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Old 02-18-2014, 12:50 PM
 
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And the drama continues…I'm at a school and a grade level that
I like. However, the team hazing has really got me down. It is
sad when grown women resort to snickering about other teachers, deliberately leaving teachers out of important information, rolling eyes at another teachers ideas or what they wear (too dressy for work), and gossiping..gossiping..gossiping ! I'm trying to stick it out and not let it be a decision factor in me coming back next year, but I don't know…none of these "MEan girls" are planning to leave and no matter what my family (that I share my work stories with) says Your team DOES make a difference, even if you're in your room with the door closed teaching…it still makes a difference in your happiness. Thanks for letting me get that out.


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Is there another grade level
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in that school that you could move to next year. Yes, you are right about the negative effect it has on you. It could end up having physical, medical problems from the stress.

Maybe if even one left it would change the dynamics of the group and it would be better. Other than that, life is too short to live in a situation like that.

Good luck.
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One of the many reasons I don't miss teaching. It's usually not the kids but, grown ups with cliques and cattiness. I do understand the loneliness, and can only send you ((((((hugs)))))). Please take care of yourself. Without the support of your team, you need too look out for your best interests. You may want to get the really important information from a special educator, specialist, or school secetary. I wish you the best.
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That's Terrible!
Old 02-18-2014, 01:24 PM
 
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I am so sorry that is happening to you! That is bullying, and they need to be stopped. But, being new, you need to get away from it because you can't solve it yet. A different grade might be the answer. If I was at your school I would be nice to you, I promise! Not all schools are like that. Sending hugs that you find a placement where you are treated the way you deserve to be treated.
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I changed grade levels because of that
Old 02-18-2014, 03:45 PM
 
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One teacher left, and I moved back. It's all good now. I hope you can find some peace.


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I feel your pain
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I've been there and the only good thing that came out of it was my realization of how horrible it must be for a child to be bullied. I dealt with one major bully for several years until she found a new target. Then we got a new P and I reported her for bullying the other teacher and..... the new P understood AND the bully got a grade level change. I don't know what to tell you.
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Old 02-18-2014, 05:47 PM
 
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Is your P part of the "mean girls"? I know our P encourages and contributes to "mean girl" behavior. It isn't fun and I understand you reasons for wanting to get out.
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I agree with you. I think "mean girls" can create such a negative environment that as soon as you drive up to your school, you feel the energy being sucked out of you.
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My "P" is a he…I've been tempted to let him know what's going on, but I'm sure he has bigger fish to fry so I'd hate to be "whiny. I will just continue on and complete the days I have left, I've prayed on it and I'm just hoping it will get better. Thanks again for reading...
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Old 02-18-2014, 10:11 PM
 
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Ha! Are you at my school!?!?! Luckily things are getting a little bit better at my school, but I actually had to tell the principal that I wasn't the one engaging in these behaviors or provoking them although they were happening right in front of me at inappropriate times when I was required to be around fellow staff members. This has helped that stuff calm down, as I try to keep to myself....


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My P is a he
Old 02-19-2014, 04:37 AM
 
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My P is a he and he contributes to the mean girl behavior!

He thinks it is funny...
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Old 02-19-2014, 10:48 AM
 
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We have a group of "Mean Girls" at our school and unfortunately our P is one of them. It's almost as if they are the popular, mean clique and nearly every other staff member is a social outcast.
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Old 02-19-2014, 11:57 AM
 
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It would be very unlikely for you P to not already know...I think he is just not letting you know he knows.
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((hugs))
Old 02-21-2014, 08:23 PM
 
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Hopefully, it will get better.
But, speaking from experience you just need to let it go and do your own great teaching.
Just remember that you are there to teach the students. I share my ideas which are often tossed aside. But, once my ideas are shared then I go ahead and do things my way in my classroom.
Remember also that teaching is a highly competitive field. Every teacher is after the same promotion, stipend and recognition.
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Old 02-27-2014, 05:07 PM
 
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I had a similar experience. My first year of teaching I taught in an AWFUL school. I mean, the stuff of nightmares. The children had no family support, the admin was two-faced and incompotent and the parents sent their kids to school with knives or fought bus drivers. But the worst were fellow teachers. As a new teacher and only 23 years old, I was an easy target. I had teachers rat me out to my supervisor on things that I didn't even do, tell me I was crazy, badmouth to my own students and laugh at my appearance. I got so wrapped up in it that I truly believed it was all me. Once I changed to a normal, sane school it really opened my eyes. You are so right that the team makes a big difference! You have every right to consider another school if the possibility arises.
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