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Old 06-28-2020, 05:34 PM
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Several days ago we visited with our long time friends. Our boys grew up together and now they are grown with kids. We thought it would be fun to have a big reunion with at our house and our dear friends agreed. I talked to my DS who was excited to have his family come and then he called his friend to see if they could also make it. DSís friend replied that their outdoor kitchen should be completed soon so instead we should have the dinner at their house. Whaaat?? We were excited to host this event at our house. Im not sure how to respond to his offer. Your advice would be greatly appreciated!


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Make plans to do it again
Old 06-28-2020, 05:42 PM
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I would say thank you, and you hope to get together often so next time that would be great. But say you are looking forward to hosting this time.

Have a great time!
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Old 06-28-2020, 05:51 PM
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Hmmm....outdoor kitchen....could these friends be concerned about appropriate social distancing with this offer to host at their home?
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Old 06-28-2020, 06:00 PM
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My thought as well. Outdoor is key!
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Old 06-28-2020, 06:06 PM
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It sounds like the friend is making a wise and safe offer. Unless you also have an outdoor kitchen? Being indoors with people you donít live with is not a good choice


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Old 06-28-2020, 06:13 PM
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Get together with friends and I don’t have to clean my house. Sounds good to me. Even in non pandemic times I’d jump on the offer.
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Old 06-28-2020, 06:15 PM
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Could it be that they are only comfortable at an outside get together due to the pandemic? Or are you also hosting outside?
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Old 06-28-2020, 06:31 PM
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We would be outdoors at our house too. We dont have an outdoor kitchen but we do have a beautiful backyard and hub’s barbcued rib eye steaks are as good as any high end restaurants. I really think this is about his new outdoor kitchen. Just sayin..

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Old 06-28-2020, 06:38 PM
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Iím sure theyíre excited about the new outdoor kitchen and want to utilize it. I donít see that as a bad or surprising thing.

If youíd prefer to still have it at your house just say so... ďWe are so excited to have everybody over. Husband is going to grill steaks and we canít wait to entertain. We look forward to seeing your new kitchen soon, Iím sure itís amazing!Ē

(If itís not a long drive or there are any other mitigating factors I personally wouldnít mind going to their house or take it personally that they offered. Yes, of course the want sure show off the work they had done to their home. I would as well )
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Old 06-28-2020, 06:56 PM
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I do hope you were planning an outdoor event, anyway. An indoor dinner party is a giant no-no right now.

If you were planning things indoors, and they want to do it outdoors using their outdoor kitchen, then they might be afraid to come to your house because of Covid and are trying to make an offer to make things safer outdoors.

If you were planning on indoors and can't do outdoors (don't have the space outside or whatever), then I'd definitely take them up on their offer and do it there instead.

Stay safe and healthy!


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Old 06-29-2020, 03:55 AM
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The offer was made by DS's friend, not the parents right? I think that's easier to decline.
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Old 06-29-2020, 04:40 AM
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Your son should tell his friend that you all have things already planned for this get-together, but that it would be great to continue the meetings at his place next time.
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Old 06-29-2020, 06:43 AM
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I would take the friend up on their offer. Less work for me!

If the point is to get together and have a big reunion, I don't think it really matters at which house the event happens.
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Old 06-29-2020, 06:55 AM
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I would say "That's really sweet of you to offer, but we'd like to have it here this time, maybe next time!"
I get where you're coming from. It's your invite not theirs. An outdoor bbq is awesome...
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Old 06-29-2020, 08:38 AM
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I agree with everyone who said the keyword...OUTDOORS. We should all want as much air ventilation as possible, so that's safer if you must have this party.

Personally, I wouldn't go myself. A party isn't worth risking my health for a few hours.
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Old 06-29-2020, 09:40 AM
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I'd probably just ask DS to ask his directly friend if there is a reason he wants to host. That could clear it up. Do they have little kids? Maybe they feel like it is easier to have the LOs at their house? Maybe they want to have some drinks? Also maybe they feel like they could have more control over social distancing if it's there? I know I would not be ready for this type of activity yet, so maybe they are trying to figure out the safest way to still participate?
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Old 06-29-2020, 09:53 AM
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Personally I'd be thrilled to have less work to do if they want to host. But since your event is outdoors too and you really want to host, I think it would be fine to tell them that you have already done the planning/getting ready for hosting this time, but you'd love to see the outdoor kitchen and would be happy to go to their house next time. Maybe even plan a date to go there next month or something so it's not just a vague "yeah we'll do that next time" type of offer.
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