I need some good thoughts and juju for tomorrow. I go to court tomorrow for trial to attempt to finally get my kids vaccinated for Covid. I started the conversation to discuss with my ex husband in May of 2021. He would always say he'd consider and get back to me to discuss further. Which he never has done. Due the to the inability to even attempt to discuss my hands were tied and I had to bring a motion to court. I now have trial tomorrow because he still refuses to discuss and even though the judge stated 6 weeks ago how she would rule in pretrial he basically is mad and now has to "win". I'm sick over this as it is costing so much money and just want to discuss what I've researched to be best for our kids (I've done hours of research so I'm not going into it blindly). His only reasoning has been debunked and there are SO many unknowns to what having Covid could do. I already have had one kid to a cardiologist with post Covid chest pains (thankfully seem to be okay now). My lawyers are amazing but there literally is nothing I can do. Because we have joint decision making (even though the kids are with me 90% of the time and he literally does nothing i.e. medical/dental, school appointments) I felt I had to have a conversation.
So basically good thoughts and prayers that we can please get a resolution tomorrow and that this doesn't costs me too much more than it already has. I'm heading into the summer when I don't get paid and my budget is already so stretched. He has a high level corporate job as well as a second income from his new wife.
Last edited by Illini Teacher; 05-11-2022 at 06:41 AM..
You've certainly had years of stress navigating parenting with your X. I'ms sending good vibes and prayers your way for a positive outcome for tomorrow.
Is there a way the judge can assess your X punitive damages for dragging his feet in decision making? He needs to learn a lesson and sometimes for some people paying a fine gives the greatest lesson.
You're a strong gal and have endured so much. You'll get through this!
Sending SO many good vibes your way. Sadly, people like your ex will continue to grab every single opportunity to control any and everything they can. You have been so strong through this. I hope that justice is done tomorrow!
Wow, I had no idea people could be so mean about being a parent. That is a very sad case and I really hope you get justice for your kids. Sending good thoughts and prayers!
I hope this meeting went well and you are able to do what you think is best for your children. It is a real shame that your ex is using your children to poke and prod at you. This is manipulative and speaks to his lack of concern for the children.
What a pain in the neck. It would be nice to have the judge tell him to pay all the lawyer fees and court costs. Ask your lawyer if you can add this to the judgement at this late date. Sending positive vibes your way.
Joint decision-making sounds great, and it is when the parents are willing and able to discuss issues and listen to each other. But in your situation, it's just a source of added stress and cost. I hope your judge is wise and can cut through the stonewalling to arrive at a helpful resolution (and that you can get your kids vaccinated ASAP).
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