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Old 07-06-2019, 06:16 PM
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DD's 20th birthday is coming up. She just moved from New Hampshire to Colorado and hasn't been gone from us for a year yet. She seems a pretty homesick based on a few things she has shared. Would it be OK to email several people she knows (pretty much adult friends and relatives, many from church) and ask if on or around her birthday they would be willing to send her a card or wish her a HB on Facebook?

Also, we are wiring her $ for her birthday and sending flowers. Anyone have any budget friendly additional ideas for making her entire birthday week special for her?

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Old 07-06-2019, 06:21 PM
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I send my dd Cherylís cookies every now and again. They have special occasion stuff. The cookies I get my dd come individually wrapped. They come in many flavors and dd, who is very picky, says that they are all good!
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Old 07-06-2019, 06:51 PM
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I think asking others is a great idea. Just be prepared that no one follows through. I have asked twice, when DD was at her lowest, but no one responded.
I think 1-2 Dollar Tree birthday or happy themed items per day would be great. Or Amazon, if you have free shipping.
Hope DD's birthday is happy and the coming year a time for contemplation.

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Old 07-06-2019, 06:53 PM
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I think it is fine to let close friends and relatives to know she is homesick and her bday is coming up and that she would appreciate cards. I would only be concerned myself with hoping they don't think they need to send a gift. But if you let them know she would appreciate hearing from friends then that may be good. I second the Cheryl's cookies. My mom sends me and my daughters those on occasion and they are so yummy! Maybe send cookies one day, flowers another, and a card with a gift certificate to her fave place?
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Old 07-06-2019, 07:02 PM
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I think asking close friends/family to send greetings is very sweet.


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Old 07-06-2019, 07:23 PM
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I think it's fine to ask family and friends to send greetings. I don't think I would mention homesickness, just that she's far away and you would like her birthday to be special.

You could order a cake at a local bakery for her to pick up. Or maybe a giftcard for a restaurant so she could have a birthday dinner.
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Old 07-07-2019, 02:36 AM
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I love your plan. If friends and family realize she's so far away and homesick, they may tend to act on it. I like the gift card idea for a restaurant and something delivered each day during her b day week. That is so special.
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Old 07-07-2019, 03:53 AM
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I think it is a fine idea. When my son was in college, I passed out his address with a postage stamp so he got 21 cards/letters on his 21st birthday. These were people that had known him from being a little boy.
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Old 07-07-2019, 07:19 AM
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Are you sure about wiring her $? Wonít she probably end up having to use for rent, food, or gas? (Which I guess does benefit her in the end).
Perhaps a gift card to somewhere for new jeans or an outfit? (Kohlís or other department store? - Not WM or Target since they have groceries)
Just saying, the ďcontrollerĒ may control what is done with cash.
Another vote for Cherylís Cookies.
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Old 07-07-2019, 07:29 AM
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I think it would be lovely to ask friends to send cards. And remember, if you send gift cards, put them in a padded envelope with no fun decorations on the outside. Gift cards get stolen out envelopes all,the time.


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Old 07-07-2019, 07:37 AM
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Maybe these were already mentioned? Perhaps a “care package” of any favorite foods she can’t find where she is? Sending her a favorite DVD? Perhaps a gift card to Amazon or a favorite store? Some homemade brownies? Perhaps several cards enclosing in each a favorite picture of her throughout the years?
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Old 07-07-2019, 11:03 AM
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I was in an abusive marriage thousands of miles from family and one of the things that finally helped me get out was realizing how much connection and support I actually had (he didnít want me to think that) I think asking for cards is a fabulous idea. I also really like the idea of sending pictures and associating them with good memories.

Tiffís Treats sounds perfect, too.

Agreeing with others that money may be controlled by him and probably go into a general account but at the same time when I was struggling to get groceries and my mom would send me super expensive lotions or candles it was actually kind of frustrating. My brother sent me a target gift card once and it was so perfect because I could use it for needed items and a little something for myself too. (On a side note my parents did make it known that when I was ready to leave they would help financially but it had to go to a separate account he had no access to. I eventually took them up on that.)
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Old 07-07-2019, 12:36 PM
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I like your idea of having her friends, etc. send her a card.

I also think the gift card ideas are great, especially if you have the card from a store where she can use it for her personal needs.
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Old 07-07-2019, 12:49 PM
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I like the idea of asking friends etc. to send cards. Idk if these are people you see a lot ( Iím assuming yes since some are church friends) but my mom has success w passing out pre addressed and stamped envelopes/ cards to people when my sis was in college and having ppl send for her bday.

Iíve seen this idea online called a box of sunshine. You put all yellow things in the box. Like yellow chapstick, a yellow keychain, yellow candy etc etc. all small things but the presentation is cute Bc itís all the same color.

Also. My mom used to send me care packages when I was in college and sheíd do a mix of stuff. Magazines, ring dings ( my fav snack), candy, a cute notebook, a book, gym, etc. my dad would usually throw in some $$$ also sometimes a variety of small stuff is fun. You could also individually wrap the items but put them all in the same box so she can unwrap one each day or something.
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Old 07-07-2019, 05:17 PM
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You, my friends, have some amazingly brilliant ideas! Thank you so much!

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