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Who gets the garage?
Old 12-03-2019, 03:49 AM
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I live in Western NY, where it is snowy and cold from November through April lol. My house is 105 years old, and has a detached garage in back. Now that my 22-year old DD and her BF are living with me (temporarily), and now that the snow is falling regularly, we're having a disagreement over who gets to park in the garage.

DD thinks that she should park there, since her car is brand new, and she wants to "protect" it.

Her BF thinks he should park there, since he has a 45-minute commute, and doesn't want to add time to his morning having to scrape and brush off his car.

And of course, I think that I should get it, because I'm the mama. It's my house, it's my garage, I'm old, and I want to park there like I always have.

So far, I have won. I'm parking there daily, without too much grumbling from the kids. But the topic does come up occasionally, and it makes me wonder if I'm really not being reasonable.

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Old 12-03-2019, 04:00 AM
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To me, there is no contest to win. My house. My garage. I park there.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:05 AM
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for what they're worth.

I think it's pretty audacious of your daughter and her boyfriend to even suggest that one of them should get the garage. It's your house. They are there temporarily, "guests" so-to-speak, and they in no way have priority here.

They should be damn happy that they have a place to crash right now! Sorry to sound harsh, but they're not being very respectful of you.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:06 AM
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It is your house, it is your garage!

I lived with my parents for a year after my divorce. It never even crossed my mind to park in their garage!
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:08 AM
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You. Your house, your garage. If they want the garage have them pay all the house expenses then they can have it.


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Old 12-03-2019, 04:11 AM
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The house is yours. So is the garage. Your houseguests are adults who are already getting a huge financial break because you allow them to live under your roof for a fraction of what they would pay in a real world situation. On what planet should you feel even the tiniest bit guilty????
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:13 AM
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I agree with the others. When my family lived with my parents in between closing on houses, I did what I could to not be in their way/change their routine.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:14 AM
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Hey dd and bf. You could both go live in your cars. Then you can park where you want. Maybe you should just be grateful that you have a temporary place to live. BTW kids, you are shoveling or snowblowing the driveway first thing in the morning on snow days.

Sometimes young adults need things spelled out for them. Some still think they should be the center of the world even when you have tried your best to teach them otherwise.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:23 AM
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No question about it- your house, your garage.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:25 AM
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Definitely you! I don't think you should feel guilty about it.


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Old 12-03-2019, 04:27 AM
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No doubt here! It is your house so it is your garage.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:36 AM
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Iím amazed either of them think you should give up the garage for one of them. Itís disrespectful to you- especially from the BF. They are guests there. I canít even imagine telling my mom she should do that. If they bring it up again Iíd tell them the issue is closed.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:42 AM
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DD and BF are acting entitled and rude. They are fortunate to be staying with you and probably paying no rent or other house expenses. It is your garage, and you should park there.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:44 AM
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Ummm, seriously? I was 44 years old before I finally got a garage to park in and let me tell you, that is one of the best perks of this house. I will never go back to scraping, brushing, etc. I'd take a garage space before I'd take other house amenities like an extra bathroom.

All that to say that I would not be giving up my spot.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:50 AM
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Um, not having a garage is part of being 22. I didn't have a garage until I bought my house. You pay the bills, you get the garage. No question there.
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Old 12-03-2019, 05:25 AM
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You should rent it to the highest bidder on a weekly basis! Or charge the difference between what they pay for rent now and what they would have to pay to rent a house with a garage. Then with the extra rent money you could take a vacation in a warmer climate!

Obviously you will not even consider the possibility so in that case, your house, your garage, case closed!
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Old 12-03-2019, 05:25 AM
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We have a two row car garage. DH and I each have a spot. It is attached so we do not even go outside after pulling in. Best scenario ever! YOU get the garage. I did not have one until 21 years ago. My life has seriously changed for the better because of it!!
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Old 12-03-2019, 05:36 AM
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I’m shocked this is an issue. Like others, I am amazed at the bold entitlement of the couple for even suggesting they have a right to park in YOUR garage. I can’t believe you’re even considering their rude assertions. I’d be telling them to move on, to pay for a place with a garage like you do. Next they’ll be telling you that you have to pay them for the privilege of their company. Are they even the least bit grateful for a place to stay?
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Old 12-03-2019, 05:44 AM
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I don't usually jump on band wagons because I don't see the purpose, but on this one I am.
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And of course, I think that I should get it, because I'm the mama. It's my house, it's my garage, I'm old, and I want to park there like I always have.
I believe that they are not paying anything toward rent (or utilities), if I remember correctly. I hope they are buying groceries... No way, no how, would they have the garage unless they were paying more than me.
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Old 12-03-2019, 05:45 AM
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I completely agree with Zipline on this. How dare they expect you to give up the garage for them. IMHO its time for these spoiled brats to grow up and leave the nest. Then they can really experience adulthood and have their own garages.
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Old 12-03-2019, 06:07 AM
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Wow, no contest. Your house, your garage. Mom wins! I think it's pretty crappy that they even expect to have the garage, TBH.
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Old 12-03-2019, 06:20 AM
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Iím thinking this itís more of a humorous conversation the three of you are having. Sort of a running joke? I can see my grown kids asking for the garage in jest knowing full well that they have no right to it. Thatís how I read your post.
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Old 12-03-2019, 06:23 AM
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I'd tell them they are free to move to a place with a garage today!

Your house your garage! Pretty nervy of them to expect anything different!
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Old 12-03-2019, 06:33 AM
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Seems like they are too comfortable in this home sharing arrangement and are definitely over stepping their place in the whole situation. Their actions and words show that they are so self-centered and have an entitled feeling now that they are in your home.

Red flags here. It's truly troubling that your own daughter is treating you this way, with this latest problem along with others in the past... not to mention her boyfriend doing this also . This is a good indication as to how you will be treating as you age by your daughter.

By the boyfriend thinking he is entitled to the garage, he is putting his own comfort and convenience during the winter months ahead of you and your daughter.

I'd be tempted to announce that the time is getting close for them to look into other living arrangements. Keep your place in the garage. If you give in on this, they will see this as a go ahead to take advantage in other ways.

Sorry you are being treated like this.
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Old 12-03-2019, 07:08 AM
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There's no joke in this scenario at all. The kids/adults sound entitled and frankly very pushy. I would firmly state that when they are paying a full mortgage payment they might have a garage if in fact they buy a house with a garage.
On another note I clearly remember traveling back east and seeing homes without garages or detached garages. I'd never seen it before. I'd be lost and very unhappy without my attached garage
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Old 12-03-2019, 08:14 AM
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To me, there is no contest to win. My house. My garage. I park there.
I agree. I can't believe this is even an issue. It's very simple. If there is grumbling, tell them to knock it off because it's not going to get them anywhere.
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Old 12-03-2019, 08:34 AM
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Agree your house, your garage, you park there. No disagreement - just fact. In fact, you are being very generous letting BF live there in the first place.

If they don't like the snow, they can cover their windshields for $15.95.

Here: https://www.amazon.com/Windshield-Wa...82576492&psc=1
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Old 12-03-2019, 08:38 AM
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Wow...that this should even be a conversation surprises me. Your house, your garage, your car, your decision, and itís a final decision .
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Old 12-03-2019, 08:43 AM
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Iím thinking this itís more of a humorous conversation the three of you are having. Sort of a running joke? I can see my grown kids asking for the garage in jest knowing full well that they have no right to it. Thatís how I read your post.
That's what I was thinking, too. If they're serious, then that's pretty entitled of them, but it seems like maybe it's just a fun conversation, and they're not really complaining.
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Old 12-03-2019, 09:44 AM
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Mom's garage. Enough said.
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Old 12-03-2019, 10:13 AM
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My DD uses a windshield cover similar to the one that Aggieís Wife linked. She says it works.
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Old 12-03-2019, 10:29 AM
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Don't be a doormat. Your house or they add on to the rent.
Really, it already belongs to you!
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Old 12-03-2019, 11:37 AM
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Of course it's your garage, you park there. No contest.

Just for fun, here are arguments in their favor....

They are probably already paying 100 or even 1000 times more for the privilege. (0 x 100 = 0)

They are still babies and need coddling.

Since they spent all the money they could have spent on housing on a brand new car that makes it move valuable - so they need to protect their only asset.

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Old 12-03-2019, 11:43 AM
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If you haven't found the perfect Christmas gift for each of them, 2 windshield covers would be the perfect gifts!

For stocking stuffers, covers for the side view mirrors should do the trick!
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Old 12-03-2019, 01:35 PM
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I'm going to disagree with everyone else. I think your daughter's boyfriend should have it. A 45 minute drive is already long, and adding to his day just seems wrong.


Just joking!!! I couldn't agree more with what everyone else had to say! Suck it up, kids, and live like the rest of us have!
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Old 12-03-2019, 01:47 PM
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My kids would not even ask. They know who is The Queen!
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Old 12-03-2019, 02:01 PM
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Iím thinking this itís more of a humorous conversation the three of you are having. Sort of a running joke? I can see my grown kids asking for the garage in jest knowing full well that they have no right to it. Thatís how I read your post.
I initially thought this, too. Are they joking?
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Old 12-03-2019, 02:27 PM
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Your garage. The boyfriend can put plastic over his windshield to avoid scraping. You could rotate if you are feeling generous.
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Old 12-03-2019, 02:36 PM
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I don’t know how this is even a question....

I couldn’t even imagine asking my mom to give me her garage, let alone asking her to give it to my boyfriend!

My boyfriend would also get an earful from me the first time he brought it up... and it wouldn’t be mentioned again.
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I don't have a garage.
Old 12-03-2019, 03:47 PM
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I had a remote start installed on my car. No more scraping. Your kids are saving on rent. Maybe they could spring for a remote start for their cars.
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Old 12-03-2019, 03:50 PM
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Heck, I didnít even let EX park in the garage. I owned the house before I met him, and I kept parking there after we married.

Your house. Your garage. You park there.

I couldnít imagine suggesting my mom let me park in her garage.
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Old 12-03-2019, 04:34 PM
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The person paying the mortgage takes the garage, no questions!
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Old 12-03-2019, 05:16 PM
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Tell them to go buy a remote car starter . I agree with everyone else, it is yours.

We have one garage and my DH knows not to park there....it is mine!!
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Old 12-03-2019, 05:32 PM
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I donít think my son would ever ask to take over the garage...he knows better!
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Old 12-03-2019, 05:35 PM
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You. Your house, your garage!

A garage was on my house must have list when I was looking for homes years ago.

I like in the South & weather is not a major issue, but a garage is so convenient.
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Old 12-03-2019, 05:37 PM
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Wow!! Just wow. I too cannot believe these 2 are serious about this conversation with you. Previously BF was not happy you hadnít thanked him for emptying the dishwasher and DD agreed with him and now this.

There is no doubt whatsoever that you get the garage.

Maybe some humble pie needs to be on the dessert menu for them.
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Old 12-03-2019, 06:02 PM
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OP here again.......Lots of you were on the right track, that it was a bit of a gag. We talked about it tonight, and they were shocked that I thought they were serious. They both said that they were joking, giving me a hard time, and reminded me that they never argued when I insisted I should get the garage.

So, whatever! They made dinner and cleaned it up tonight. And DD cleaned the whole house this morning, and took the dog to the groomer's, before she went to work herself. BF shoveled the sidewalks (and emptied the dishwasher again - LMAO!).

They are truly really good kids, just inexperienced (naÔve and clueless lol) and figuring things out. They don't waste money, they don't drink or go to parties. They're socially awkward science geeks who like to go hiking, read, and play board games. They're very good company for me, and I don't mind helping them get started. Very few people can graduate from college and immediately afford to live on their own. They need time to save up for deposits on apartments, furniture, etc.

And BTW, just to clear a few things up:

~ DD pays only $250 a month for her "brand new car" - - it's a lease, and we got a great deal on the 4th of July. She's not a confident driver, and we all felt better getting a new car with a lot of safety features.

~ DD is paying about $600 a month toward her student loans, taking advantage of not having to pay rent to get ahead on her loans.

~ They do buy all of their own food. Because of our schedules, we don't often eat dinners together. They don't chip in for utilities because, oddly enough, the utilities bills haven't changed (my water bill went DOWN! The BF works in water conservation, and I think he's made me conscientious about wasting water lol).

Anyway, my car is parked happily in the garage, awaiting the next snowfall.
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Old 12-03-2019, 06:20 PM
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It was an odd way to joke around but I'm glad you cleared this issue up with them.
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Old 12-03-2019, 07:03 PM
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Thatís awfully kind of you to not be charging them rent. Make sure it doesnít turn into enabling- Iím seeing more and more of my younger friends not knowing how to manage finances- they donít understand how to pay rent or bills- and spend money on expensive cars :P
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Old 12-03-2019, 08:52 PM
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They sound like good kids. I'm glad they were just joking.
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Old 12-04-2019, 03:51 AM
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Thatís awfully kind of you to not be charging them rent. Make sure it doesnít turn into enabling- Iím seeing more and more of my younger friends not knowing how to manage finances- they donít understand how to pay rent or bills- and spend money on expensive cars
I'm trying to help them get started. They have only been out of college for 6 months; it's not like they're 30 years old. DD is paying $600 a month (and sometimes more) toward her student loans. I'm helping her by not charging rent, so that she won't get buried by these loan payments.
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Old 12-04-2019, 06:43 AM
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I agree with anna that this was an odd way to joke around.

Now I will be aware of this when you post about a problem or ask for insight here.
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