough time. They also just got a new place. I have been picking up gift cards to the grocery store and Lowe's/Home Depot as I could. I will also grab some fast food gift cards for DS's lunch. It should get them through on groceries and home necessities for the next several months.
Not a fun Christmas, but it is what they really need.
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Old 11-14-2021, 04:17 PM
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Our kids are not little any more and none of them are currently in a serious relationship. Our youngest is a junior in college. When the kids were younger we gave more gifts because they enjoyed seeing piles of presents under the tree and we all enjoyed the excitement and anticipation of opening them. Now that they are older they have fewer gifts under the tree but we don't necessarily spend more or less, we just spend differently. We don't, and never have, put a hard limit of a dollar amount each year, it just depends on the year, what the kids want or need, and what we feel comfortable spending at the time. There are a lot of factors we consider. I feel we are generous at Christmas with our children. We plan for it and enjoy it.
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Old 11-14-2021, 04:24 PM
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Pretty much exactly what all41 said. I've never added up how much I've spent. I just know when I'm done shopping and I stop, lol.

We enjoy it, too!

(3 adult children, 1 DIL, 2 significant others, and 2 grandchildren)
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Old 11-14-2021, 04:31 PM
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Quote:
I just know when I'm done shopping and I stop, lol.

Love It!!! Somehow I just know. Santa Intuition
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Old 11-14-2021, 04:36 PM
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I would say around $300 each for my adult children. My one and only granddaughter now thatís a whole different story


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Old 11-14-2021, 08:47 PM
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They each get $150 fun money check and one or two small things to open when we see them in person - so around $200 a piece. For their birthdays they just get a card with the fun money - 200 a piece.

Significant others have always gotten smaller gift certificates instead of cash until they're a permanent member of the family at which point they get the money.

Grandchildren will get (none yet) gifts to open until they hit their teens at which point they'll switch to fun money.

We're not big "gift" people, but knowing they're getting the fun money is always a big hit. My parents used to do it this way with us, and there's something about money that was a gift that makes it easy to spend on something frivolous that you want!
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Old 11-15-2021, 03:27 AM
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My answer would be similar to WalkDontRun-especially the one grandchild

We usually give gift cards to state parks or the Zoo and AAA memberships. This year I think it will be season passes to Cedar Point for DS so he can take our granddaughter. And always a few presents to unwrap-something Christmasy like an ornament or decoration. And Bombas for all!
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Old 11-15-2021, 03:27 AM
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When they were in college they would get some gifts and I would also put about $250 or so each towards their student loans. I also did this at their bday ( no other gift)

Now that DD26 is in the UK in grad school this year and getting married there in April, I will just send her some money ( $250 ish) and she can decide how to use it. DS26 will be home at Christmas. I asked for a list a while ago but haven't gotten one. If not, I will pick up a few small items and do some $$ he can choose to put towards airfare for sister's wedding

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Old 11-15-2021, 06:10 AM
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I also spend somewhere around 200-300. Depends on what the needs and wants are in the year.

One child has a bigger wish list all the time than the other, so it is hard to make it even. I would like to give money, but money often is spent on things that aren't gifty (bills).

We just helped my oldest yesterday with her car. Dad bought the new battery (what dad would let his kid do that right in front of him?). Afterwards, she said that now we don't have to get her anything for Christmas. She means it, too. Unfortunately for her, I already ordered the one thing she really wanted. . I was actually considering something for her car anyway- so maybe the battery will count!

We only buy for 4 people. We do now have dd's girlfriend. I don't know how to do that when the things my dd asked for are actually things they both use. One gift work for both? Last year I got her a water bottle and a baseball hat in her favorite color.
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Old 11-15-2021, 07:35 AM
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Around 300-500 depending on their needs/wants. I only have 2 kids a DIL. The last few years as DS relationship got very serious. I treated his then girlfriend/fiancť the same. This year as a couple they want something that’s $300. So they’ll get that and some individual gifts. DD needs a new iPad and wants an Apple Pencil. We don’t buy for nieces, nephews anymore. The cousins pull names and I only exchange gifts with my sisters. We put in enough sweat equity with my inlaws and provide food for family gatherings so I don’t feel the need to get the inlaws much more than a resturant gift certificate. They don’t need any more stuff in their house.
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Old 11-15-2021, 09:08 AM
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Our 3 kids are all married adults now and none of them live near us, so we don't do Christmas presents to unwrap as they spend Christmas with their in-law families. We do wrapped gifts for our 2 granddaughters, though. But our DD buys it for us and I pay her for them. She tells the girls that the presents are from us.

My two sons and DILs bought new houses this year and our DD bought hers right before the pandemic, so what they all need now is cash. so that's what we've given them every year. The amount depends on our year as farmers because our income fluctuates so much. Having all grown up on the farm, they all appreciate whatever we can give them.

Before they got married I spent around $100 each for my future SIL, and 2 DILs. Now they all get to share the checks!
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Old 11-15-2021, 12:51 PM
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I have two adult children. We were pretty poor when they were young. Now we have money so I spend about $300 to 400 each on my son and daughter-in-law. My daughter is single so I spend a little more on her about $500. They give me a list and I pull things off there and add a few things I pick. My only grandson? As much as his parents will let me. He is only 1 1/2 so I bought him a play kitchen set, toys to go with it, some other small things and of course lots of books.
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Old 11-15-2021, 03:13 PM
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I really want you all for a parent!!!! My mom once gave me a box of candy and let me know that it was from a client. Last year I got bath salts that she knows I can't use so I'm assuming they were also a regift. My dad is in a nursing home so I don't get anything from him. Oh well.
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Old 11-15-2021, 04:42 PM
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nucleus~I know how you feel! I think that's why I continue to do so much for my children, even though they are adults.

Once I moved out, I never got presents from my mom (my dad died when I was 19). She would regift items from our family home...but I didn't count those as gifts...
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Old 11-15-2021, 08:29 PM
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I spend a bunch but it is typically practical stuff. My DS(21) wants a new phone. DS(19) wants random car parts. This year I think it is rims. Last year I bought him the most uncomfortable seats known to man but he loves them. They both need pants.

DS (19) is in a serious relationship and she has very limited family. It has been a long time since she has had a decent Christmas so we will hook her up. The grand dog gets spoiled daily.
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Old 11-18-2021, 06:34 PM
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I spend about $400 on my son each Christmas and his birthday is in December so thatís another $200 or so. Itís an expensive month for me!
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