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"Are you done yet?" said my husband...
Old 08-05-2011, 10:20 AM
 
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Today was day 5 of going into my room and he asked me on the way to school (phone call), "are you done yet? I just don't get how you can go into work and not get paid. Why does it take days to get your room set up?"

He has NO idea I wouuld MUCH rather get my room done and all set up and use the teacher workdays before to plan and such. I have seen too many teachers "throw" stuff up and scramble all around before the kids come...and really, we don't have that much time to work in our rooms with meetings, plc's and such....

So I told him...yes babe, I am ALMOST done


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Old 08-05-2011, 10:35 AM
 
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I've done this for 26 years and my husband still doesn't get it.
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shaking head....
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:-) I think all the husbands must be the same!
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There was nothing else you could have told him.

My husband has no idea either. He thinks I spend the time visiting with others.
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Old 08-05-2011, 10:42 AM
 
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Definitely a "yes, dear" moment!

Mine has learned not to ask!


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They're clueless!
Old 08-05-2011, 10:48 AM
 
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Just had to figure out that this is my 17th year setting up a classroom and I get the same question every year...& multiple times each year. Sometimes I really want to ask him if he's learning impaired.

Clueless Husband: Are you done yet?
Teacher Wife: In May, dear.
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one of the lucky ones
Old 08-05-2011, 10:50 AM
 
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I'm one of the lucky ones. My husband is also in education. He spends as much time preparing for his Varsity soccer season "off the clock" that I spend on my room so I don't get that question from him. We have a mutual understanding and respect for each other and the time it takes to prepare for our respective "classrooms".
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Old 08-05-2011, 10:57 AM
 
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My Hubs is the same way. Like I told him, BOTH of his parents were teachers and he was fool enough to marry one!!
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Old 08-05-2011, 11:04 AM
 
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Luckily after a kagillion years of marriage and teaching, my husband understands. I won't go in early though. I keep every day of summer for myself. I just end up staying late and possibly giving up a weekend day to get it all set. Taking pictures of my room each year also helps to get everything in it's place. I have over 16 boxes of books to unpack - not too hard as they were packed according to shelves but I'm labeling them with AR stickers this year so it will take longer. They won't officially own me until Aug. 15.
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Old 08-05-2011, 11:12 AM
 
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No husband has a clue of how much time it takes to complete the classroom. I think it is funny.

But atleast you started. I have tons of stuff at home ready to go but have not been at school yet. I keep telling myself I have to go! Guess Monday is the day! UGH!

Glad you are almost done.


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Old 08-05-2011, 11:13 AM
 
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My DH doesn't get it either. He also doesn't understand how I can get to school an hour early and stay an hour late. This year my son is playing football at the school I teach at. His practice starts at 7:30 and ends at 10:30 so I have an excuse to be there 3 days a week for 3 hours. Next week even longer practice
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Just the other day
Old 08-05-2011, 11:24 AM
 
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my DH asked, "how much time can it take? There's not that much to do." Are you kidding me?!? So, I started listing off everything I had done just that day. He stopped me mid-sentence with, "Never mind."
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Old 08-05-2011, 11:26 AM
 
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It is EXACTLY what my lovely DH says! He just cannot fathom our passion!
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Old 08-05-2011, 11:39 AM
 
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There needs to be a my-wife-is-a-dedicated-teacher-but-I-don't-get-it support group for our hubbys!
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Old 08-05-2011, 11:45 AM
 
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My husband periodically asks me what happened to all the stuff I made last year and the years before that. He wonders why I always have to make new stuff and can't just use all my old stuff. After seeing all the new stuff in my spare bedroom this summer he also jokingly asked if I got a bigger classroom this year.
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This is the one that gets me every time:
Old 08-05-2011, 11:49 AM
 
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"What did you do today?" asks the husband.
My reply- "I organized my desks."
"Then what did you do?"
"I rearranged them again", I say.
"Why would you do that?", he asks.

Why indeed. , He has no clue what it takes.
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Ugh!
Old 08-05-2011, 11:52 AM
 
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My MIL was a teacher (now retired) and she asked me the same question! Are you getting paid for all these days? NO but yes...

I can't teach if I am not totally organized and there is a process to my organization! I need the room finished before I can plan.

I am almost there!
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LOVE it
Old 08-05-2011, 11:53 AM
 
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YES Zoie...they need a support group!

I too need the room 100% ready before I can plan...otherwise I am thinking of xyz while trying to plan and that is no good!
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Old 08-05-2011, 12:05 PM
 
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I understand. This is my 30th year and I have changed grades and my husband thinks that surely my now I wouldn't have to go in early. But I can turn it around on him. He farms. "So why does you spend time getting ready for harvest?" He doesn't say too much after that but something is said every year.
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I second the support group!!!

DH swears I am the ONLY teacher that spends her own money on her classroom and that works at home during the summer and they year on EXTRAS for her classroom.

I told him to just get on PT
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Old 08-05-2011, 12:31 PM
 
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Girls I will join the group immediately, my DH is always telling me why I have to spend a lot in my room?????????? He just doesn't get it, well
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He just gives me a disgusted look when I tell him "Yes, I am going back to work on my Bloom bubbles, Marzano clouds, and my games of place value uh-oh!"

I told him my goal was to have my room organized this week, planning next week, take the following week off (during the fair) to thoroughly clean my house before starting with inservice on the 22nd.

I may need a few more days to organize!
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I, too, am the same way about wanting to get my room set-up and reorganized, etc. You are a PT teacher!
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My husband is starting to get it. He just doesn't ask anymore. He has had to help me with my room before because I had hurt my back and couldnt move heavy stuff. So, he was able to experience some of it.

However, the REST of his family doesn't get it. They don't get I can't just take a day off, why I might not be able to jet off to Disney World in the beginning of December, etc. It's VERY frustrating. My family gets it because my mom is a teacher...but DH's? notsomuch. They don't get the paperwork end of things, the 'homework' I get, and the work done during the summer. I'll be bringing my laptop and some books with me to our family vacation with me when we leave tomorrow. They don't get that I will take time to do work even though it's vacation for us (its' a family vacation we take *every* year since there's a family house there). They see me do it every year, and yet, I still get jabs for it. Really?

8 summers and they still dont get it. Some never will.
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If our spouses
Old 08-05-2011, 01:14 PM
 
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who witness us, year after year, dance this same dance, it's no wonder the public doesn't understand what it takes to get a room up and running, much less maintain it day after day.
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So true
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About family members, they do not get teachers. So, I am teaching a two week transitional Kindergarten class. It is for the kiddos who have not had preschool, and will be entering kindergarten. My DH texts me this morning around nine to ask me what I was doing this morning. Did not even respond to his text. Like i am teaching! My room is set up nicely for this two week class, however, I will move the furniture Around for the new school year. I know my DH will ask why I am still working in my room after this class is done. oMG...
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So glad my dh teaches!
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My husband has been a teacher for 18 years. He gets it Yay! We have a classroom budget set aside, it isn't much, it is helpful though.
My family, not so much My mom and dad really want us to go on vacations in the middle of the year, with my siblings families. They aren't mean about it, but I know the feel a bit frustrated about it.
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Husbands! I'm going into my 26th year and my DH knows not to say a word. I plan to go in every day next week for a few hours. Once, and only once, he said to me, "How can you be tired? You only work until 3:00!" He NEVER said that again.
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I wonder how many of the people who are so quick to criticize educators would put in as much unpaid time as we do, spend as much out of pocket money as we do and would be content with no paid holidays. It always amazes me that people think we get paid for our time off in the summer. The fact is I get no paid holidays. My contract is for x amount of dollars per day for the 191 days I am contracted. Even our custodians get some paid holidays but not teachers. (-:
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I was reading some of these
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posts to my dh and he just shook his head. He told me to go next week (I don't have to be there til Friday) and knock myself out and put more pressure on myself. He doesn't get it either. I'm taking pressure OFF myself by giving myself more than 2 days to prepare my classroom. I've been doing this for 20 years.....
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I don't have that problem as my husband and son are teachers. He comes and helps as well.
Today (Saturday) and we are in school not holidays is off to clean his desk in his office as he is deputy for the rest of the year. I said that's fine. Nobody in the general public can understand where our time goes... I sometimes wonder why it takes me so long to organize things.
Pity the public doesn't understand. I wonder where the 9-3 job tag comes from. I wish they would spend a day with me. My advice ask husbands or partners to come and help.
My belief is to do what suits you
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It always amazes me that people think we get paid for our time off in the summer. The fact is I get no paid holidays. My contract is for x amount of dollars per day for the 191 days I am contracted. Even our custodians get some paid holidays but not teachers.
No kidding.

My husband taught school last year, so he gets it...sort of....he still wonders why I work on lesson plans late at night and want to stay late in the afternoon. It was great when he coached basketball, because for a few weeks (months), I got 5 extra hours in my room (can you say almost another whole school day?!?)...I was SO on top of things during basketball season....but it was terrible getting home at 8:30pm!!
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could have written this post. I have not even gone into my room yet and am itching to get in there. THe problem I am having is

it is HOT and I have NO air conditioning (besides my room is on the 3rd floor imagine how hot it is.

DH works 3pm-11pm (he is a policeman) and I would need to get up early and go in and work until 1:15/1:30 so I could be home before he leaves (we have a 6 year old daughter). WHen I get started on something I like to keep at it in order to feel like I have accomplished something.

If I take my daughter with me I don't get anything done because nothing keeps her attention for too long.

I am planning on going in next week and getting started.

I hear you on the whole needing to have room set up before meeting week to do plans.

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My fiance told me just the other night (as I was telling him something that happened at a workshop) that he was sick of hearing about school. He said I didn't take any time off this summer. He said everyday I was working on something for school or online looking for ideas for school. He told me he now understands why I get migranes, because according to him, I never relax I am always thinking or doing something for school.
Surprisingly he did say he would come help me at school this afternoon, but due to the mold and the clean up they needed to do, we had to be out of the building 15 minutes after he arrived. I guess I will be very busy the next few days, since school starts Thursday and we have meetings M-W.
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I guess I am lucky- my husband knows that the more time I spend in my room- the better I feel and the happier I am

He will drive all over to find things with me and sometimes even suggests things I wouldn't have thought of. He does wish I would go with the new monsters stuff and have a theme

He knows that the week or two before school starts and the week or two after are my heavy work times. Gosh I love him!
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