I just zoomed with DD’s group home manager. We had taken DD back home Sunday night after the required Covid quarantine was over. She got out of the car on her own, and was content in her room. We stayed several hours hooking up her tv high enough that she couldn’t pull it off the wall, which she had done twice before we took her home. She was content when we left. Settled into bed and ready to sleep. They reported today that she hasn’t stopped screaming since we left Sunday night. She hasn’t slept or eaten. Just screams. I don’t know what to do. If I go get her when this happens, she’ll never readjust to her home, but how can I not go get her. I also am taking care of DH’s 91 year old mother, who needs to have help with nearly everything. I’m at my wit’s end. DH is busy with things at work, and most of the care of DD and MIL is falling on me. Please, prayer warriors. I need your prayers.
This is such a hard place to be in, I am so sorry.
I’m not sure of how communicative she is but I know she just had Covid. Even though is sounds like it was a mild case, could there be something bothering her health wise that she isn’t able to to communicate effectively?
Unfortunately, it may just take a few more days for her to settle back in.
Are you able to zoom or FaceTime with her?
She doesn’t really communicate well enough to talk back, but sometimes I can calm her down. I think I’m going to try calling and seeing if it helps. I’m afraid of making it worse.
Oh, linda, I’m so sorry. Life sure piles it on those of us who are capable, doesn’t it? Please know I’m thinking of you. Now one foot, now the other….
(((linda))))
Praying for you and your daughter, Linda. You really have more than enough overwhelming issues to deal with. Hoping that your DD settles soon and feels peaceful in her group home.
My mother has dementia and is in a secure memory unit. When mom was moved from assisted living to her new room, she ran the halls yelling and screaming. A few meds were adjusted and she eventually settled/acclimated.
I know this is SO hard. I hope your DD adjusts quickly. (((hugs)))
I wonder about some kind of secondary infection after her Covid? Maybe she has an ear infection or something, but can't communicate other than to scream about being in pain/uncomfortable. It might be worth having a doctor check her out before taking her back to your house. I'm sorry.
I too am wondering about a secondary infection. I had a zoom meeting with the person who manages her meds this afternoon, and she’s taking her off one med that’s supposed to help her sleep, and putting her on something a little stronger. I also suggested that they give her stickers and something to stick them on. Sometimes that calms her. Thank you for the prayers and good thoughts.
Linda,
I am so sorry this is happening. You must be so stressed and exhausted.
Could she possibly have a UTI or an earache? My first thought was some kind of physical pain.
I'm also wondering about another infection or something else that is bothering her physically. I hope she is healthy and things calm down for her and her peers. I'm so sorry you are trying to work through this while taking care of your mil. (((Linda))) That is a lot.
Oh I hope she adjusts for her sake and yours. You are in a tough spot. Hoping you can find what you all need and that this evening goes better for your daughter.
You have a lot on your plate. My first thought was that your daughter has a Uti. Utis can cause behavior issues in certain populations. Sending healing prayers to you and your daughter.
Prayers for sure, Linda. It's so difficult when we want to swoop in and rescue our child, and yet that's not always best.
Along with checking her out medically and possibly calling/facetiming, is there any sort of soothing song, story, or routine that you would do to calm her at home? If so, could you record it or do it virtually?
Would she respond well to a warm bath? Quiet music? Someone gently rubbing her forehead?
How's it going Linda2671? I like the suggestion about checking for an ear Infection. Covid19 can present as an ear problem and your dd wouldn't be able to communicate to you that her ears are ringing and / or hurting. I hope you all get some rest tonight.
Things seem to have settled down some. The staff members who know her are back now, and she’s able to respond better to them. They’ve also made a medication change. They’re still quarantined until the Fourth of July, and we’re hoping things will get back to normal then.
I hope she continues to adjust back to her living situation. Hopefully she will be calm and happy again soon. Thank you for updating us. I was thinking about your family.
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