[Lovinlife]

Special thoughts and prayers to all of you who "wear these shoes..."

"I am wearing a pair of shoes, They are ugly shoes, Uncomfortable shoes, I hate my shoes.

Each day i wear them and each day i wish i had a different pair....

Somedays my shoes hurt so bad i don`t think i can take another step. Yet i continue to wear them.

I get funny looks wearing these shoes.

To learn how awful my shoes are might make them uncomfortable.

To truly understand these shoes you need to have walked in them yourself,

But once you put them on, you can never take them off.

Some women are like me and ache daily as they try and walk in them.

Some have learned how to walk in them so they dont hurt quite as much.

Some have worn the shoes so long that days will go by before they think how much it hurts.

NO woman deserves to wear these shoes.

Yet,because of these shoes i am a stronger woman.


These shoes have given me the strength to face anything.

They have made me who i am today,

I will forever walk in the shoes of a woman who has lost a child"

[sevenplus]

Thank you for posting.

I am thinking of all of the babies who never took a breath or whose lives were much too short. My heart goes out to the families whose arms ache to hold them.

[Claire]

Thank you for posting. My sister is one of those women.

[L8 4 School]

for beautiful Cierra and her wonderful family.

[Tea"cheer"]

Thank you. There have been way too many babies taken too soon.

[readtoou]

To Lovinlife thank you for the beautiful words. Reading your words gave me some peace in my heart that I have been looking for. It is very hard to discuss and explain to someone who was never there looking at those shoes.
God Bless You!

[msk5]

I wear three different pairs of those shoes. The only thing I know is that is that they do get better with time. However, time has never taken away the ache in my arms.

[BioAdoptMom3]

My heart goes out to all of you who have lost a precious child! (((HUGS))) and prayers!

Nancy

[bonnybelle]

... your PT name is such a positive. We can never really know the depth of your pain. Let us wrap you in warm thoughts today and always. My heart goes out to you, and others. I am sorry for your incomprehensible loss.

[Lovinlife]

Just for clarification purposes, I did not write the poem, but it was sent to me and so perfectly expresses what it feels like to wear "those shoes." I lost my baby around this time of year four years ago and this day always holds such memories. ((Hugs)) to all who have gone through a miscarriage or infant loss.

[KrisKElem]

It was beautiful and does explain something that people really can't understand if they have never walked in those shoes.

I have learned to walk in them so they don't hurt as much, and each day does get better.

[kathy54]

I lit two candles tonight for my friend, her babies, and for all of the babies/families that have been through loss.

[MissTrace]

Thank you for sharing. I wear these shoes as well. Four losses over the past 4 1/2 years. Most days I am one who has learned to walk in them so they don't hurt as much - but this weekend was really tough. Hope you don't mind my borrowing this to share.

[Button11]

Thank you for reminding us all. My sister lost a baby 1 year ago yesterday at 11 weeks. Yesterday was a bittersweet day for my family because she not only made it through the lowest point of her life, she is once again as of yesterday, 11 weeks pregnant and this pregnacy seems to be going very well.

[OCEANKA]

I didn't get the connection the first couple of lines and then the tears started. Thank you for posting this. Losing a pregnancy or infant is impossible to understand unless you have 'walked in those shoes". Unfortunately, there are too many women who have suffered and are suffering.

[Rusty's Mom]

I just read the poem and want to thank you for sharing it. I have walked in those shoes since 2003 and have had 2 losses with no living children.

It has been the hardest and yet the source of so so so much of my strength. I have had many women tell me that they don't know how I have made it so well with these losses.

Hugs to everyone who has been there too!!!!