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Old 09-29-2020, 09:43 AM
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My friend and I had plans to go see her DS at college this weekend. I was so looking forward to seeing him. Something came up and she cancelled (that's another story). She asked about next weekend. Nope. I have to quarantine for my surgery. She asked about the weekend after. Nope. I'm going to be 4 days post surgery. I'm not going to commit to sitting in a car for 3 hours both ways, walking a campus, being around college kids who haven't been following social distancing and masking, etc.

She made a big deal of the fact that she was fine 5 days after her gallbladder. BFD. I was fine 3 days after my gallbladder. Totally different surgery. This one is way more involved. I will not feel guilty for saying "no". She can make this weekend work or she can go by herself (which bums me out).


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Old 09-29-2020, 09:45 AM
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Take care of yourself. If she changes the plans, then she gets the consequences.
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Old 09-29-2020, 09:48 AM
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A friend should not put other friends in this position. You did not cancel the original visit, she did. You need to take care of yourself before and after your surgery.I am sorry you may have to miss seeing him, but this is on her, not you. Good luck with your procedure.
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Old 09-29-2020, 09:55 AM
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Things come up or as I say...sh!t happens!

You are right. She needs to get over it!
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Old 09-29-2020, 10:08 AM
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I feel like I'm being punished too because I really wanted to go (insert whiny voice here ).


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Old 09-29-2020, 10:29 AM
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Iím sorry your friend isnít more understanding. Iím loving that most people are extremely respectful of my Covid precautions. Do whatís best for you.
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Old 09-29-2020, 12:18 PM
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for yourself. I applaud you for not caving--something I do a lot! Hang in there and good luck on your surgery. Are your mom and dad coming to hang with you while you recuperate at home?
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Old 09-29-2020, 12:34 PM
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My mom is coming. My dad is staying home. He has a walking cast on his foot and he won't be able to do my steps to the basement. It'll be nice for my mom and I to have some alone time. She's going to cook for me.

And, as a side funny, she asked what treats she should bring for Aikman. She's come so far from my first dog.
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Old 09-29-2020, 12:57 PM
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I'm proud of you for staying strong but it really is unfortunate. I think you've made the right decision but it's so frustrating because it sounds like you were really looking forward to visiting your friend's son. It's hard when you were looking forward to something nad then it's not happening.
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Old 09-29-2020, 03:37 PM
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First, I bet her gallbladder surgery was also not during a pandemic

Second, you're right, don't feel guilty. I'm really not one to worry about getting sick, but given what you said and the pandemic, I agree with you 100%. Stay home.


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Old 09-29-2020, 04:32 PM
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She's the one who changed the plans, so she'll have to deal with it! It so irritates me when you tell someone no, give them a good reason and then they try to convince you that you can still do it!

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Old 09-29-2020, 08:14 PM
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You are doing the right thing for you. I am sorry you won't get to see her soon but you can go at another time. I am glad you are taking care of yourself.
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