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Old 06-24-2020, 02:55 PM
 
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Have you ever had a parent yell and scream at you for no reason and how did you handle it after?


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Old 06-24-2020, 04:19 PM
 
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Ignore, turn your back, tell her this is inappropriate in a professional setting, walk away.
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Old 06-24-2020, 04:32 PM
 
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Iím sorry this happened to you. Yes, most of us have had our share of crazy parents. This happened on campus?

Since we donít know the details, hereís some generic advice. Write down what happened and email to the principal, vice principal and possibly counselor. You want documentation. Figure out what can be done to ensure your safety, such as refusing to meet with the parent by yourself. Notify the office so the parent isnít let through to your room. Talk to the administrator(s) and get their advice. Plan what to do next time - then follow through and stick to your boundaries. Hopefully this will feel empowering.

The parent was out of control and potentially dangerous. You do not have to accept this. Walk away, you donít even need to say anything.

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Yes. I told them they were out of line and I was leaving the room.

After, I documented the entire conversation and sent it to my P and kept a copy for myself.

Once I actually went to the police station and filed a complaint.

Then I went home and had a stiff drink.
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Old 06-24-2020, 05:35 PM
 
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I would refuse to continue the meeting as others have suggested. It takes guts but you must do that. Begin an anecdotal record right away while your memory is fresh. In some states this parent behavior is illegal and can result in a fine.


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Old 06-24-2020, 09:24 PM
 
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I had a parent scream at me when I was bringing the kids in at the beginning of the day. I sat there stunned, and when she was done I told her she was welcome to go take her concerns to the principal (she was way out of line). Then I turned around and started my day. It was horrible!
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Old 06-24-2020, 10:57 PM
 
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Yikes! In addition to what the others have said, I wouldn't meet with this parent alone, ever. From now on, the principal or assistant principal should need to be present. I'm so sorry that happened to you!
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Old 06-25-2020, 01:52 AM
 
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A father started screaming at me and another teacher in a parent conference. He stood up and banged the table. I called the office and asked for assistance. The principal came to the room and escorted the parent out. It was scary.

I'm sorry that happened.

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Old 06-25-2020, 03:31 AM
 
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Unfortunately, some people are like this. When it happened to me I called the office and asked for the guidance counselor to join us, or anyone else if she wasn't available. As soon as the parent realized that I wouldn't continue without another adult there she calmed down considerably. That's what I was able to do on the spot.
I also have had parents yell and carry on on the phone, and another that yelled in the main office. Those I documented immediately afterwards in an email to my principal. It's very important to make the administration aware as soon as possible.
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Old 06-25-2020, 03:58 AM
 
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All the ideas already mentioned are good ones.

I would also have my phone on record, and be sure to tell the parent he/she is being recorded.


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The idea of recording, with permission, is a new one to me. I would like to try saying something like "for parent meetings, we would like to record our conversations in order to ensure we are catching all the concerns you have and all the goals we both have. Do I have your permission to record?" If they say no then I would have the requirement of having a second person present.
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Old 06-26-2020, 08:15 PM
 
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different states have different rules about the legality of recording people. It would be something good to check for your state.
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Old 06-27-2020, 06:57 AM
 
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Love that advice, especially the wording.
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