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Old 11-24-2019, 04:59 PM
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8 weeks ago this evening, we got a call from my brother in law threatening suicide. DH and I were watching Sunday Night Football and settling in for the evening (it was DHís birthday as well).

We spent the next 4 hours trying to talk my BIL out of it, even going to the scene where he was at.

Ultimately BIL shot himself and ended his life. Iím the one who had to tell my sister in law and one of her kids...the worst night of my life.

Every Sunday night at this exact time I get anxiety. I guess itís because I still watch football and settle in for the night. I feel physically ill right now and my heart is racing. I know Iím obviously not getting that same call tonight so I donít quite get why this affects me the way it does.

I hope these feelings donít last forever. I havenít told anyone about this. I just wish we couldíve talked him out of it.


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Old 11-24-2019, 05:02 PM
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Iím so sorry.
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Old 11-24-2019, 05:06 PM
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Oh Katluv....I'm so sorry for this terrible loss. What you're experiencing sounds to me like post traumatic stress and it is very real. I hope it gets easier as more time passes. It's still very recent and so please be easy on yourself and I'm glad you came here to talk about it. Wish we were closer and able to help more but know we understand.
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Old 11-24-2019, 05:06 PM
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It sounds like PTSD. I am sorry for your loss and how it happened.

You may want to talk with a therapist or your primary doctor.

Sending positive thoughts and hugs.
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Old 11-24-2019, 05:07 PM
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My deepest sympathy to you and your family for your loss. It is especially difficult to deal with this type of death. I think whatís happening to you is a cellular grief. Your mind and body dealt with this tragedy from beginning to end. So your body has made cellular memories. Iíve suffered a similar tragedy. Before long your body cells will replace this memory with more pleasant feelings. We never forget but we can replace one tragic memory with something else.

Hugs to you all!


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Old 11-24-2019, 05:08 PM
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I am so sorry. That is really traumatizing and of course you will have residual effects.

i experience the same type of thing with much smaller traumas. My ds and dd are driving a long way tonight to meet my ex and I am anxious about that. I thought about going to take a bath and read, but ds had a really bad wreck about a month ago and guess where i was when i got the call? in the bath reading....so that was a no go tonight.

I'm so sorry for your experience. You probably truly have PTSD.
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Old 11-24-2019, 05:32 PM
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I remember when you told us. I canít imagine what you all went through. What struck me was your statement ďI havenít talked to anyone about this.Ē You really should. If not a close friend or relative, I think you can call the suicide hotline and they can point you in the right direction.
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Old 11-24-2019, 05:47 PM
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How terrible and awful.
I am so sorry.
It is totally understandable that you are being easily triggered to have anxiety attacks.
Talking to a therapist or attending a support group might be something to consider.
Hugs for you and your family members.
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Old 11-24-2019, 06:03 PM
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I am so sorry. Something that traumatic can cause PTSD but at this point you are grieving and it is probably because of that. I know that the times DD attempted suicide and other incidents involving her mental illness have left their mark on DH and me and we sometimes actually get physical symptoms when confronted with certain places, things that job our memories, etc. I know it is so hard. My prayers are with you and my heart goes out to you.

(((HUGS))) and may God's peace surround you.

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Old 11-24-2019, 06:39 PM
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Iím so sorry. I hope you are able to talk to someone and find some peace.


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Old 11-24-2019, 06:51 PM
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Iím so sorry. Is there someone you can talk to? Sending you hugs!
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Old 11-24-2019, 07:10 PM
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I am so sorry and I understand.

My BIL committed suicide in my garage. I don't know how long it took for me to go in the garage at night but it was a very long time.

You are only 8 weeks out from the trauma, that is not very long. Everyone has a different way of dealing with trauma and talking to someone will help you process everything. Carrying the pain of losing a loved one to suicide isn't something you should carry alone.

SOS, Survivors of Suicide, has chapters across the country. They usually have monthly meetings. I found that going to the meetings as well as seeing a therapist trained in supporting survivors of suicide was integral to healing.

My husband reluctantly went with me. It helped us because we would talk on the way home from the meeting. We were able to discuss things that we were not able to open up about on our own.

I'll be honest, the first year is rough. The first anniversary is excruciating. Allow yourself time to process and grieve. It does get easier.
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Old 11-25-2019, 06:50 AM
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I am so very sorry for your family's loss!
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Old 11-25-2019, 08:27 AM
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Sending love and prayers for peace and comfort.
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