Accepting No.

09-18-2016, 01:33 PM
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My favorite social skill i teach is the "accepting no" one.
Many curriculums have steps to accept no, and those are great foundations, but sometimes i go beyond that with my EBD kids. I have on in particular that cries the minute we don't let her do something she wants to do. There has been a lot of begging with her this year too. It's a slow process but I can see her accepting the no, and the time to get her to stop crying has decreased.
Here is what I do:
1) State the Expectation
2) Give the no response when the request does not match the expectation
3) Ignore
4) Praise/reward other students
5) Repeat steps 1-4.
6) If still not complying offer a break or state consequences.
One teacher came in my room a few weeks ago and said I was being very rude and just giving the child what they want, I questioned what she would do and I let her try. She did what she was going to do (this then that) and when the student didn't respond or immediately start working the teacher got frustrated and said "I don't know how do you do this every day?"
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