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Old 02-23-2020, 06:18 PM
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DH and I are still trying to recover from this afternoon's text from DD! She is pregnant. She has a new BF (much younger thankfully) and they are excited! The prospect of being a grandma for the first time is exciting, but at the same time they haven't been together very long, they certainly cannot financially afford to raise a child, she hasn't gotten her culinary arts degree which she has wanted, she's only been clean from hard drugs for 2 weeks (we know she is because she proudly sent her lab report) but still smokes weed, may not be able to stay on her bipolar meds and the list goes on. Lord help us all!

We are also dreading telling DS2 and DDIL. They have been struggling with infertility for over 3 years and have already suffered a miscarriage.


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Old 02-23-2020, 06:30 PM
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So many mixed emotions with this news! I pray that she will be able to stay clean for the baby. I do feel for your DS/DIL. It will be hard for them. Grandbabies are the best though!!
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Old 02-23-2020, 06:33 PM
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Congrats!! What a little blessing!!

I would wait a little before telling DS2 and DIL. And possibly not you tell them. You will need to be there to comfort them. I would have DD text them. I speak from experience. It was much harder when my parents told me my sister was pregnant rather than my sister.
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Old 02-23-2020, 06:33 PM
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That is big news. Iím glad theyíre excited, praying things will work out for them. Also prayers for peace for DS & DDIL. Thatís hard and there will probably be a lot of feelings to process.
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Old 02-23-2020, 06:56 PM
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That sure is unexpected news. I hope DD does stop all drugs and stays clean.
I feel for your DS/DDIL, it will be hard news to hear. To me a text seems impersonal for this news, but you know better how your DS/DDIL will react.
Your DD is lucky to have you & your DH in her life, as is her child. I know you will be a wonderful grandmother.


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Old 02-23-2020, 07:44 PM
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Oh my what beautiful news from DD. Sending prayers for all.
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Old 02-23-2020, 08:11 PM
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What a roller coaster you ride. Good luck!
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Congratulations Grandma!
Old 02-23-2020, 08:14 PM
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I hope your daughter's pregnancy is a healthy one. Maybe the blessing of this child will help her to care for herself well and make good decisions. I hope the relationship between your daughter and the father of her baby is one that stands the test of time. Sending up a prayer for this family of three.
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Old 02-23-2020, 08:22 PM
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Oh my, very unexpected news ( and by text, no less)! My thoughts will be with you all.
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Old 02-23-2020, 10:06 PM
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Wow! My brain is reeling- I can't imagine what your brain is doing! Hoping your daughter has a healthy and happy pregnancy and you get a healthy and wonderful grandchild (and get to spend lots of time with him/her)!


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Old 02-23-2020, 10:55 PM
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I bet that news brings such mixed emotions. Excitement, concern, and sadness for your son and his wife. I hope she is able to avoid drug use for the duration.
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Old 02-24-2020, 03:39 AM
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Whoa. I bet you are still trying to recover from that kind of news! Best of luck to you all!
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Old 02-24-2020, 04:17 AM
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Oh boy, thatís a shocker! Prayers that everything works out. Your poor DS and DIL .
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Old 02-24-2020, 05:55 AM
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I feel very sorry for DS/DIL when they hear this news and have to process it.



Hoping it all works out for DD.
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Old 02-24-2020, 06:03 AM
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Wow, life changing/life affecting consequences for all involved.
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Old 02-24-2020, 06:03 AM
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Oh my goodness! Praying all goes well. I'm so sorry that you have to go through this. Drugs sure mess with the body. I sincerely hope that the child will not have any bad effects from the drug use.
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Old 02-24-2020, 06:18 AM
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Wow, that is shocking news! I pray that she will be able to stay off drugs while pregnant. I have a friend whose child went through this and they are raising the child even though they are in their 60's. I know it's very early to think about, but could your DS2 and DDIL adopt the child if it doesn't work out for your daughter and BF?
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Old 02-24-2020, 10:22 AM
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Well, who could have predicted this?
I hope that she has a healthy and happy pregnancy.
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Oh, Nancy, I hope you can convince
Old 02-24-2020, 11:00 AM
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her to come home. I have seen some people turn their lives around because of a pregnancy, but still, this is just one more complication for her. You must be terrified. The fact that she has to go off her meds is a biggie. And the fact that she has only been clean for two weeks does not bode well for the pregnancy. I hope it all goes well. Any chance you would invite the pair of them to come live with you?
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Old 02-24-2020, 12:26 PM
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Hi Nancy!

I hope that this baby gives your daughter and boyfriend some purpose and stability. The lab report and the pride she had in it is great news! Perhaps it will be easier for her to stay clean and on track when she knows another life depends on her!

I'm sure this is met with mixed emotions for you!!!! Allow yourself to feel whatever you're feeling.

I totally understand your worry about your son and DIL. As someone who struggled with infertility it puts everyone in a tough position. People were/are afraid to tell me they're pregnant, I feel bad people are worried about telling me, I fear the way I'll react, etc. etc. It's a tough situation. I think you have to do what you think is right in that scenario but also give them time to digest the news.
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Old 02-24-2020, 01:32 PM
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Oh my goodness. That is surprising news. My heart goes out to your DS and his wife. That's not going to be easy for them. I hope this baby will be a blessing to your family. Thinking of you.
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Old 02-24-2020, 04:41 PM
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Congratulations! This may be very good for your daughter. It might be motivating to help her stay of drugs.
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Old 02-24-2020, 06:00 PM
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Wow! What a rollercoaster ride for you all! I hope that everything goes well for her and the baby.
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Old 02-24-2020, 06:28 PM
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Whoa! That's got to be a lot of emotions all rolled up into one situation. Sending all my good thoughts.
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Old 02-24-2020, 07:01 PM
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Wow! You must be feeling so many emotions!! You often hear of couples who have been together for years trying to conceive and then someone like your daughter who maybe was not even trying to conceive. Sending you continued prayers.
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