I just found out that one of my former co-worker's husband just passed away after a 2 year battle with cancer. I feel like I should go to either the funeral or the viewal since she was so supportive of me and my former team came to my mother's funeral, along with other coworkers. My dilema stems from having to see my former principal and the teacher that took my position. I still have so much hurt and anger over the situation and it will be hard to see everyone that I used to work with. I will have to go to this alone too.
This is about supporting your former co-worker, and it will mean a lot to her that you are there. You might not be at the viewing at the same time as your former P- people come and go and don't usually stay for the whole viewing. If you get there near the beginning, you can pay your respects and leave whenever you become uncomfortable. If he is already there, you are allowed to ignore him. But go there for your friend.
I would go 2 support her and not worry about running into your principal and the other teacher. If you are that uncomfortable go visit the coworker at her house
If it were me, I would go and just distance myself from those that made me feel uncomfortable. The funeral is for closure for the deceased person's loved ones. Just keep focusing on why you are there and try to block out the rest of them. Giving support to a friend during a very difficult time is so much more important than anything that happened in a past job. Your former co-worker will appreciate your support!
You need to go and support your friend. Chances are if you go to the viewing your former principal and the other teacher won't be there at the same time. Even if either are there at the same time just hold your head up and support your friend and ignore them.
go right at the time you think the people who you'd like to avoid will be there. Talk with your friend, take a card with a personal message.
I had a co-worker who had a death in her family this year, and I didn't go to the viewing (I knew there had been family drama and I didn't know if I should go, or if I would be intruding) and I totally regret not going to support her.
I think that I will go to the viewal and hope that they go at a different time.
I just hate the questions about what I am doing, will I sub this year have I had any interviews etc. I am finally able to go out in public without breaking into tears. At least tears will be appropriate at this time.
It's important to support her at this traumatic time. Even if you must interact briefly with your former P, your discomfort is not the issue here. Your friend will be grateful you came.
I think you should go. As someone said, you don't have to socialize. I would greet and shake hands with the ones you come into contact with and go on. Be the bigger person. Besides being there for your friend, it might help your situation too. You don't have to answer questions, and likely they will not ask them anyway. Don't you have a neighbor, friend from church, or relative you could snatch up to go with you? Regardless, go in, pay your respects, then leave.
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07-25-2012, 07:24 PM
