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Old 01-16-2021, 12:42 PM
 
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As you know, having a challenging year.
It's getting a bit better and getting my mojo back.

Have a colleague at another school who constantly emails what she is doing with her classes.
Every little website; every little activity.
Appreciate her sharing resources and I DO say "Thank You."

But she seems to want so much credit and accolades.
Plus, she CC's the administrators whenever she shares something.

Here's the rub: Whenever I share a resource or a book, she always replies, "Oh! I know about that and I've used it with my classes many times already."

When she shares a resource, she says "Here's a resource that I found and that I am sharing with you."
Her emails are filled with I, I, I.

UGH!

I shared a resource that I spent a lot of time making.
She said, "Oh! I make those all the time."

Well. toot! toot! tootie! toot!


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Old 01-16-2021, 12:51 PM
 
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Simple. Stop sharing, continue saying, “thank you” and delete the resource and move on.

She’s looking for accolades.

Don’t allow her to take more real estate in you head. It’s simply not worth it.
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Yep. Greyhound girl is right on the money. Say thankyou because you are a well brought up person, but don't engage with the nonsense otherwise. Don't share your stuff as it is obvious she doesn't want it.
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Old 01-16-2021, 01:27 PM
 
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Totally agree with advice given. I would go a step further because I wish I had done more to advocate for myself in the past. I would thank her for sharing but say something about I’ve got it handled now. I really don’t have time for additional resources. Hope you have a good rest of the school year. Goodbye.

This person is in it to look good. You can only control your response. I would set that boundary and not spend another second on her!

There’s tons of stuff online. You don’t need her.

Good luck!!
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Old 01-16-2021, 01:50 PM
 
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I'd respond just once saying...oh I have seen and used that before. Thanks!


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So, perhaps I'm a bad person, but at some point I'd start giving her a taste of her own medicine. I'd reply every time, "reply all" since she insists on cc'ing admin, something like, "Oh, that's so nice of you to share. I've used this/something like this for years and really enjoy it."
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Old 01-16-2021, 03:28 PM
 
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I'd reply every time, "reply all" since she insists on cc'ing admin, something like, "Oh, that's so nice of you to share. I've used this/something like this for years and really enjoy it."
If at all possible, let's take this bit of advice a step further...

Hit reply all, and say something like, "I used to use this, but the research it was based upon has been found to be largely ineffective for students learning this skill."

Or hit reply and write, "Why are you CCing admin on every resource you share with me? I'm sure (admin name) is too busy to review every share. From now on, please leave him/her off your email to spare his/her time."

Can you tell that sometimes I just like to say NO to filters?
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Love the responses!
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Maybe she’s on an improvement plan and was told she needs to be more collaborative.

If she was asked to share, for whatever reason, she might be copying to show she is doing what she was asked.

I edited this after reading other posts. Just keep playing nice, without the CC or reply all.

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Old 01-16-2021, 04:06 PM
 
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She does sound like a difficult colleague.

Is there any chance that she has been asked/told by administrators to send you resources? Asked to assist you? If that's the case, she might feel she should copy them so they know she's complying. Otherwise, she's just being unkind and a total jerk. Keep thanking her and don't share any more of your lessons. No need to give her an opportunity to be rude.
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Old 01-16-2021, 06:17 PM
 
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She sounds insecure and needy.


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Old 01-16-2021, 06:46 PM
 
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I will say that I’m one of those people that’s absolutely against “reply all” or cc’ing admin.

Reply all pisses me off and I refuse to get down in the mud by cc’ing admin.

Honestly, be the bigger person and rise above both those things.
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Old 01-16-2021, 07:19 PM
 
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I made a special folder named ArchiveMail. I create a rule for my email to send annoying colleagues' emails directly to that so they don't go to my Inbox. Then, I look at my ArchiveMail box every few days to see what's there. I don't need daily reminders that I ought to be a cookie cutter teacher like some of my colleagues think I should.

The 'reply all' option would fuel the satisfaction of the person sending you the emails. I wouldn't go there either.
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Old 01-17-2021, 09:23 AM
 
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I agree with Greyhound Girl. "Reply all" used the way your colleague does it is irritating as H***. If your admin is okay with that, shame on them. I would ask her why she CC's them. I'd do that in person. She sounds irritating and any admin worth their salt doesn't have time for that nonsense.

As far as her emails. Take what's good and delete what isn't helpful to you. Use it to your advantage. Don't stoop to her level. I also wouldn't go out of my way to share with her since she seems to already know everything.

I used to feel defensive about people like this. Over the years, I've adopted the attitude that if they want to knock themselves out being a bright, shiny star, then go for it. I am going to quietly do a good job, go home and enjoy my life.
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Old 01-17-2021, 10:28 AM
 
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She reminds me of some teachers in my board who are always tweeting what they have done with their classes, making sure to tag the board, school board members, superintendents, even the director.

I would do what others have suggested. Say thank you, say you have done it before, then move on.
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Old 01-17-2021, 10:35 AM
 
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BookGeek, I really appreciate you
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Old 01-17-2021, 05:17 PM
 
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Thanks- I'm not everyone's cup of tea.

What I suggested was likely fantasy for me, but don't we all want to just do it sometimes, and consequences be damned?
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Old 01-18-2021, 11:35 AM
 
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My husband is friends with the Superintendent and principal of another district, and he said they make fun of a teacher the three of them all know for doing exactly these types of behaviors. They know she posts and tags on Facebook for the recognition and accolades, and I'm sure your administration does as well and rolls their eyes when her emails arrive!
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Don't feed the beast.
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Simple. Stop sharing, continue saying, “thank you” and delete the resource and move on.
Don't respond or even say thank you.

Forget about sharing since she's clearly signaled she's not interested in your suggestions.

Don't feed the beast.

Ignore her.
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She sounds really insecure and needy. I would stop responding to her.
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She also sounds like the type to share your resources with others, claiming them as hers.
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